Live for what today has to offer--

Good day---another day--to get things right-- NO MORE CRYING_---NO MORE FEELING SORRY FOR MYSELF!   Lord love a Duck!  There just cannot be any more tears--

So, you read the obituary-???  -written by the kids--  many changes made, ----The kids  finally felt it described their Dad---His  grown children were very proud of their Dad--as he was , of them--

You know, we had  Son#1 , and Fred said-"OK, We have our child"---then, Son#2 came along, and again he told me, "OK--- that is enough children"--but, then a little baby girl appeared , and Fred  was ecstatically happy , but, I knew 3 children was enough----  so- we moved from Ottawa to Elliot Lake, and along came Phillip---born at St Joseph's  Hospital----but   ----  then---  Tim appeared--looking exactly like Fred--

-And you know, Fred absolutely adored all these children---accepted Timmy , proudly---AND--these were the children, who were by his side, holding his hands--helping him to breathe , talking to him, telling them it was OK to go to Heaven--that we would take care of each other, that--We would miss him, but we could live our lives like he would want-us to--

-Hard to send  him to Heaven, but we al reassured him that he would never be forgotten--that he was special-- because,  he was their Dad--and they loved him to the moon and even back--

This is the man who said, "Are you crazy?" to me , when I told him that we had put  an order on his chart , to  do what is necessary to keep him alive.   

"Now why would anyone ,  ever , want to do that to a 96 yr old man?"---he asked me.-

Life is so precious------ Hug those near you---They are "special"----They are a part of your life---  Tell them how much you love them--- and try to live  each moment  of everyday--

                                                                            I shall try---

 

Good morning--

 

        

                                                                            Good Morning--

--dark here still--- I think it s cold---We are expecting an ice storm-- coming in this evening-- I think---Winter is hanging on---It is our daughter's Birthday to-day-our only girl--with 4 boys--Because of the ice storm, we are not sure how -we will celebrate  the daughter's birthday yet--

Little Lopez just got up--Oh-  I now have an Opthamologist calling me in the next 2 weeks-- in Peterborough--Now I just need a Doctor--- It is a  real waiting game--

https://hendrenfuneralhome.com/tribute/details/6273/Frederick-Young/obituary.html

 

HE ABOVE IS  MY HUSBANDS ANNOUNCEMENT IN THE TORONTO STAR--HIS FAVOURITE NEWSPAPER

If you highlight it, will it open??--  

Keep Calm and believe in yourself!

Good day ----a brand new day--and I am blogging--

Yesterday was a complete write off--and I am sorry-- AND----  (now this sounds bad)--I was walking Lopez and some poor older man was coming out of the Fire station near here---and I stopped to ask directions--AND--- in all my tears--I told him all my sad storry--AND_-THE POOR MAN LISTENED - UNBELIEVABLE!

It was one of those "sob story days---or "Daze"---

BUT ----  There is good news --To-day IS another day and so far, no tears---

We were over to our daughters B and B--last night--had supper over there--

Here we were with all our dogs---

We were eating Chinese food--as we remembered happy times with   Fred, and HIS LOVE of Chinese foods--

Lopez and I-=-

So it is a "hair"   day  to-day , with groceries--- AND___  an ice storm to-morrow, here-----  Oh--I want to tell you, ---the Robins are back---  I see them hopping all over. Isn't it nice to know that most things stay the same in this world?----

So--- I shall  try to put an effort into not feeling so sorry for myself--Life can be good---even when the man yu married has to go to Heaven---Maybe there is a reasson that he went first--Maybe he left me here for a reason--  to keep this family together---Who knows eh??--

But---- As Dad used to tell me,  " Keep your chin up"---It's a brand new day, and we are a part of it"

AND__

 

Live in the moment-!

                                                    A brand new day--and we are a part of it!

It is dark outside here---  I was awake, because   Fred was  with me in the night---He woke me up, chatting --and I felt it was him--First it seemed like him--then he was gone-- --I did not want him to go-- (if it was  him)--What do you think??

