A new day--to get everything right!- Doncha jess wish?? It is cool out there but, it IS light---- AND NO SNOW FALLING---I mean--things could always be worse-- We could look like this----
So--I did take Lopez out--He watered a lot of grass---did NOT do his business-which means another walk--
So, the nose is healing--after the fall beside the bed--the knee is not as sore--the grief and lonelines is still bad---but now there is more--- Last night I began to think, "Why did he have to go?"----- Why not me?--Why did we never talk about this?"---We never did you know!--and, we weren't "Spring Chickens-"-as Dad used to say---
I just received a message from Son #2--who is "pushing", as he says--over in Britain--"PUSHIN" means--pushing back from the airport, ready to head to the runway, for takeoff to home--
To-morrow, in the evening , I have to go to Peterborough to the Opthamologist, to have Lazar treatment to the lens in my eyes--hopefully to clear the blurriness--"If it's not one thing, it's another I guess--Dad's expression again!
I best get off of here-- I hope you make your day wonderful! We will never have this day again, so I hope you make the best of to-day--ENJOY EVERY MOMENT!-- We will never be again, as young as we are to-day---Positive thought-- I wish you all positive happy thoughts--
Hi Lynda, finally FB Let me say hi. GREAT POST....LOVE YOUR POSITIVITY.
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Do not worry about eye procedure...it will work out fine.
What will you do without Matt? He's the best son ever!!
Make today a good one.
Much love, big hugs and prayers
Marge/St.Louis
I understand--Sometimes ttis site makes it hard to comment----And--sometimes the site wipes off stuff--but--I absolutely enjoy all your comments--and I appreciate that you all have managed to get a comment in--Thank yu--- Lynda
DeleteGlad the healing is happening, and little Lopez will do his business on walk #2, I'm sure. May your Monday be a great day, and safe skies to all the pilots out there, including your son #2.
ReplyDeleteYes Son #2 is "winging his way ": back to Canada--and it will be good to have him--He is such a good son isn't he??-And--I know he must be a great Pilot--Hugs, lynda-
DeleteSusan--I appreciate yu being so honest--I need to hear all you say--- I never knew in a million yrs, living would be so hard without my partner in life--He was my life--- He loved me to the Moon and back--He never asked for 5 children--plus 25 dogs (or more) just accepted and dealt with life--- had the patience of "Jobe"--never wandered---- was a good Doctor --a fabulous Dad--an exceptional husband--He never told me he was ready to die I saw 6the tears in his eyes as he watched the boys wander around the hospital roomI weanted to huh him and tell him that we all were going toi be OPK___ but--WE ARE NOT OK=--=WE miss him so very much -- Lynda
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, sorry to read that you hurt yourself. Seems as we age, our balance just isn't like it used to be. It is the weaking of the core muscles that we need to keep toned up. I started to fall quite a bit for a while, but I'm now much better. Went to physical therapy and the main thing was I was really weak on my core muscles. So I have a bunch of exercises which in reality aren't all that time consuming that I do every day, and to tell you the truth, they have actually helped. I don't feel out of balance like I use to. Like I told you before I cannot imagine what you are feeling on the loss of Himself. My heart goes out to you. I could give you all kinds of advice, but truthfully, you are the only one who can work this out with yourself. There is no answer why him and not you. Now that you are moving back to Lake Eliot will you not see son #1 as much? To me, he seems like he's the one who always is texting and checking up on you. Do sons 2, 3, & 4 do the same?
ReplyDeleteMy husband was the same, loved me dearly and let me do whatever I wanted, and has left a huge hole, but after 8 years I am better at dealing with it most days. Things do get easier eventually, and , like it or not, the world keeps moving. That first six months I kept having to remind myself that he was not coming back. So very strange what our brains do to us. Hugs!
ReplyDeleteHi Lynda, will you be volunteering at Bingo tonight? It's good to get out of the house and socialize a bit. On the other hand, you did mention that you would be having the laser treatment on your lens. I think it will make a difference because it did for me. I hope your day goes well.
ReplyDeleteMaureen from California
My dear, I am glad you’re healing physically. The emotional work of grieving seems to take forever. . . . it really does! But gradually, remember more positive things then things that make you sad. You know it’s perfectly normal to ask that “why him and not me” question. I said that when my brother passed. We will never have the answer to that one, but . . . it’s a normal question to ask.
ReplyDeleteThank goodness you have son #2 in your life.
HUGS and hope today is a good day for you.
Hugs and healing
Barb
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Hi Lynda, it's Kathy. I'm so sorry you are still grieving. I imagine it will be like that for awhile. But you are also working hard to stay positive and recognize the blessings in your life. I am trying to do that too! We have a very cold day as well but, as you say, no snow! I see a bit of sunshine just shined through - I want to go outside and work in my gardens a bit. Daisy won't be happy - she likes to stay inside these days unless we go for a walk. I hope you are having a good day!
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you're getting the treatment to clear your lenses; I'll bet you'll be surprised by how clear things seem.
ReplyDeleteI believe we each heal from grief and deal with it in our own time and our own way. It's one of the more difficult things in life. Thank goodness you have your pets for companionship at home; it's amazing how they keep us perking along as they need feeding, walking, attention.
Happy Monday.
It's Marti. Have you heard of the 5 stages of grief? They are:
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This initial stage involves disbelief and a refusal to accept the reality of the loss. It's a way for the individual to cope with the overwhelming pain and shock of the event.
Anger:
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As the reality of the loss becomes more apparent, anger may be directed at oneself, others, or even the deceased. This can be a way to protect oneself from feeling vulnerable and to express the frustration of the loss.
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This stage involves attempting to regain control over the situation by thinking about what could have been done differently. It may involve making deals or agreements to try and change the outcome, even though this is impossible.
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As the reality of the loss sinks in, sadness and hopelessness may become overwhelming. This can be a time of intense emotional withdrawal and a loss of interest in daily activities.
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While not necessarily a happy stage, acceptance marks the point where the individual acknowledges the loss and begins to integrate it into their life. It doesn't mean they are no longer grieving, but they have found a way to cope and continue living.
Hi Lynda! It is high 61 and sunny in Ohio. Got some errands done today and visited an elderly friend. It was a lovely day. I wish you well tomorrow for your appointment. Gave the yorkies some watermelon. It didn’t set good with Tommy but he liked it. How are your fur babies? Stay strong. Hugs!
ReplyDeleteLynda, I love that last meme...it says it all.
ReplyDeleteI know it's hard, but think...what would Fred have done without you? They would have put him in some facility.
I am so cold. The temperature in this place varies a lot.
Just ate supper. Had a good day with less pain and a good therapy session.
Good luck with your appointment tomorrow. Let's hope the procedure helps.
I am waiting for the nurse to come to take vitals and give more pain meds. Will end now and hope I feel chattier tomorrow. {{{HUGS}}} Love, Maggie