I choose to remain positive!

 It is Saturday,  December 6th--and we have a mixture of snow and rain falling here--Son #2 is on his way here--for Himself's celebration of life--

I shall try to get the "blog"out everyday--  over Xmas--but--in case I have to miss a day here and there, please hang in-- It just means a busy day here--and another blog will eventually appear--To-day it was the driveway that I had to clear but the thoughts were  still waiting to go in the blog--just had to happen a bit later--

So---  Can you remain "positive"-----in spite of all the negativity around you?---  "FAKE it till you make it""--Mom always said that--  so I try to keep busy--go where there are people--even if I do not know these people--It does help--or, I invite people to come out to eat-- that helps also--and then there is little Lopez who needs quite a bit of attention--but he seems to understand when  the tears take over once again--and then there is the TV-a noise---company----in the house--

        So--Words I wish I had written--

#1.Be who you want to be, not what other people want you to be-

#2. There's no harm in asking

#3.Anyone can be happy in good times, but only the strong can be happy in bad times.

      -A lovely blast from the past-----Our Family---with some boys missing--

        Below--  "Cousins"--cute age eh?

So--  Are you ready for Xmas??--It will come anyway--  Just enjoy it--the people--the food--  the laughter--and the happiness--It's how we make life better--and we will!--  We are stronger than we believe--'specially when we try harder than we ever thought we could be!

"Maybe Christmas doesn't come from a store"......-

To-day is Friday, December 5th-- -and of course we have a big snow storm going on outside--like, a blizzard--and it feels cold--road closures all round us--seems it snows here- a lot---still dark too--

        -a hug might be a good thing--might help us face this new day--

                                        and a smile--?

Son#2, the Pilot, comes here to-morrow----if the snow stops--(He says it will)--and together we will figure out the Christmas gifts--which I have not  bought--I think gifts this year will be "Monetary"--easier for me--and he will help me figure it all out--There are so many older  Grandkids now--university ages-- and this way they can put it towards their education--or--buy whatever--Too many "moves" in my life right now so I am trying to make it easy for me-

                                    -Words of Wisdom-

#1.-If you know how to live well, a lifetime is enough---

#2.Stay interested in life

#3.It is harder than we remember to be a child.

--------                and a few blasts from the past--

            The above 3 girls are all in universities--one is finished--

                        our daughters children--plus a cousin--

                       So--remember--  try to stay positive to-day-a positive attitude goes a long way--We are a part of this day----Big hugs to you all----Now I must get Lopez out--IN THE COLD-----YIKES!!

        Maybe----  Christmas really doesn't come from a store---Maybe there really is a Santa!!

Do Whatever you want--and love it!

                         

To-day is Thursday, December the 4th-- and yes, last night was the coldest night we have had--It was supposed to get down to minus 20-I don't know if it  really did, but--the floors  on the main floor are very cold-I had to put on my slippers--

So, what is new on this very cold day?--Well, the "grief  session", yesterday,  was very good--We only have one more class---I found one of the ladies who attended the session, lives very close to me and she finds the days difficult also without her "other half"--I must try to get her over here--

To-day I am meeting a friend of #1 son---for breakfast--IF THE CAR STARTS-and it will if I get out there and  start it, to warm it--

How did your day go yesterday?---I hope that you made it a good day--even if it might've begun all wrong--Sometimes, one must--"fake it-till you make it"--and then something usually kicks in--It might just be the TV--or a phone call--or a good thought--Just look at all these happy smiling people--The girl in the second row, left hand side, is me-- It was my Mom and Dad's 50th Wedding anniversary--and all the Wllaces gathered in Florida to celebrate it-- Mom and Dad are in the front row on the left beside my brother.--Fred , back row, right side--

                        Memories are so important aren't they?--

                        below--  Mom and Dad in Burlington--

               And below--  There is Fred relaxin'--beside my sister-in-law                   

                    Memories---So many good memories!

and--below--  Words of Wisdom--

                #1--As long as you are thinking anyway, think big!

                #2--Allow yourself to make mistakes

                #3.-Take refuge in your mind when needed-

And now, little Lopez and I must get out there in the cold--Lordy Be!!--We must bundle up--Always remember, that our  age allows us to do whatever we want--and love it!

Smiles--not tears!