--He had no message--just seemed like he was  in my head somehow--Of course, Allison told me to sleep on his side of the huge King bed, which , as you know, is  larger than the room--She had told me last Sunday to just change the bed every other Sunday---to sleep on my side one week--and the next week, to sleep on his side (which is ""WAYEEEE" over there-) --and THEN CHANGE THE BED--  seems like a good idea---

It is plus one outside---with showers and snow flurries predicted-- Winter is  trying to hold on--

Matt (son#2) was in the Similator last night--not back yet--I wonder what kind of things they threw at him ---

I have the wash in--- Lopez still in bed--- I must get him up---  He sleeps in a crate in our bedroom-

                        --just in case you did not remember just how amazing each of us are--
-I tend to forget that ---and we must NEVER EVER forget that--- So----  when outside shopping, etc etc,  try to remember to smile at  people--- Everyone is going thru some kind of  problem---a wee smile from you just might help her (or him) get thru their day--

I shall return later---...............-  Keep your chin up --as Dad used to say--

"Trying to believe in myself!"

Good day to you!! ---  To-day seems better than yesterday-- In bed in the early morning-- I can now get up. without dreading the day without Himself---- It's usually about 5am so , of course  I might just dread the hour--but---no---I really do not want to face the day without Fred--He was a part of my day---everyday--for years and years--very hard to go on---   But--I do have Lopez----and Sushi---who sleep in the room with me--  

Anyway----  To-day IS BETTER THAN YESTERDAY,  and that is a good thing---It is wonderful to have the grown kids here with me-- and I spoke to the boys in  Elliot Lake to reassure them that I WILL  return there as soon as I am able--That is home! 

We all went out to breakfast----=kinda fun for sure! 

--hard to accept things--I just want my husband back---  to protect me-- We were always together--I am not really a very strong person-- I do try to be---but inside I am a mess-- 

I SHALL PRETEND TO BE STRONG----  Isn't there a saying--"Fake it, till you make it""-----

 

Trying to keep calm!

 

Good morning to you all--It is VERY cold  (it seems)--  sunny---No replies to all your comments yesterday--but--  I read what you all wrote and I eventually will respond-- It was good to know how much you all care-- thank yu--!!!----

I still hope to return to Elliot ---  as soon as an apartment becomes available there in the building I was hoping to go into--Any other ideas, you are thinking of, please write and let me know--  I sure am open to suggestions--I do feel like a lost soul--  I just feel that when I can return to my old stomping grounds, hopefully my mixed up memory will kick back into place-I still have to speak to the owner of this building to see if I can break the lease here---

Our daughter is still here--her hubby and her children arrive to-day and have rented a B@B close by---

I also hope I can get my old DR back---  have called the clinic--

The above picture is of the whole family---AND--the dogs---  Fred included---  kinda special---I finally figured out how to make  it larger---

So, I shall get Lopez out---I see the sun shining--I wonder when one gets over this terrible feeling that I am "not really all here--my head is so mixed up--"---forgetful---  feel like I am going in circles--

 If any of you have gone thru this, pleae let me know that you do eventually come out of this vety strange state-  Lynda

Remember the day's blessings--

 Another day---I appreciate hearing from you all--so much! ---Little by little, we get thru the day--I do keep feeling  Himself's presence--I come back from shopping and I feel he is  here ---  in the apartment, which he loved---

  He loved this apartment---  no stairs----the stand- up shower, which he could just walk into-the car right beside the door---every appliance one could imagine at his finger tips---and of course , the restaurants and  large stores close by-.Too bad I didn't move him  here sooner!

