One Day at a time!

 It is Friday, November 21st-- a bit over a month , till Christmas-

I just had a phone call from Son#2 , who is now in Zurich, Switzerland---flew all night---He says he hears the music from , "The Sound of Music""------"The hills are alive with the sound of music""--even sang that last sentence to me--the sound of music ---song------

He says the weather is a lot like here-

-below--- a "Blast from the past"--a nice picture of son#2, way back when----with his Dad--

and another old picture of the 3 boys--with their Dad

Yesterday I stopped at the clinic--had the sutures removed from my hair line--Thy have not told me yet if  what they cut out was malignant or not--  There were only 2 sutures--So, I think I have had all the tests done that the Doctor had ordered when I returned to Elliot Lake from Lakefield where I did not have a Doctor--Man oh man, when one does not have a Doctor, your body just falls apart!

It is 7-10am--still quite dark here--just beginning to see a bit of light-- Lopez must be walked

So, I hope your day goes well--Remember--

"Stick to your guns"

Mom and Dad always told me that----

Remember--#1.. ""If you do not feel old. Then you are not___ 

#2. The smallest deed iS better than the grandest intention--

$3.-At the end,  we all mend!

and Lopez and I best "hit the road"--

I hope that your day is  fabulous! -and if it doesn't feel that way, make it that way!

--

Better than it could be!-----always--

It is Thursday, Nov. 20th-- dark--cold--I am up--because I have to go for breakfast with a friend--then---get to the clinic and get my couple of sutures out--then the Pharmacy for my pill pack--and before all that--get little Lopez out- to do his business-- 

Yesterday was the Bereavement Course-----and of course, it was so good--sad--lots of tears--but--it is helping-- --very time consuming  tho--

Last night I drove out to Son#1's house--had supper   with them , and made it back here just before dark.

I do hope that "your" day-"-to-day"--is the best ever----Make it that way--I will not add too much here yet--as it is going to be a very busy morning--and I must get little Lopez out--and I hear Sushi yodelling upstairs for her breakfast--Lory Be!----never a dull moment here--  

                                                 BUT--------

                      #1.  "share your sorrow with a friend-"(-a wee word of wisdom however before I go--)--and---a blast from the past--

            Son#2 with Son#4 who had just broken his arm--at school--His  Father was VERY upset--so----remember -----Life is always  better even when it is not good sometimes--

Let whoever think whatever--

                    To-day is Wednesday, November, 19th-- and-----It is cold!!-no snow falling, but VERY COLD!-----I tip toed down here  about 5am--turned up the wee furnace--but, it still feels kinda cold inside here--I have hopes that this tiny place  will warm up  soon!

To-day I have the Bereavement  and Grief  clinic-----11am to 3pm--It seems there is always something--Yesterday, 2 Drs appointments-- about the Thyroid  and the Heart--I will be so happy when all these appointments are over-- and I can get my life back!

                                        a Blast from the past--

                            It must've been someone's Birthday that we were celebrating-

We are all there---

The 2 young girls below are now in University--Tempus Fugit!--(Time flies!)

This am I have the Bereavement Course--till 3pm--  then must get my sutures out at the hospital--like maybe 2 sutures--

So, I am counting on all of yu to  make to-day a great day--  are you happy and you know it?--Can you clap your hands if you are?---

Ah__THOSE GOOD OLD days!--Did you ever dream that we would grow older than old??-- I knew it would happen one day but I never gave it much thought--never ever thought of how lonely it would be without my husband!- Think of all the people you know, who have lost their spouse!----Maybe give them a phone call and/or  invite them over-- or--take them out--justa idea!~

                                                    So----  Words of Wisdom---

#1-KEEP YOUR SOUL YOUNG

#2-Age is only important if you are cheese-

#3-Let MEMORIES  STRENGTHEN YOU!

Time to get wee Lopez Out into the cold--I hope that your day is great! If it isn't--make it that way--

"Don't Be Weird!"

 

Good Morning--Tuesday, November 18th--Lordy Be--such a busy morning--  with 2 hospital appointments at 2pm---  Lopez and Sushi are up here, staring at me--  like--  "What do we do next?"---I see it in their faces-- 

 Mornings are busy here--the wash and dryer--the bed --the animals to feed--the vacuum with the litter--and now 2 Drs appointments--plus it feels quite cold outside!--

  Below--  It says below  that I am a spirit having a physical appearance--  Hmmm--Some people believe that when one dies they do become a "spirit"--  What do you think about that??--

Last evening I took the garbage up to where we used to live--so much kitty litter--What do all of you with cats, do with the soiled litter?--=I find it fills up my kitchen garbage here.--And of course . last night, I stopped in to see Son#1--in fact had supper there--drove back before dark--It is hard to eat alone--Do any of you find that?--so much nicer to eat with other people--

Words of Wisdom--or--"Words I wish I'd wrote!"

