Anyway, his Death announcement was in the North Shore Bulletin---and , now the "STANDARD Newspaper"-They put a very good picture of him in there----- I hope I do not cry anymore as I read it---so so hard -----
To-day we have to go into Peterborough to "Service Canada"--So much paperwork when a person passes--and--I still intend to return to Elliot Lake--to spend the rest of my life-- Elliot Lake is "HOME" to me--=- I cannot leave here until I have an apartment in Elliot Lake, ready to move into--(which means ANOTHER move--)--- but , Elliot Lake is my home-and I must return---
So---- If you know anyone whose partner has died, do not leave them alone--- because all they do is cry--Just spend some time with them-- tell them they WILL get thru this (I have not yet!)- Maybe bring them a few boxes of kleenex--(ha ha)--- maybe go for a walk with them--- Yesterday I went to a 2nd hand store---and you know, one of the pictures Son#2 had taken over to them, --- well, I bought it back-- like-- "I BOUGHT MY OWN PICTURE"--- It was of Charlotte, our old dog---- Can you believe that??-- I guess people who have lost their partner, well it seems these people have sorta lost a bit of their mind----Oh well--Hopefully, life will resume one day, maybe when the tears stop!
Good morning, sis. And it is...if you believe it.
ReplyDeleteAnother wonderful memorial to your beloved husband. He was a wonderful man!
You will cry once in a while. It's a way to release your emotions, and it's okay.
I don't blame you for wanting that picture back! Do you have some of the others? You could probably have a whole wall or shelf of pet photos! I have my old doggie and kitty that passed just before I moved here on a shelf, photos of other pets in albums. We don't want to forget them.
Wish the sky would be blue instead of cloudy, but it is 50F already.
Lots to do today, Lynda, so I will go. I will come back and check for comments later, of course. {{{HUGS}}} Love, Maggie
Maggie--- SO Good to read your message--Hopefully the stupid tears will stop--even just for today--We do have sun here today--- but coolish-- Lynda
DeleteYou don't ever really get over losing a loved one, but it does get easier as time goes on. They live on in our memories and hearts. Just take it one day at a time. As for finding that picture, it was meant to be.
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Oh Jackie-- No I feel I will never gt over this-- Too bad we didn't speak more of this while he was alive-- Thank yu for writing-Lynda
DeleteGood morning Lynda,
ReplyDeleteI think it's funny that you bought your own picture back.
It was meant to be.
You never getting over losing someone you loved. It does, in time, get easier.
Do you have your sons or a realtor looking for an apartment for you in EL? Seems you'll need help finding a place.
I know you'd prefer not to move in winter. Hopefully someone in EL can help you locate an apartment or you make calls as you know people there.
Yes, lots to do when a loved one passes. Beautiful tribute to your amazing himself, a kind, loving, wonderful man.
Enjoy your day.
Love, hugs prayers
Marge St.Louis
Marge --I am trying hard to find an apartment and I must do it before winter--- another move eh??-- Yes another tribute to Fred-- --Lynda
Delete((((HUGS)))) Indeed, it is BEYOND hard to lose your partner in life. So, don’t be afraid if the tears come. You WILL get through this. We’re all rooting for you.
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful picture of Himself and a wonderful tribute to him. He was and IS well loved.
How wonderful you were able to buy back that picture of Charlotte! Surprised son #2 brought it to the 2nd hand store, but . . . one never knows. I am sure my whole house belongings will be trashed or donated. But that’s all right. I have had lots of time to enjoy it myself. And squeeze memories out of everything! Like the piano my Dad refinished. Yup . . . he took ALL the keys out and refinished the piano. I asked him HOW he was going to get all the piano keys, piled in a laundry basket, in the proper place once the refinishing was done! He said the keys were #’d. Did you know that? I didn’t til then. And indeed, all the keys went back into the proper place and the piano was tuned and I could resume playing. It is a fixture in my front room! They bought it for $25 (lots of $$$ back then) from a school that didn’t want it anymore and I took lessons. So glad of that.
Hang in there. One day @ a time.
hugs and blessings
barb
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Wow Barb--Your Dad did ALL that??--He was amazing- --=Yu must be so proud!! --And yu play that piano?--good memories eh??--Lynda
DeleteDad was a chemical engineer but there wasn't anything he couldn't do!
DeleteYes, lots of good memories playing piano. Lots of fun.
hugs
barb
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You will probably cry quite a bit the first year, and why not? It is a release of emotion, and that is okay. I cried anytime someone was nice to me. If they offered their condolences, I cried. We cannot control our tears, so let them flow. It does get better. And you mentioned the other day that you felt lonely. I am glad you got out with someone yesterday and glad you have your son nearby. I don’t feel lonely, but sometimes I feel very much alone. As I have said, I talked to my husband a lot after he died, and that helped me cope.
ReplyDeleteI hope you can find an apartment and move back to Elliot Lake this summer, if that is truly going to make you happier.
Hugs from Colorado.
Hi Lynda, it's Kathy. What a lovely tribute to Fred. He was loved by not only his family but by your entire community. That is truly wonderful. I'm sure each day that goes by will bring you closer to some kind of new normal. I hope you can move back to Elliot Lake soon. That will help I'm sure. 32 years ago I lost my first husband, my high school sweetheart. He didn't die, he just left me and our 5 children. Life with him wasn't the best, but I still missed him being here every day. I missed the good times. But life moved on and I did my best. I think you're doing so well! You are truly an inspiration! Have a good day today! It's finally warmed up here and we have a little sunshine. I hope to take Daisy for a walk.
ReplyDeleteOh my Lynda, what a lovely Tribute to Fred, that‘s beautiful! I‘m curious as to who in your life told you not to cry? Must have started when you were very young. A Person should Never feel embarressd to cry, for Pete‘s sakes! Or ashamed. It is normal to cry, especially after the passing of a Spouse! And there is no magic time Limit on Grief. We are lucky to have lived and loved. I hope You can find a place to move to, one more time. Take care!
ReplyDeleteLynda, It's okay to cry.
ReplyDelete12.5 years ago my younger son and I were in a car wreck, I survived, he didn't. I was numb for several weeks and then the tears started. I cried every day for over a year, sometimes a little and sometimes a lot. Gradually the tears came less often. I still have things that trigger the tears and I really don't know when or where they will come. Yesterday was his birthday and it was a hard day. There is a big hole in my life and it will always be there, but I have carried on as best I can. I know that you will do the same.
Don't feel bad about crying. Its OK. Everyone understands why, and feels so bad that you are hurting. I lost my husband 12 years ago, so I understand what you are going through, as do many others. Handle your loss any way you need to, they say it is a process. Just know, it is OK. Hugs and Prayers,
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