Since I have written the last blog, we have visited the funeral home--which actually  was not an unpleasant experience-We chatted with the staff at the funeral home, telling them stories of living with  Himself ----like-- stories of  our large family, and living with  a very  outstanding Dad---We plan to  have a get together for him, in July, in Elliot Lake-

He had "Double pneumonia "-(like the Pope)--but, also lung problems which we had not been aware of. Since his passing, I have been to Shoppers to get a pneumonia shot--something I should have had for him, a long time ago also---Because I am "older than  old" . I had to pay for the pneumonia shot-which is available to younger people--FREE--It is good for 10 yrs-- 

                                                Above is Himself --such a good person---who always reminded us to wash our hands--that kindness to everyone is important---that family matters---to respect our elders, take the medicine---be strong---honesty pays---and never to give up--that life is  special--- 

We miss him like hell--We will go on, because   he taught us that life is important----  to hug one another--- and  never just give up--                                                                            

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I am back---the Blog---

 Good Morning---  FINALLY--I am on here---altho I feel like I have been run over by a tractor---  SLOWLY---- very slowly---- I am returning to life--I think--  Life will never ever be the same--I know that---  Eventually I will return to Elliot Lake-- I do know that--may have to live out my lease , here, while searching for an apartment in Elliot Lake --- No more houses---which eventually have to be sold--

We will have a service, in Elliot  Lake for Fred, in July, but, I shall keep everyone posted when and where----I shall not call it "A celebration of life"  --but , probably something like,  a " Memorial" of DR Young's accomplishments"--or something like that--  He is cremated as his wishes were to have his ashes in Dunlop Lake--

All of you have been absolutely wonderful-- I will stay here in Lakefield until the apartment  where I now reside, till , the lease is up, (It was a years lease)- and then for sure I will return to where I was (-in Elliot Lake--)

I am sorry it has taken so long  get back to you all--but, losing Fred, my husband, is the worst thing that has ever happened.----

This morning, I was at Shoppers Pharmacy in Peterborough getting a pneumonia vaccine--Fred had  Pneumonia in both lungs----  Please go and get your vaccine-- so "YOU" can be strong--in case you get a flu bug--  

I shall chat with yo all, to-morrow--Lynda

My "Himself"--- My Husband --- has died--

 

                            I am so sorry to have to report that Himself. my husband , DR Young, passed ----The picture above is of my "Himself" with son #2---This was taken a long time ago, before he passed--probably just before we moved to Lakefield--He did die, in Hospital, in Peterborough-- We do not know the reasons this happened --="Pulmonary  something", which the Drs felt he might have had quite awhile and maybe a flu bug on top of all of this just  was too much for him.

I will try to  get the right diagnosis-- and let you now---  It has  been the saddest time in our lives--I am so so sorry--and sad--- Lynda

Himself in a coma---

 Fred ( My Himself) is in a coma --in hospital-    We cannot wake him up--nor do we know what has happened-Sometime to-day, I will get back to you all--

Please  , can yu pray for both of us??--Lynda

Visiting himself in Hospital--

Good day to you --- We have been into Peterborough to see Himself--Whatta great hospital--huge--new--well equipped--  lotza staff on site--including specialists--

Himself has been moved to a floor--lovely well equipped room--His own bathroom--a bulletin board on his wall with a lot of his "likes" and "dislikes" --his meds---  His nurses name---and space to ask questions-- and a huge picture window to look at the sunrise. We had to put on PPE , probably  due to his  Double Pneumonia--

He is alert. happy, still on massive antibiotics  by IV.,  and intravenous drip---- I think he is a bit better---  and seems like he has more energy, but he will not be getting out of there for awhile--Altho he is becoming his "old bossy" self which is good to see---  He must be feeling a lot better-

                            The hospital is impressive---  with a Tim Hortons in the dining room--

Spring it seems has arrives here in Lakefield, so I am putting away my heavy winter Parka--and lugging out a Spring jacket-----------do not need winter boots anymore ---

                                                We will go back to see Himself this afternoon---

Son#2 was supposed to be flying to Brazil today--instead he is driving in to Peterborough to  help his Dad--Whatta boy!---Hope you are making your day special--

