A brand new day--and we are a part of it!
--He had no message--just seemed like he was in my head somehow--Of course, Allison told me to sleep on his side of the huge King bed, which , as you know, is larger than the room--She had told me last Sunday to just change the bed every other Sunday---to sleep on my side one week--and the next week, to sleep on his side (which is ""WAYEEEE" over there-) --and THEN CHANGE THE BED-- seems like a good idea---
It is plus one outside---with showers and snow flurries predicted-- Winter is trying to hold on--
Matt (son#2) was in the Similator last night--not back yet--I wonder what kind of things they threw at him ---
I have the wash in--- Lopez still in bed--- I must get him up--- He sleeps in a crate in our bedroom-
-I tend to forget that ---and we must NEVER EVER forget that--- So---- when outside shopping, etc etc, try to remember to smile at people--- Everyone is going thru some kind of problem---a wee smile from you just might help her (or him) get thru their day--
I shall return later---...............- Keep your chin up --as Dad used to say--
The idea about sleeping on one side of the bed one week and then the other the next week is a good one. I think I will do it too.
ReplyDeleteI am sending hugs from Windsor. I have a new appreciation for hugs.
Judy whatta good idea-- Our bed is a KING--way too large--but--now I switch sides--LOLOL--Hey, I was born ion Windsor-- Chilver Rf---Lynda
DeleteRD in AZ here I use to hug his pillow and sleep on his side of the bed it did make me feel closer to him It worked for a bit who knows what works for 1 does not work for all
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DeleteNever forget the three powerful resources you always have available to you: love, prayer, and forgiveness.
H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
Try his side, hug his pillow, whatever comforts you. You will sense his presence in your apartment and yes, I think he was talking to you. His spirit is always near you.
ReplyDeleteGosh, can't believe it's still winter there. Our villa lawns are being cut today. Magnolia trees and Red bud trees are ready to bloom along with daffodils.
Spring WILL get there eventually.
Sounds like Matt had a challenging day but, no doubt, he did great.
Sending you hugs, love and prayers. Stay strong...without the donuts lol. Have a pleasant day and smile. Yes, We are all dealing with something. Stay kind.
Love and hugs
Marge/St.Louis
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I do believe that spirits are around and yes, I believe that he was there and talking with no pain. Hold on to those times and know that he walks with you daily.
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My dear, my brother has been gone for 43 yrs. and I talk to him every day. Mom and Dad have been gone almost 8 yrs, and I talk to them every day, too. So . . . YES . . . I think Fred is telling you he’s fine and that he misses you, just like you miss him. It’s comforting!
ReplyDeleteThat is a great idea, sleeping on Himself’s side of the bed. I bet it would be comforting. And . . . ya know . . . if it’s not, then . . . don’t do it!
HUGS and comfort
Barb
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Lynda, that last meme is funny!
ReplyDeleteAllison has a great idea about the bed.
Was Fred with you during the night? Yes! I reminded you (you may not have read that comment) to be aware of him here in Spirit...dreams, sounds, smells, surges of love in your heart. I am sure he was communicating that he is well and still around for you. I have had family members who passed on as well as pets do that for me. Life doesn't end, sis. It just changes...like going from one room to another.
It's sunny and bright here, but still below freezing. It's supposed to warm up this afternoon.
I check back later, too. Lucky needs play time with me now. {{{HUGS}}} Love, Maggie.
Hi Lynda! Donuts and coffee! Yum! It must be different in bed now. I was going to tell you, put the crate in bed with you! We did Tommy when he was a baby but now he sleeps in bed without the crate and does great. He will be 2 on May 2. You could even shut the door and try Lopez in bed without the crate. Let me know if you try it. Just ideas! It is much calmer in Ohio today but chilly. I am going to the next town over this evening when my husband gets home. Better shopping. Hope your day is a good one. Hugs!
ReplyDeleteI am glad your husband visited you, real or not, it is always nice to feel our loved one’s presence. I am convinced my late husband finds things for me. I will not be able to find something, I ask for his help, and the lost item shows up, sometimes in the most unexpected places.
ReplyDeleteI have tried the switching sides of the bed idea, but I have found that I have to sleep on the side of the bed that I have slept on for years, even in motel rooms, so I have to change the sheets every week.😁
Oh yes, he was there with you, and you will feel him and even see him at times. As far as the bed -- since it's sooooo big and such a challenge to change the sheets, if it were me I'd get rid of it and change to a full-size(double) bed. I don't think the conventional wisdom about not making any major changes for the first year applies to furniture!
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DeleteI echo serenasea's idea.
I truly feel that Fred visited with you….after all he is forever in your heart. You are doing your best to navigate thru your grief and the new normal of your life. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to be sad and grieve. You will figure out what the next phase of your life will look like in due time. Today, take care of YOU! ❤️. Eissa7 (Karen)
ReplyDeleteI agree ... changing to a full size bed would make it easier to change the bed and give you more space in the bedroom.
DeleteIf I had a large bed and switched sides, I'm afraid I'd wake up in the night groggy and fall out of bed. :D
It's Kathy. I think when we lose a loved one, especially someone we lived with for most of our lives, they do come back and talk to us in some way. I still hear my dad's voice in my head sometimes. It's how we keep them close to our hearts! I also like your daughter's idea of sleeping on either side of the bed to save you from changing it every week - she's a very clever woman! I felt like that Snoopy character when I woke up this morning, too! Sorry about the cold - we're getting rain over the weekend but the next few days are pretty nice! Take care!
ReplyDeleteThat's a smart idea of Alison's, to change the sheets that way. I know it sure is a job now to do so. Even with a queen, it never seemed this hard before. Like you said, getting old is not for the weak. We here in MI was warm to the point everyone thought Spring was really here, but then the bottom dropped out and winter temps are here again. Not really bad, but cold enough for a winter coat. Hope you start to warm up quickly and get outside more.
ReplyDeleteLynda, I think that's very special, that that happened. It's never happened to me, and I've never really believed in spirits, but you just never know! :) Marti
ReplyDeleteI like your Allison's idea, too. And I'll tell you a secret... if you felt Fred there, he was there. I've had my mother, two grandmothers, and more recently, my brother, all of whom are gone come "check up on me" in my dreams since their passing. With mom, it was the week after her passing, and I had to remind her that she was in fact dead. She looked at me and said, in a way only she could, "I know. I just wanted to spend one more day with you."
ReplyDeleteThey linger, and they depart... cherish the memories.
I agree with One Kids Mom. It's so nice to have such visits from loved ones. Donna_cps2
ReplyDeleteHope all is well today since you haven't posted. Take care. Hugs Brenda
ReplyDeleteLynda! I believe your daughter, Alllison is right! I have done the very same thing! My beloved husband had ordered a new mattress for our bed which arrived one week after he died. My kids told me to send it back, but I did not because I knew he odered it because he felt it would be a good (very expensive) mattress for his aching back! I kept it and I did not want to wear it out on just one side, so I have been alternating sides each week for the last six years! And the plus side is that I don't have to wash the sheets as often! So llisten to your daughter's advice. And it makes my heart happy that you heard from Fred in your dreams last night! I wish I could be with my beloved husband more often in my dreams! I still miss him so much! And it is always nice when I wake up and realize that he had been with me in my dreams......
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