It is Wednesday, March the 18th- almost 7am----Lopez, Sushi and I are up-- dark outside--and cold in here--I have the tiny fire thing on--I must turn it up--The washer is nearly done--so, another day to count our blessings--be content to be alive--and to feel that the world is turnng out the way it is supposed yo--Remember, it is the mind that makes the body My Mom used to say, "Mind over matter"---and them she would look at Dad as she was staring at me, and say to him, "There she goes again Ivan--crying"----as the tears ran down my face. I was a worrier--(not a worrier)-Everything would upset me--I wonder why??-- Maybe it was just my make-up--I remember Dad always talking to me to try to calm me down--that the world was not going to end--that everything would be alright--So I learned to keep my fears to myself and only share my courage. And eventually this man , came along , and I learned that the world was not such as frightening a place. Above--Fred -a very young picture of him!
Words of Wisdom -I wish I wrote- #1.You are in control of how you respond to the behaviour of others
#2----Knowing what to forget is just as important as knowing what to remember
#3-We get what we give.
So---The family--Look what happens when you love someone!
RD in AZ here Your dear Fred was a very handsome man I grew up as a worry wart asmy family called me and yet I came out fine just as you did I love your Irish blessing today I needed to see that today
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Knowledge comes, but wisdom lingers.
Alfred Lord Tennyson
Morning Lynda,
ReplyDeleteI didn't see your post from yesterday till this morning. I checked a few times yesterday early morning to see if you had posted but you hadn't when I looked and didn't get back to check later.
Sorry that Taxi was so expensive. That's ridiculous! There has got to be some kind of transportation for Seniors. You might check with a Community Center near you and find out if there is such a resource. Have your sons check for you.
I didn't realize that yesterday had been a year since Fred's passing. You are strong and you are carrying on as I am sure he would want you to.
Hope you are going to hang out at home and not go out in all the snow.
Have a happy Wednesday!
Hugs,
Jackie
Good morning, sis.
ReplyDeleteYour last 'words of wisdom' is SO FUNNY!
Love the family photos, especially the younger Fred. All the grandkids pictured...only 1 little boy?!
It's to be over 40 F today here and mostly sunny. With the temp, much of our snow will melt. It'll be sloppy in our parking lot. I don't plan to go anywhere anyway, but who knows?
Do you wash clothes every day? You must have lotsa stuff to wash that aren't clothes...unless you change yours several times a day.
John (the son I adopted when I was 16...LOL, is going to help me set up my new printer. I thought I could do it. Sigh. Aging is not all fun and games.
Must go no. Stuff I need to do before he comes. I'll check back a couple times. {{{HUGS}}} Love, Maggie
It's Kathy. I learned many years ago that worrying didn't help anything. Although it's not always easy to NOT worry about things. My husband needs to see an Oral Surgeon to have some teeth pulled and we don't have insurance to cover that - so of course I'm worried about how we will pay for that. But it has to be done so one way or another it will get taken care of! His consultation isn't until the beginning of May so I have some time to cut expenses for awhile! I missed yesterday, didn't think to check in again later in the day. I'll read it later - off to Pilates shortly. Have a good day.
ReplyDeleteI missed checking your blog yesterday as I was busy all day cooking and cleaning as I had guests for dinner. Fixed the traditional corned beef and cabbage and made a Guiness chocolate cake for dessert - it actually had a cup of Guiness beer in it and it was delicious - very rich & chocolatey and had a cream cheese frosting that had a little Bailey's Irish creme in it! Yum!
ReplyDeleteI did not realize that it was on St. Patrick's Day that you lost Fred....a tough day for you for sure! Those anniversaries always are...and you also lost your dad on the same day! Oh My! I lost my hubby on Ash Wednesday....but the date of his death and Ash Wednesday do not always fall on the same day each year....so I find myself weeping on both the date of his death and on Ash Wednesday's......
Lastly, your crying as a young girl brought back memories for me. I can remember being 5 or 6 years old and crying a lot because I was worried that the world was going to end and I would never see my mom and dad again! A kind young teen-age girl who was babysitting me one evening when my folks went out for the evening, explained to me that even if the world did come to an end, that I would still see my mom and dad as we would all be in heaven together! I don't ever remember crying about that anymore. What a blessing that young girl was for me! She calmed my fears and cured my tears!
Good morning Lynda, another VERY hot day in California. All kinds of weather related records are being broken. There you are with so much snow. Friday is the first day of Spring, and neither of us are having Spring-like weather, are we? I hope your day sorts itself out and it's enjoyable.
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Hi Lynda.
ReplyDeleteI always enjoy your positive attitude
Worry solves nothing...there are so few things we can control or change..ourselves and our attitude is about it. Accepting is not always easy but thats what i have to do.
Its so lonely and coming home to noone is hard. I make myself go out,even if its just for a walk. ...I returned to volunteering at the food pantry. Its busy and everyone is kind. I didn't sleep well. I might do a short nap.
Thanks for words of wisdom.
Sunny and 50s in St.Louis. Warmer temps later in the week.
Hugs
Marge. St.Louis
Marge, I continue to pray for you as you adjust to life without Ed. God Bless you.
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Hi all. I used to be so anxious and fearful. After I got on antidepressants which also help anxiety, and after a 12 step program for years and years that all went away, the worrying, anyway. I still get very anxious if I am stressed, but most of the time there is nothing to stress me out. I purposely live a low stress lifestyle. As far as being able to drive freeways, or any road where the speed limit is faster than 40, I just can't do. Panic attacks. After many therapies for that, I realized that it's just not worth it to even try. It's dangerous to have a panic attack in the middle of the freeway!
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