 

   

 

An update on Himself--with hugs

 Good morning--=- just up here--  between 5am and 6am--I  shall try to add another blog  to this later on in the  day-- Fred is OK--  well, something very wrong , but I do not know what yet--He is still in hospital--but  a lot better-- Tests are being done but I do not have the results yet--I think the Drs are still trying to figure it  all out--something very wrong in his lungs--He is way better than he was --but--- why this all happened, we do not know---  -

He seems happy in hospital and he is breathing much better plus he is on a high dosage of antibiotics by IV----  Son#2 and I go over to the hospital twice a day-To-day I plan on going only once----I have been leaving little Lopez alone in the apartment--not crating him and he doesn't get so cold in the car--- 

I am so sorry not to have blogged yesterday--just trying to get used to being alone in this apartment---  I shall read all your comments from yesterday--and get ready to get into Peterborough again--I do miss yo all  wish you were here for company--- I promise to  add another blog laster on today --to keep yu all posted--BE STRONG- --YOU NEED TO BE STRONG WOMEN____ believe me!---Lynda

A Hospital Trip---

Fred is in the Hospital in Peterborough -- The Lakefield Paramcdics took him there last evening--It is a combination  of  is flu bug, plus the "vocal cords"  not closing, allowing  him to aspirate -which seemed to happen--causing his lungs to fill with fluids--thus giving him Pneumonia in both lungs-- He is quite ill--on IV fluids. He seems much better this afternoon--not as tired ---  but too weak to walk--I believe he will recover--but it will take time--It has been quite a night--(last night) and again to-day ,  he seems so weak-- I shall keep you posted--Lynda

 

GET OUT OF BED!

I am up-AND---the best part is--ALL IS WELL--Lopez is not up yet--- but--very soon--dark --- but rainy--but--- NOT SNOW!--It is 6-45 am-

-Canada has a new Rrime Minister----Mark Carney--a Liberal-- I heard him speak last night--and he sounded so interesting--respectful--I like him!--Plus, he seems to have a good sense of humour----sounds intelligent and knowledgable ---I believe that   Canada will do well with him--

I must tell you that yesterday, "I"  drove to Peterborough---  went to Walmart- there--- and I was proud of myself for venturing out of Lakefield--first time , almost by myself -- It was good to get out of the village here and into the city---That was the largest Walmart store I have ever been in! -  --

We have rain falling here  right now--RAIN----  NOT SNOW! Holy Cow eh!!!--That should get rid of the snow-- --  

Yesterday Lopez and I walked to the post office --in the village--this village--It is about 3 blocks away.  You see, no-one  in Lakefield have mail delivery-- We alL have to go to the local post office , with a key, and unlock a wee tiny box ,. to get our mail--Weird eh?---I am getting better at hoofing it over there--- at first I just could not remember to get over there and pick up the mail-- and the women who work in there (the mail ladies) do not like to have to cram more mail into your wee tiny little box.

    A picture of the main  street in Lakefield-- The village reminds me of a scene in a Hallmark movie--very old, but VERY nice old buildings--

I shall get Lopez out for his walk--going up to 9 degrees  I hear  to-day--- Himself seems good-- (Praise be to God!)--It might even be a nice day---

Canadians ae all excited  about our new Prime Minister--Canadians are a proud people--We love Canada-- We love being Canadian--We also love Americans and we do love the U.S.--  not so much the new President who is spouting a lot of nonsense--LOL----

                    Enough about that eh???--Hugs to yu all---Get out and enjoy the day-- NOW--

 

WE are amazing!