                    To-day is Wednesday, December 3rd-- 

I have a Bereavement and Grief class from 11am to 3 pm--at our local hospital--This blog will be very short--It has snowed all night AGAIN--so lotza snow to clear away from the front door--and then get Lopez out--as he will be left alone when I leave --for at least 4 hrs--Poor wee guy eh?---Please  have a good day----  Be strong----  I shall return this afternoon and add to this blog----only 2 more classes after this--

                    Before I get off of here--a few wise words-

                                #1. Let nature be hour teacher--

                                #2.Everyone in love is beautiful

                                #3.Only a fool never changes  is mind

-and above a photo of my Dads sister--"Enid"--holding my oldest brother--Marvin--  Mom snd Dad lived in Windsor then--a very old picture--

Enjoy your day--I will return but later in the day-------Be strong--

Let your weird light shine bright--

                     Ho  Ho  Ho!--It is Tuesday, December 2nd--and----  last night--here---about 4 ft of snow fell--on the car--on the driveway --in the yard--I had to clean off the car----let it run a bit to melt some snow-and the guy I hired way back when, came along in his big Kaboka trackter)--and ploughed out by the road so I  could move the car out there until he comes back to clear the driveway--he said in a couple hours-- so--needless to say-- I will not be going out for breakfast with my friends---I forgot how much snow Elliot Lake can get--Lopez and I have been out AND HE DID HIS BUSINESS__good little doggie!

Yesterday the Computer guy worked on this computer (and it is new!)-all day trying to retrieve all my photos which I had buried somewhere on the computer--He found some--and lots are gone I guess--(sobbing)

 Anyway, he did find some I hadn't seen in years--

  like the ones below-

-Hannah, son #2's daughter looking down at the city of Elliot Lake, from the fire tower lookout-Notice--all the trees--the city--and the lakes-

                 -below---Hannah, again--exhausted--

                           

        --Hannah now finished University in Ottawa

    -----and Fred and I-below--trying to cook--

 

so----  Here we are into December----Are you happy go see  Christmas so close??--

--Below---- Words of wisdom--Words I wish I had written--  

  #1.Do not let people bring you down to their level-

   #2. Don't wait to start improving the world--

   #3-NEVER GIVE UP___

--I hope that you are happy to-day--feeling strong too--so much to remember--Keep your weird shining bright so other weirdos can find you--  

------and I am sending big hugs your way-

 

A Very Bad Day ---

                        "Do whatever you can--for as long as you can"- and that is if you wish to stay young at heart--and we all want to do that!----so---I struggle some days--like to-day-messed up the computer--had to take it to the computer geek who got it going sorta----

Yesterday, my friend , who I never knew before, called me and said she had received a flyer, in the mail, telling her , a person would clean the interior of her vehicle for a good price--  She called and asked if I wanted to bring my car over  also--have all the Chihuahua hairs vacuumed up--- Hmmm--sounded good to me--so, even in a bad snow storm, I settled Lopez in his bed (which is now my good leather chair)---and I drove very carefully over to her home--on the slippery roads--and now I have a very clean interior of my vehicle.-

I never  knew  my friend who helps me a lot--before all this Bereavement stuff--  Funny what the good Lord presents  to you when you need it--like--who would ever think?---

So, This is  Monday-a new week-- December 1st-----and here we all are--  trying to help Santa get ready for Christmas--

Words of Wisdom--

#1. Rise early--

#2--The only way to have a friend is to be one!

#3--Seek respect-

a few blasts from the past--above--Fred's Mom and Dad with his nieces below--  Grandpas house in Port Perry--below-

and  Grandfather with Gramma on his left  with Uncle Aylmer and Aunt Annie-

and below---Xmas with 5 children--It must've taken me forever to wrap all that!

This has been a difficult day-The computer went all wonky--had to call in a Computer guy--plus it snowed ALL day---I hope tomorrow goes   better--

 Remember to stay strong--ALL of you--

 

Snowy Sunday-

    It is Sunday, November 30th--almost December----  Christmas!

and----  We have snow--mega snow!!  and mixed with rain, which tells me  that the roads must be slippery--I am late blogging because I was out shovelling--twice--I called the guy who was supposed to plough and he said, because I hired him recently-I-was last on his list , so would be the last one ploughed out---I instantly did not like him--but--I just looked out and there he was, ploughing out by the road at my tiny house--Maybe he had a change of heart---Who knows!!!!
So I have been out shovelling around the house and the car--twice--and the snow just keeps coming.

                  

           So, How is your day going??--Are you feeling strong??--

                            

                                    the 3 ft Christmas tree--and lotza snow in this part of the world--

                                            Enjoy the day--

                                    To-day only comes once--

 

Always take care of your family!