#1. "Take The Stairs!"

#2.-"The sky is the same colour wherever you go---

#3.Never doubt an opinion made from the heart--

#4--Long faces make short lives-

             and-- blasts from the past--below--

Son#2's wee daughter  (now finished  University)--myself and Willow--=and below -=-Son#2 the pilot, with his friend, another Air Canada Pilot--

                            and, below--a very old picture of "me"-- -I think in high school--

        So, how is your day going?--Are yu feeling strong??--ready to face a new day??-

                    It does help to have  friends--  Friendship Matters--Big Time--

                            

-                                Some days are easier to face--than others aren't they??

                                                I hope your day is good---

                                I hope there is only tears of joy!

Be Positive, Happy, Bold. Loving, Confident, Generous---

 Good Morning to you---To-day is  Monday, November 17th--smile--Believe in yourself!

It is cold--kinda dismal out there--but--I do see the sun , WAY_E_E_EE over there--Lopez and I have to "hit the road" soon--The wash is nearly done-- Sushi is fed--and her litter cleaned up--That is always quite a job in the morning----enough to put one off having a cat--but--I found her--  Remember??--She was eating birdseed on our deck--and she was a wee small kitten--less than 6 mos old--I had to trap her and she lived under Fred's side of the bed for a good 6 mos----Life is tough when there are thousands of cats out there--and a lot without a home!--oh--The wash is done--

I did go out to Son#1's house last evening_AGAIN!__This time however, I did drive home just before the darkness hit!---  When I drove into our driveway, it was dark however--no snow falling tho! I did meet a friend of our family. yesterday for lunch also----at Tim Hortons--I had never been inside 

"Timmys" before--Lotza people eating in there--and they have a huge menu--

Below---my tiny table and chairs--kinda cute!

So, are you"HAPPY" this AM?--You do know that there are many days that one must "fake" it--till you make it""_- I mean, pretend to be happy, because it's better than feeling sad--

Let's rethink "OLD"--When I was 70, my Mom was 92--so I was still sorta a kid--It's all in the way one thinks isn't it??--If you feel young, you probably ARE young!

"Words of Wisdom"

#1---No one but yourself can be blamed for the loss of your soul   

#2--Your mirror will tell you what none of your friends will  not                                  

and--#3---Tears are AGENTS OF HEALING

a blast from the past--

And , below--just look at Son#2's wee daughter-Hannah---my heart goes out to her--Now--finished University-

Hannah below--a tad older--with Grampa and I-- walking dogs

I must stop  here---  get Lopez out--  and some house-y stuff done--It's a new day--and here we are-a part of it!

Remember---to-day---to be---

 

 

 

-and we have snow falling--

            To-day is Sunday--Nov. 16th----"Bed changing Day" -

Snow is lightly falling outside--7-15am---still dark out there----Lopez and I have NOT been out yet--  but--we will be soon--Early mornings are busy here--pills to lay out--for me---  animals to feed-- litter to get rid of--the vacuum to push around--'specially around the litter box-----so- I shall leave you for a bit and get the above chores done--but--I shall return------maybe do your chores and return--(Please DO NOT CALL THE AUTHORITIES!)

BACK Home!------Lopez walked--in the snow--and wind--He kept trying to return home--  I'm sure the wind  and snow was quite a shock to the wee fellow, but--we persevered--and --HE DID HIS BUSINESS--so----  we are back home-- Poor little fellow--One good thing--There was no-one else out there!

Last night I drove out to Son#1's place--  Coming back home was a bit of a challenge--pitch dark--- no-one else on the road--with fog--  I followed Son#1's wife's vehicle----made it home here--I can see tho, that I may not be going out there as much now that it is wintery-

This morning, I am meeting one of Son#1's friends for lunch-- at Tim Horton's- He lives alone and must find it difficult to eat alone--so, I am to meet him there-- The roads are quite icey--have to drive carefully-

"Words of Wisdom!"

                        #1.---Do not count too much on friends--(oh oh----coz I do!)

#2.-He who sows courtesy , reaps friendship

            #3--Banish the word-"cannot"  from your vocabulary

"Blasts from the past--"

Fred---- master of ceremonies at someone's wedding

lots of snow--  lots of dogs

You got to love Santa !

But--  the most important thing to-day--to believe  that WE are strong--No weeping, because we CAN DO WHATEVER WE WANT TO DO--  if we believe we can!

"Too Dam Crazy Out There-"

To-day is Saturday November 15th- no snow falling--but it seems cold--even in the tiny house here--I need to keep pushing the thermostat on my weird little stove here--get that heat upstairs-Sushi-is upstairs on the bed--

                        Everyone needs a hug in the morning--

--Words of wisdom-

#1.  You can! 

 #2.Place a high value on yourself and then prove that you are worth it!

