Good day---another day--to get things right-- NO MORE CRYING_---NO MORE FEELING SORRY FOR MYSELF! Lord love a Duck! There just cannot be any more tears--
So, you read the obituary-??? -written by the kids-- many changes made, ----The kids finally felt it described their Dad---His grown children were very proud of their Dad--as he was , of them--
You know, we had Son#1 , and Fred said-"OK, We have our child"---then, Son#2 came along, and again he told me, "OK--- that is enough children"--but, then a little baby girl appeared , and Fred was ecstatically happy , but, I knew 3 children was enough---- so- we moved from Ottawa to Elliot Lake, and along came Phillip---born at St Joseph's Hospital----but ---- then--- Tim appeared--looking exactly like Fred--
-And you know, Fred absolutely adored all these children---accepted Timmy , proudly---AND--these were the children, who were by his side, holding his hands--helping him to breathe , talking to him, telling them it was OK to go to Heaven--that we would take care of each other, that--We would miss him, but we could live our lives like he would want-us to--
-Hard to send him to Heaven, but we al reassured him that he would never be forgotten--that he was special-- because, he was their Dad--and they loved him to the moon and even back--
This is the man who said, "Are you crazy?" to me , when I told him that we had put an order on his chart , to do what is necessary to keep him alive.
"Now why would anyone , ever , want to do that to a 96 yr old man?"---he asked me.-
Life is so precious------ Hug those near you---They are "special"----They are a part of your life--- Tell them how much you love them--- and try to live each moment of everyday--
Lynda we love you. Your blog today ===amazing
ReplyDeleteWev miss him--Lynda
Deletea very special person-----my husband--- THANK YU FOR READING ABOUT HIM--AND US-- i do appreciate that yu took the time
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aww--He was very special-- Thank yu for listenng-Lynda
DeleteTodays blog shows what an an amazing man your husband was. You and your family loved him dearly and will have so many memories of him to keep him close in your hearts.
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Oh Madeline--We do love him --Lynda
DeleteGood morning, Lynda! I admire your strength so much and your beautiful family will help keep you that way and so will the fur babies. As you know, I want to be just like you when I grow up! LOL I will see you in Medina one day! Happy Saturday! Hugs!
ReplyDeleteClearly loved and valued by his children, and I know how proud he was of them. Your family is the inverse of the family my parents raised, with the sole boy amid the four girls, two older and two younger than he was. Each one precious, and what a wonderful telling of how the children tended Fred in his final days and hours, surrounding him with love and understanding!
ReplyDeleteAll things to be proud of, and to allow joy to come creeping in, a little bit at a time, to refill the hole in your heart that might seem bottomless at times.
Barb--Thank yu for listening AGAIN about Fred--Lynda
DeleteTalk as much as you need, as long as you need to, about Fred. He was your life partner and heck, I'm still sharing "Kevin" (brother) stories, nearly six years after we lost him. It's OK. Grief is just another chapter of love.
DeleteLovely blog Lynda and beautiful tribute to Fred. Jackie
ReplyDeleteLovely tributes to your husband. And, just a reminder, tears are okay. They release our sadness and let us deal with life. Laughter is also good for that, so remember the happy times!
ReplyDeleteRD in AZ here I love the tribute from Elliot Lake also I can see how much he was loved by all especially you
ReplyDeleteLynda, Himself was a wonderful guy! Beloved by family and Friends, neighbors, distinguished! Let the tears fall, it means you have loved, not everyone has or had that! I’m 9 years a widow, I have some tears every single day! It means you LOVED and WERE LOVED! It shows you are alive! Take care…..
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful post. Beautiful tribute. He is well loved.
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Jacquie
It's Kathy. This is such a lovely celebration of your dear husband and the father of your 5 children. I wish I could have known him. Clearly your whole community will miss him so much. Thank you for sharing him with us all these years. You and your children have such wonderful memories!
ReplyDeleteYes, it is very hard to send someone so loved to Heaven, but you know Fred will be watching over all of you and he will be there waiting for you, too. And then there will be NO good-byes! He had MANY that loved him, and it has to be comforting that he touched so many lives.
ReplyDeleteHUGS and blessings. Don’t be afraid if those tears fall. They are a sign of how much you loved Himself and Himself loved YOU!
Hugs and peace
Barb
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Such a beautiful post. Such an amazing, accomplished yet humble man. He was and is very loved not only by his family but by those he served tirelessly in the community for decades..
ReplyDeleteI was touched to read that the kids were with him. He was very proud of his family as they are of him.
Let the tears fall as they will. You were lucky to have found such a love that endured all things. You two were an example of commitment. Cry...its OK. Lean on your family as all of you grieve and miss him so much. Grief is a process and different for each of us. Your tears are from loving and being loved which is a very special gift.
Thank you for sharing him.
Hoping you were able to celebrate Allison's BD.
Prayers, hugs, love and strength
Marge, St.Louis
What a kind post from Fred's colleagues! I'm not sure why, but knowing that other people have cared about our loved one is comforting.
ReplyDeleteHi Lynda: I read the obituary yesterday. It is very nice and I'm glad all the kids got involved . Also a nice tribute from the staff in Elliott Lake. You sound a bit better today. Hope I'm right! Sounds like you guys are really getting hit with the ice storm. Hope Allison can stay till the storm is over. Sounds like it should be by later tomorrow. Have a good night.
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What a wonderful post about Himself Lynda. Goes to show you that he was well respected by his colleagues, loved by all, had a wonderful relationship with all. You and him were meant to be Lynda. Like others has said, cry if you want to and don't apologize for it. Know that it's the body's response to stress and it helps to cry if needed. I am glad for your positive blog today, as it shows that you are trying to heal from such a loss. Glad you have wonderful children and wonderful memories of your marriage and raising your children. It makes me think of all the wonderful memories you have shared over the years of your family, your parents and siblings. I have read your blogs since almost the beginning in Spark. I always don't comment very often, but I read. Many, many times you have given me insight to life, and smiles beyond counting. I am still praying for the Lord to show you the way now, and give you peace and strength at this time in your life.
ReplyDeleteLynda, I read this...probably soon after you posted it. Next, I tried to comment. Just at that moment, My wi-fi quit. The unit was in its usual place, but I didn't see that it was not plugged in and had lost its charge!
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful post.
The kids wrote that obit? Wow! It's a tribute to Fred that his kids loved him and that the Elliot Health Team thought so much of him, too.
Himself led an amazing life. Now (I believe) he's free, happy and getting ready for his next go 'round.
Now it's your time to go on. Remember the good times and smile. But move forward into the rest of your life. Find reasons to be happy as often as you can.
We are still all with your supporting you in your decisions...whatever they may be. {{{HUGS}}} Love, your sis, Maggie
What an amazing family you are, Lynda! And what wonderful tributes from your family and community! I have found it a privilege to have been able to share your journey with you all these years and will continue to read as you travel your latest chapters with us! Alice the nurse in San Francisco
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ReplyDeleteThe obituary was so good, thank you kids. Fred lived a long life of blessing, and blessed others in turn. May your memories help you through this transition. (hug) 🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇
Good morning Lynda,
ReplyDeleteWhat a great tribute to "himself". My Dad's name was Fred and him
and my mother were married for 49 years. They had 5 girls and 1 boy.
I want you to know it is good to cry when you want. Do not be ashamed. We all grieve in different ways, take your time.
Looking forward to your coming blogs.
Love Ya Bev