---You see, I do not want to upset anyone in the whole world--so---- not agreeing with someone's decision to jump off the edge of the world, I guess , in my heart , might upset that person-- so I agree to do whatever--AND--THEN I REALIZE THAT I CANNOT DO WHATEVER I HAD AGREED TO DO----
For example ----my son in law dropped in here yesterday---completely unannounced-----WITH HIS DOG--A LARGE SIBERIAN HUSKY--which wee tiny Lopez was terrified of--
Of course there was a dog fight--in my wee tiny living room--- me in the middle of it--trying to protect Lopez-
-The huge problem was--- My very nice Nephew brought several large boxes full of old LPs--old books --etc etc etc etc--All this stuff used to belong to my older sister (his Mom)----and he thought I might like to have all this "stuff"--Very nice of hm to think of me---but--the problem is, I AM MOVING--and now I have 2 more very large boxes to get rid of-- 
So, poor son #2 will have to help me cart more boxes away-- to the goodwill, I guess--
I FINALLY hope that I have learned a lesson--TO NOT BE SO AGREEABLE_from now on, I will say, "No thank yu---- I cannot take those boxes--- Please take them yourself to such and such--that I am moving"------
So, "live and learn" I guess-----
I hope that you are all up and at-er--- My own lesson for to-day is to try very hard to to think positively and to say out loud what I am thinking--If it's a negative thought, spit it out anyway-- say what you are thinking-- even if it is not a positive thought at that moment--
It has taken me 82 years to decide to do this--- Holy Cow!--- Why is that so hard to do?---I suppose everyone wants to be liked--- not be negative-- but----- IT IS ABOUT TIME ISN"T IT?---- 
Good morning, Lynda! Hope your day goes better! A dog fight sounds terrible! Your son inlaw from Medina? Didn’t know they had a husky. It is going to be beautiful in Ohio today. Sun is out and birds are singing. I hear Tommy downstairs pestering my husband to play ball. He is obsessed with balls. We thought it would be cute teaching him as a puppy to play fetch. He has so many balls and that’s all he wants to do! Lol! How is everything with you this morning? Hope it’s a great day! Hugs!
ReplyDeleteI laughed at how hard it is to say “no”. That is true for most women. Now that I am in my 70”s, I have started to say “no” and it is very freeing.
ReplyDelete“No, thank you for the invitation, but I will have to pass on attending that”, “no, I appreciate the offer, but I don’t really need that, I am at the stage of getting rid of things, not collecting more”, etc. So look at the albums and books, and then put them in the “no” pile,. It sounds like you may learn that the word “no” is a very useful word, at times. Good luck!
Susan/Colorado
It's Kathy. I think your nephew should have called and asked you if you wanted those boxes - would have saved him time and you the stress of now having to figure out what to do with them. I always had a problem saying no until... I had 3 children under 7 and then gave birth to twins! It was the greatest excuse ever "I'm sorry, but I just had twins!" That was almost 43 years ago but a lesson well learned! Sounds like you have figured it out now too! I hope you have a lovely day. We have sunshine with rain coming tomorrow so it's outside work for me today!
ReplyDeleteFor sure, people pleasing has been an issue for me all my life, too. But eventually, we do learn!
ReplyDeleteHope wee Lopez is ok after the trauma yesterday. My gosh, if it's not one thing it's 10 others, right!
HUGS and blessings and peace to you and little Lopez
barb
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Lynda, was it your son-in-law or nephew who brought those boxes or did they both come?
ReplyDeleteI agree with your sentiments, except, rather than vocalize a negative thought...pivot...think and say a better thought. Again, teachings from the Law of Attraction.
You will have lots of help moving.
Hope the dogs warmed up to each other. Dog fights are not fun!!
My daughter is in the laundry room now. She's driven almost an hour to help me out with laundry and other things. What a joy!
Don't hurt quite as much today. Every night I sleep a bit better, hurt a bit less. I will get there. Of course, I couldn't get to karaoke last night. Didn't miss it at all...hmm.
Cindy will come back into the aparartment in a minute, so I will end my comment and check back later.
Hope the rest of your day proceeds better. {{{HUGS}}}, Love, your sis, Maggie
My free advice - which is worth what you are paying for it - is to sit down and go down memory lane while going through the boxes and then dispose of the 99% you don't want. There may be a few gems in there that you will be glad to see again and reminisce about. Doesn't mean you have to keep them but nice project for a rainy day.
ReplyDeletePoor Mr. Lopez!! That must have been terrifying for him.
ReplyDeleteHopefully you can easily say goodbye to everything you no longer will use or enjoy ... life is easier without too much stuff. I continue to let things to.
Hi Lynda, NO is a complete sentence. You really do not want more stuff. You've probably figured out that you brought too much stuff when you moved there. I do hope you are using this time to seriously look at possessions and if you haven't used IT since you've been in the apartment...you probably don't need it.
ReplyDeleteWe have a,bit of sun in Sr.Louis but very chilly. Rain returns tomorrow but we're having a break with a wee bit of sunshine.
Take care of you
Hugs and love
Marge
Poor Lopez. Hoping the rest of the visit went better between the dogs.
Great idea to say no when it's something you would rather not do!! Donna from Illinois
ReplyDeleteThe older I get, the more willing I am to say "no" when I really want to say "no". And only second-guess a little bit. LOL!
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