We shall enjoy the day--The clocks go ahead--- so more daylight hours--(I think)--The snow should begin-to melt---going up to 7 degrees to-day-- We are alive---We just might get a wee nap in after lunch--and---  below, Shakespeare said some mighty good advice--He gave many reasons and ways,  to be happy---

Last night was not good here with Himself-- He has a lot of mucous--so, instead of breathing normally, he huffs and puffs-- I tried breathing like he is doing, and it does wear one out--Just breathing normally is so much easier, even if one has a lot of mucous  ---I had to call Matt down at one point to assess the situation--Should I take Fred to Emerg---or just persevere with him, and try to get him to breathe normally-???-Matt came down and we decided , calling an ambulance might just make him worse---dragging him into Hospital   where he might be  just put aside  as Drs do not like going in there in the middle of the night-

I got thru the nite , but, it wasn't easy-- Himself doesn't take orders very well---but---  Himself is still alive--still coughing -but better because he is sitting up--Lordy Be!!

The above did make me LOL--- Well, it put a smile on my face--  You see, Himself is Chinese--- Chinese men know everything--(the wife knows not so much--they think-)---especially  if he is the Doctor--and the wife the nurse--makes everyday difficult for me--the---wife----

So, that's my story and I'm sticking with it---I am the "boss' here now---  and he better  listen--Otherwise-- he will spend some time , in Emerg---Sometimes we-(the wife)-must just tell it the way it is!!--  Strong --WE must be strong--WE have to be-- "TRULY AMAZING"-----

 

You can do ANYTHING!

 

                                                         

                                                         To-day  is International Women's Day----Whatta wonderful way to celebrate a woman's  ability--worth--eventually  moving towards  " Gender Equality "

                        We women keep the world going 'round--  My Mom used to say that-

What are you doing to-day to keep the world going 'round??/-----    Maybe you never thought of that?---  Think of all the good things that happen in a day??--Most of them are created--done--by women---Of course there usually is  some special man who helped us along the way--and we are grateful for them--

March is such a special month-- International Women's Day----  the clocks change to mark Spring-- plus I have a couple of family Birthdays this month----In the north,   March   is a huge weather change--SPRING WILL SPRING-----

Years ago, I took Women's studies courses in the evenings, with a group of women teachers who were upgrading their degrees---- We all had taken care of our families before attending the class--fed them dinner--probably bathed some younger child, prepared them all for bed--left them with their Dad, at the end of a full day, changed our clothing, jumped in our car, and attended the class somewhere in town, in the evening--- How I enjoyed those classes! ---After   having 5 young children, I finally got to do something for me--I absolutely loved  hearing all the participants in the class, speak up--argue--and all of a sudden, my mind  was stimulated--I took quite a few of these courses and  actually almost got enough courses  (English-- a science course, and a Women's study course ) to make up my first year  university degree-- All this after  spending the previous day in the home, with 5 young kids--but --how I enjoyed the stimulation! 

We have sunshine---to-day, with very cold temperatures-- I must get Lopez out  to do his business--  back to reality here--

I hope that your Friday is special---  Make it special!   YOU ARE SPECIAL----  NEVER FORGET THAT! 

YOU CAN FLY____like the turtles -----  if you decide to do that---  YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!

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FINALLY---- back---

Lordy Be--  Almost dinner time and here I am posting---- So, now you know , it has been another ice-y rough day--LOL=--but--  the ice has melted-- I even got out--- and got down the driveway with my ice grip boots--AND--=Lopez  even did hios business--FINALLY---

It is almost supper time here --but I need to tell you that I am alive---  and--SPRING is on it's way--We have sunshine---  and melted ice--a really great sign------

So--  Things  will never go back to the way they were-----but-I guess that is OK---as long as  things--life --is good anyway---So, I finally got my hair done--and the colour--the blackish tint , the Hair Lady put on by mistake--is now lightened----FINALLY!--It took a couple trips to the new Hair dresser , but I  stuck to my guns--_Moms expression--  stayed with the same Hair shop--and voila---  nice lighter hair--

Supper time---  so I best end this-- but--I had to tell yu that life is good to-day--It began kinda crazy , bnt all is well now--I hope it is in yer part of the world--

                                                        I'll look for yu Later--  lynda