Son #2 has been down---back from Britain--He was down for a coffee----Lopez and I were out walking up the trail ---- He did not do his business--so will have to go out again--
Last night I stayed up to watch the election--AND--THE LIBERALS got in--- a LiBERAL: MAJORITY I believe--which will be good!
This AM I just called another mover--- I need a few quotes on the move-- I have a little over a month before moving--- The house in Elliot will be ready August 1st--and hopefully we will have a ceremony for Himself late July--which I must be back for that.--
I need to buy a new washer, and dryer when I get to Elliot-- Lordy Be! How many washers have I bought in my life----A LOT!!!!
I miss my husband--- Does one ever get over that??--
I guess, the secret to surviving, is , to be strong--wipe the tears away----try to accept that this is my life now--- try to help others-----
"Now tell me, why do women live longer than their husbands?--"---AND---- Why did my Himself and I never talk about what would happen if one of us departed before the other??--
Be strong--Appreciate all we do have--
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I do think talking about the wishes of the other with them before that time comes is a difficult but necessary conversation. I think we tend to put it off because it's not something we like to think about. But, I do think having "all your ducks in a row" beforehand makes a difficult time a little easier.
ReplyDeleteIt won't be long before you are back in Elliott Lake. So glad you have Sushi and Lopez there for you.
Have a terrific Tuesday, Lynda
Jackie
Oh Jackie--so hard eh"=-Getting quotes on moving back--costly--Lynda
DeleteGood morning, moving is expensive especially going a long distance.
ReplyDeleteMy heart and prayers go out to you. Such a difficult transition to be without himself.
Another new washer and dryer. Is what it is.
How was bingo? Will you do it again.
Stay strong and positive. It will work out.
Love, big hugs and prayers
Marge/St.Louis
Another washer and dryer....
Marge--Yes--another washer and dryer--- Awful rh?--Lynda
DeleteGood morning Lynda, I thought you would have mentioned your first night of volunteering for Bingo. Did you have a good time and meet new people?
ReplyDeleteGood luck finding a reasonably priced moving company. Maybe search online and see if there are any reviews. Going with the least expensive isn't always wise. Make sure there is a mention of what happens if they damage something in the move.
Have a good day.
Maureen from California
Hi Maureen---lots to do--asnd I just dunno how on earth I will; ever make it to August-Lynda
Deleteyes our fur babies really are our angels-- Lynda
ReplyDeleteDid I miss something? (Probably yes) If the move is in just over a month, where will you be staying in the couple of months before you can move into the townhouse? Will your things be kept in storage?
ReplyDeleteNo--I have June--- and July--- I tell nyself I CAN do this--but -- dnno if I really can--Lynda
DeleteHey, August is three months away, so you have time to get your quotes and make decisions. And maybe just let them do the packing, if possible.
ReplyDeleteAs for missing your husband, you always will, but it does get easier. And my husband knew he was dying for 6 months, and did not talk about what that meant to us. He was a person who lived in the minute, and I don’t think he could look at what was coming. I am not sure that any of us can comprehend dying or what it is like to be left behind until it happens. It is wise to have your financial ducks in a row, and your wills, etc, but living without a long time spouse is a learn as you go experience. Each of us is on our own path, and must do what we can to find joy and continue to find meaning in our lives. You are an amazing woman, tears are okay, you are moving forward.
Yes--moving forward--but--it is hard--so hard--Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda: You say you just have about a month before moving, Thought you weren't moving until the summer. Are you going earlier and renting a different place in between? Did you go to volunteer at the bingo? You will always miss himself regardless of the amount of time. Have a good night. Brenda
ReplyDeleteYes--I went to the Bingo--- but--I need to go home--July there will be a service for Fred there--but--I still have to put June in-Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda, Marti. You have quite a long time before you move, you have May, June, and July. I wouldn't start worrying about anything until end of June. I don't imagine you have much to move, now, having pared down to a 3 room place. But sure, go ahead and get some mover's estimates.
ReplyDeleteHere, it is wild and wooly. Heavy thunderstorms with hail. I drove home in a heavy t-storm. Safe at home now. Stormy weather thru 7 pm, evidently. Hope no tornadoes!
So glad the LIBERALS won, yay!
Yje weather here is wild and wooly also--crazy!--Lynda
DeleteMarti again. Want to add some things. My mom (and my husband) both prearranged their funerals/cremations, SO much easier. My mom told us where she wanted to be scattered and we scattered her in that area. My cousin wanted to do the same for me, so it's all paid for and arranged. What a relief! As for missing people, no, I really don't, I'm probably just bizarre that way. I'm happiest living alone, my husband and I fought a lot, and it turns out I don't do well living with anybody.
ReplyDeleteh Marti--I completely understand how you feel--=Yu were so good toprtearrange everything--Great idea--Lynda
Deleteso true Barb--Home is where the heart is--Lynda
ReplyDeleteKathy---I just dunno how I will erver make it to August--LOL--Lynda
ReplyDeleteHi Lynda! Yes that talk is a difficult to have with one's spouse. My hubby doesn't want to talk about it, but I force him to. I learned with the death of my Mom, what it is to not to prepare for anything. It was a total mess when she passed. We had a trust made up, and I'm thinking that we will soon and go pay for the cremation for the both of us. I have already made abundtly clear what I want done with my ashes. We only have the one son, and I have told him over and over again what is to be done. All of this material stuff won't matter in the end. Remember our kids don't want our stuff. That is why I'm constantly throwing things out and downsizing when I can. I'm really trying not to buy more, because I truly don't need it. I have a list of all the financials, and have made my hubby sit down to learn the banking. He has left it up to me all these 53 years to do. Well at least now he sorta has an idea. You have given me the kick in the arse to go over everything once again and make sure it is up to date. I'm glad you are now getting quotes for moving. Like I said before I definitely would start packing the things I don't use on a daily basis. August will be here before you know it. I wish you well in the move coming up soon.
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