#3.-Welcome  change---(hard to do at times)-

It is still dark outside---hard to get up in the dark-'specially when it is so cold-- but, it pays off as the day progresses--I have to get the wash machine going--get that stove turned up here--Last night I decided to just "veg" here at home, on the sofa, in front of the TV--with CNN on--and Lopez curled up on my chest--It had been a busy day and  I just needed to rest----Do you find that??

Winter clothing has had to be dragged out-- made to fit in these tiny closets--boots--mitts--and the summer wear --with no basement.   I used to store so much in our basement. Those days are gone!

And last night the drive back from the lake was in the dark--and I did it----not much traffic which was good and the lights on the car were on "auto dimming " etc--

Life certainly has changed  for me--and it all seems Ok-- It is amazing how one does adapt to what one has to, as one ages--

                                    Well, I do feel that old without  the man who I loved! ----

Are you feeling strong?--

Do you worry a lot?

So--a new day--

and I shall make the best of it?--  The wash machine must get going here-- and Lopez and I must get outside--"Keep our chin up" as Dad used to say-- Christmas is coming-- Some kind of decorations must go up--  Presents?----   money-??----or gifts-??---for the Grandkids--??    and what on earth will Fred be doing in Heaven over Xmas??--Do you have someone "DEAR" to you up there with him?--so so much to think about--

so much "change"----SO-

Too Dam Crazy Out There!

Well--I just cannot forget--"A Blast from the past"

Allison--our daughter --in white wedding dress

and there I am---back row--  on far rt with my Mom and Dad and sisters and brothers
OK--Get on with yer day--

A NAP is a MINI SLEEP VACATION FROM LIFE!

Where has the time gone ???

To-day is Friday, November 14th--We have sunshine--cold temperatures--Lopez and I have been out--HE DID HIS BUSINESS!!! and---  guess what?----Son#2 , the Pilot called (this morning)--and---  will be staying here for a pre Christmas visit, the end  of this month--Can you believe that??--I do have a spare bedroom, fully furnished--brand new--Queen sized bed and all--so exciting!!--

                            

                      So--  this AM., "Words of Wisdom"---

      #1. Kids need more hugs than they need more things"--

      #2--People who were happy as children tend to be happy as adults-

      #3--Have patience with yourself!

                

                This --the above picture--was the sunrise this AM---

                                        ---------so so pretty---

                     and the new tiny dining table--

Isn't it just the cutest table?--

So---as each day passes---life continues on--

Lopez and I walked earlier--AND IT WAS ICEY---even wearing my winter boots, it was very slippery--

So--Life just goes on and on--I have made some new friends--people who have lost their partner--same as me--I have learned that "death"--"Dying"---  is a normal part of life--not a very nice thing for sure--but-- you know, the children who are left here with me, are VERY helpful--Maybe that is why we have children eh?---something to think about--

SO---- WE carry on--- try to cope----try to be happy--  try to be strong and believe that life is happening the way it should--Accept the "good" -- love the children--and the pets--and the people we meet along the way--AND,  OF COURSE---  WE ARE STRONG-----

and------  Naps  are our friend!

Everything is alright in the end----usually!

To-day is Thursday, November 13th--- and it's about 7-30am--no snow falling --yet--hopefully not at all to-day--but--it must be cold outside--It looks cold!

So yesterday, I attended the first Bereavement  Course---at the hospital--There were maybe 12 to 15 of us-- old people--(like me)--mostly all women--like  me--one man--a young  man--There were 4 leaders--  We were a lot of tears as we shared our stories--The leaders handed out a drawing of a heart to each of us--Then we had to write in the heart how each of  our hearts felt----like sad--After a few hours of discussions, we then ere given another picture of a heart--and we then wrote inside the heart how our heart felt--The poor heart had much more uplifting things written in it--so--I felt  that maybe the few hours of discussions did help me--This course goes on for a few weeks--

Poor wee Lopez was left alone in the house-- for --like--4 hrs----He survived, but I felt sorry for him to be left alone for so long-----And when I cid get back home, Lopez and I had to take all those chopped up boxes to the dump------

So, here I am, under the stairs--Typing away here--a funny wee house isn't it??--but--it does suit me!--and one of my favourite "blasts from the past"-----  You know that Fred--Himself, loved Shepherds--  We always used to have 2  at the same time--So, years ago--I always used to think that this picture below, looked like "dinner time" at our home--

-------------------and another favourite picture from Dieppe public School--below-----Our                                                             children attended that school--

                    So--I must get  little Lopez out--his coat on him--  and walk the block--

I hope that your day goes well--  Be careful with orders placed , that you don't make a mistake and order 200 and not just 2------ It is a lot of work to chop up the boxes!--just thought I'd tell anyou all that!

                                                                AND---  REMEMBER--