It is Saturday ,--November 9th--seems like it is cold outside--I feel it in here--OMG!--It feels cold -minus  12C--outside--No snow falling --but VERY cold!--dark--------it is "Parka " weather for sure--

I did get to the grocery store yesterday, in the afternoon, but had to park out near the highway---There were so many people there!  I did not attempt to go to  Canadian Tire--as their parking looked so full--Hopefully I can go there this AM---

and--here are a few words I wish I had written, years ago--Life is busy isn't it??--

#1- Shout or joy---

#2.-Spread Happiness--

#3- Return all phone calls within a day--

-Blasts from the past--Below is son#2's daughter--0ur first Grandchild--on an airplane--with her Dad probably the Pilot--

And  another picture of son#4's young son, on his birthday,  with Son#3's daughter who is now in her first year of medicine in Ottawa---

and below, our daughter--holding her baby brother-- 

Lots to do to-day, -- I must get Lopez out first-and  -It is so cold out there--I do see the sun coming up--in the distance--

It looks like a good day  to have a good day--

Son#1's wife sent a text yesterday, asking why I hadn't been out there for a few days-----  I told them that I was trying to give them a rest from having me for dinner every time I go out there--and--SHE SAID (Bless her heart!)--They are having Pork Chops to-night and to come out--so so good of her!!! I do miss them--but I was afraid I was out there too much--apparently not!-----   nice of her to check up on me!

It is not easy losing a husband-- Life is different --I am getting better at filling in the time, but it can be a tad lonely--so  happy for you all  kind friendly people in town here!-I will never regret moving home -----and that  "Course" I am taking , has helped--the Bereavement Course--I call it the "sad" course!

I must get moving --Remember how special you are-- always take care of your family! They might not always be there!

FRIENDSHIP MATTERS BIG TIME!

 To-day is Friday--November 28th--a brand new day--and here we are--a part of it!

"30 days hath September, April , June and November--"---2 MORE DAYS THIS MONTH------and Santa comes  next month--December--It has come fast-!!!  Holy cow!-So, You better watch out--You better not pout--because--

SANTA CLAUS IS COMING TO TOWN!--Soon!

                                        Words I wish I wrote-

-#1. Put your best foot forward

#2.If you live fearing death, then you do not live!

#3.How you treat your children will be reflected for generations!

So, no snow falling -yet--and lotza snow on the car which I must clear off--I miss our garage--I hear Sushi yodelling upstairs also--afraid of Lopez--   will not come down and she wants her breakfast--Poor little Turkey--I do know she wanders around down here in the night--but afraid of Lopez in the day--You all know that I found her--one winter, on our deck, eating bird seed--She was just a kitten--I tried to give her to the city, who wouldn't have her as she was "feral"--so--she lived under Fred's side of the bed for 4 mos, before seeing the light of day---(Mom's expression)_ and Fred never minded sleeping over Sushi--  He was a good man!! ----

So---How is your day going -so far??---  Are you "happy and you know it"?--Are you looking forward to Christmas---?----Another question here----  Did you  ever get a "DOLL" for Christmas?-- And wasn't that the best gift ever??_-My Grandfather used to hide my DOLL when we visited him in Port Perry-and it would make me cry--and he would say, "There she goes again ILA"---(That was my Mother's name)-and then he would grab my hands and dance me around his kitchen--Memories--  Memories are the best ever as we grow older--82 years --I am 82--and I feel about 21-(WelL__most of the time I feel that way!)-----  Isn't that weird??--Do you feel your age?--

                                        So--a couple of blasts from the past here--

Below--  (which yu have seen before)--are my family-----my Mom nd Dad-My little  sister who I absolutely adored-----

and below is Son#1's daughter--who has finished her Universisy courses, 

and who was our first Grandchild-

SO MANY MEMORIES 

But--  Time to get moving here-- Lopez is waiting in the wings--

Appreciate your family--They will help you when you get older--

Count your age by friends--not years!

 Good Morning --dark---  no snow falling here --yet! Lopez and I have not been out either-- I have heard from Son#2 the Pilot--He has returned--back from Sao Paulo--  probably "de-plane-ing"-  (is that a word?)---then has a drive home, from Toronto--He said that was a 10 hr flight--long eh?----

These days before Christmas are busy ----  decorating--  snow falling which might have to be cleared away--more clothes to pack on the body--So, what I am saying, you might find the blogs a tad shorter--but, I shall try to continue  on--- I know this time of year we are all busy--This A.M., I have a breakfast to get to with a friend of Son#1---AND--IT IS STILL DARK OUTSIDE__

Yesterday was the Bereavement Course at our local hospital--  11am--to 3pm--  long eh?--I think we have 3 more classes--I do find that I am able to accept , for the rest of my life, that I do not have Fred--beside me--in person--and I am finding that it is easier to be alone--go shut the door and actually --"be alone"--(Yes, I could dance! LOL)

                                        and every day  seems a tad better-easier also!

OK--Words I wish I wrote_            -#1.--There is always something to learn___

                                                          #2. Look inside yourself for the strength to continue- 

                                                         #3.-It takes 2 flints to make a fire--

I hope to-day goes well for you--  Once one decides to "have a great day"--no matter what, ---one usually does have a good day--"mind over matter"--as Dad used to say--and---  maybe we should count our age by friends, not years----