It is noon-ish-- I had to go out this AM--so, am posting now--later than late--but--I sure am thinking of you-- Two very nice ladies came here and took me round the town--We stopped in at a nice 2nd hand store--- I bought a picture---$10 -- a picture which used to sit in the rec room--a picture that got left in the house in Elliot--Of course it is a picture of a dog --- and this dog looks so much like one of the first dogs we ever had--Her name was Charlotte--
It is warm here --over 70 degrees --sunny also-----So Spring has arrived!--I meant lots people who still have no power--so, we are very lucky--At least we have heat and lights!
-a short blog--- but---- so far --No MORE TEARS--
Lynda, I don't think the loneliness ever really goes away....we just learn to live with it and keep ourselves busy. Yoga has really helped me. I still cry, but not as much and not every day, but lots of things trigger the teardrops. Adjusting to being a widow is hard, but you are smart and strong and you will find ways to stay busy and make the best of your life now without your precious husband. Sending you love and hugs!
ReplyDeleteIt's nice to read that you are getting out. That's probably your first step. I imagine if you force yourself to get out more, it might help you. Remember this will be a one day at a time situation for you. Everything is still raw and painful. The memories so fresh. I am praying for the best for you and that you start to find calm and peace in your life now.
ReplyDeleteAwwww, so glad that you found that dog picture in the thrift shop!
ReplyDeleteReally???? Over 70F there! Wow! Not here.
Sorry to hear that there are still people w/o power. Glad YOU have it.
My dear, it is perfectly NORMAL for you to have tears right now! LET THEM FLOW! Allow yourself to work through your grief! It is healthy. As said, your grief is still raw and painful. One day @ a time!
Hugs
Barb
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Hi Lynda...what a change in your weather. That's crazy.
ReplyDeleteSo GLAD to hear you got oit. And found a dog picture. Doing things outside the 4 walls will help you feel a bit better. When the time is right, you may want to seek out a grief support group. Most churches have them. Go to the pool...get out and do things you enjoy and where you can meet othets...when you're ready. Lynda, it's a day at a time. Cry....you've lost your partner...let the tears flow. It takes however long it takes...everyone is different. Be gentle with you.
Hugs dear friend
Marge in rainy St Louis
It's Kathy. We had a 72 degree day last Friday, it was lovely. But then we got rain and snow and more rain and more snow. It's warming up today, the sun is almost out. The snow is already mostly gone. Things are looking up. How wonderful that 2 women took you around town. And to find a picture that you love! That's a blessing for sure. I need to do some vacuuming today and clean my bathroom. I'd rather read my book but we're just having leftovers for dinner. Today is my Tom's 72nd birthday - we're going to celebrate tomorrow! Take care.
ReplyDeleteIt's wonderful to 'see' you on here, sis.
ReplyDeleteGreat that you had people take you around the town. We have a nice used store here, too. It's called "GoodWill." It's non-profit. People who have a hard time getting hired elsewhere work at GoodWill. There are many nice things there. On Wednesdat, military, veterans and seniors get 25% off.
Allison probably know of one in her area.
Out of curiosity, have you noticed any change in the pets since Fred's passing? Is there evidence that he's still with you? I know you said you still felt him there.
Not much here today. God 2 deliveries: a sleep wedge for me to use in my reliner. It's feed and back move at the same time. I want the back kinda straight but the footrest up. The wedge helps.
The other delivery was another pair of Skechers for JoAnne. Her feet are like balloons. Even with an increse in her dieuretic. She was able to get them on.
I'd do a load of laundry now, but it's getting a bit late. Will do that in the morning.
ALWAYS (well, almost) thinking of you.
Save the quote by Aurelius. {{{HUGS}}} Love, Maggie
I don't read the comments much, but saw this. I happen to WORK at Goodwill part-time. Online. We sell stuff online. I've been off work all week though, I have bronchitis. Marti
DeleteHi Lynda! What fun to go out with two ladies today! Can’t believe you found that pic. It was meant to be! We had terrible storms in Ohio most of the night. High 67 today but cloudy. Keep your chin up. Your dad is telling you that. Hugs!
ReplyDeleteHi Lynda, I am so glad to hear that your weather has warmed up. Spending time outdoors is good for the soul. A pity that some are still without power. Delightful that two ladies took you around town, and you were able to find a picture of a dog that resembles one that you had once owned. Crying is natural and I think you are doing amazingly well for having lost the love of your life just a short time ago. Perhaps play your piano and read a good book.
ReplyDeleteTake good care of yourself.
Maureen from California
wow Lynda. It really is ok to cry! I still get upset about losing my parents. You've lost your soul mate. It has not been very long. Be kind to yourself. I'm glad you got out. - Betsy
ReplyDeleteWhat everyone else said: it's OK to let those tears flow. It's also ok to get out and do a bit. Day by day. It is not a dishonor to Fred, but an honor, to carry on. Hold yourself gently, there's no rush, just a bit at a time is good. ((( hugs )))
ReplyDeleteOh, so glad you got to get out of the house and mosey around town. I hope you find a nice hobby or activity group that is 'up your alley'. I'm in agreement with what all have said ... crying is okay. Grief doesn't have set time-frame, and we all handle it in our own ways. And a group grief support group when you're ready may be helpful.
ReplyDeleteI was too busy for several days to read blogs ... trying to get back into a gym routine, and have been getting my days arranged with time for duty, fun, and rest.
Still got you in prayer.