Another day---I appreciate hearing from you all--so much! ---Little by little, we get thru the day--I do keep feeling Himself's presence--I come back from shopping and I feel he is here --- in the apartment, which he loved---
He loved this apartment--- no stairs----the stand- up shower, which he could just walk into-the car right beside the door---every appliance one could imagine at his finger tips---and of course , the restaurants and large stores close by-.Too bad I didn't move him here sooner!
Since I have written the last blog, we have visited the funeral home--which actually was not an unpleasant experience-We chatted with the staff at the funeral home, telling them stories of living with Himself ----like-- stories of our large family, and living with a very outstanding Dad---We plan to have a get together for him, in July, in Elliot Lake-
He had "Double pneumonia "-(like the Pope)--but, also lung problems which we had not been aware of. Since his passing, I have been to Shoppers to get a pneumonia shot--something I should have had for him, a long time ago also---Because I am "older than old" . I had to pay for the pneumonia shot-which is available to younger people--FREE--It is good for 10 yrs--
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ReplyDeleteLynda, there are no words that can make the loss of a loved one any easier. Time and fond memories do help ease the pain. Here is a quote I find comforting in dealing with Loss "Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy." Inuit Proverb. Thinking of you and your family. Jackie
DeleteHugs, Lynda! - Marti
ReplyDeleteThat is wonderful that Himself got to enjoy the amenities of the apartment – even if for a short while. That’s a blessing.
ReplyDeleteAll those good memories. They help fill the hole in your heart. That’s what my Dad said to me . . . don’t mourn for me. Fill that hole in your heart with good memories. Well, obviously, it’s impossible not to mourn the loss, but those good memories do help.
Fred was a treasure to all of you his whole life. He’s smiling down on y’all and helping you navigate each new day. And I know, sending blessings.
HUGS, peace, comfort, love
Barb
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I am a widow who, 8 years after his death, still talks to my husband because I feel his presence in my life. Usually I am not speaking out loud, but it gives me comfort, and I decided early on in the grief process that I could do whatever worked for me to get through the day. Also, I felt we had a good marriage, but after my husband passed, I would think about something I said or did during his battle with cancer when I was stressed and not at my best, and feel guilty. I quickly realized that we cannot go back and change those things, that my husband was not a perfect human being either, and so, spending time on guilt was a waste of energy and I refused to go there. My last bit of grief advice is this. You will miss your husband everyday, so don’t let holidays or birthdays or other significant days become harder days to deal with. They are just another day that you must learn to handle on your own, and you can do it, because you are resilient, and you have known love. Hugs to you, and thank you for your usual positive post when you are dealing with the loss of your husband.
ReplyDeleteHi Lynda, it's Kathy. I'm not sure how I missed yesterday's blog. I may have checked earlier than you posted (because I've been checking every day) and forgot to try again. My heart breaks for you. I can't imagine how difficult these days are for you. My only comparison is when my father died - he was the most important person in my life and I didn't know how I would keep going. But I knew that is what he would want of me. Take care of yourself! I'm still praying for you every day!
ReplyDeleteHi Lynda! Happy Saturday! One day at a time, dear friend. It is gloomy in Ohio but all is good. I do hope you come to Medina one day. We must get ice cream. Lol Stay strong. Hugs!
ReplyDeleteRD in AZ here You were missed but you have so many things to do I know that I will miss hearing about what Fred did that day but feel free to share the memories with us I for one feel as if you are family and we do care I agree that you stay out your lease but also look at the pro's and con's of another move you may not really feel up to it or you may get to where you just can't wait to go only time will tell
ReplyDeletebig hugs sweet lady we love you on here stay strong you got this
I'm so glad that Himself enjoyed the apartment, and that Son #2 got lots of time with you two before Himself went home. As well, staying there through the lease is nice in that Son#2 gets more time with you. And it gives you time to adjust and grieve with no additional stress of a move. During that time you can settle into life on your own and research, think, plan for your next chapter, whether it's where you are are back in Elliot Lake.
ReplyDeleteKeeping you in prayer. Hugs.
PHOENIX1949
ReplyDelete((( HUGS )))
Thinking of you today Lyda. Keeping you and your family in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteLove the shot of Himself...the fact that his last few months were so happy is wonderful!
ReplyDeleteKnowing that Himself loved that apartment might give you comfort and confidence that the move was the right thing at the right time. Sometimes we don't know that until "later"... maybe now is that "later"... if that makes sense.
ReplyDeleteThink of you every day. Hold the happy memories close!
Awww i love what Fred told his family. He was a good man. You were blessed to find the love of your life. The void his passing leaves can never be filled. I love his response when asked what was his best decision ever...he said marrying Lynda. I find comfort in his loving the apartment. Matt and wife were outstanding after your move. Yes, Lynda, you will sense and feel his presence. He will always be with you. I like the picture...a gentle soul.
ReplyDeleteTake it a day at a time. We all love you and we miss himself as you shared your daily life with us. Carry on as best you can. Know that you are loved as was himself.
Hugs and blessings
Marge/St.Louis
Hi my friend,
ReplyDeleteI can't even imagine how you must be feeling right now. I have been wondering how you, your kids and grandkids are doing. I am keeping you in my prayers. I wish I could give you a big hug and sit down at your kitchen table w/a good cup of coffee and doughnut and hear all about your good times with Fred. { My Dad's name was Fred also)
Take care
Luv Bev
Hi Lynda: I'm real glad that himself loved the apartment so much. Makes you feel that moving there was the right decision; and it also gave you both the time to spend with Matt and his wife like the other boys never spent much time with you both. I hope they have called you since himself went in the hospital. I hope you get a chance to meet more people there before deciding on moving back to Elliott lake. The picture of himself shows how bright it was in the apartment. Take care of yourself. Hugs Brenda
ReplyDeleteGreat to see this blog, Lynda. Is the photo of Fred in the new apartment?
ReplyDeleteThat first meme says it all. It's just like my Law of Attraction.
A friend once gave me plaques as a Secret Santa Christmas gift: Remember Yesterday, Live Today, Dream Tomorrow.
Wishing you moved years ago? That's hindsight...we all have that at times.
Himself (and, I am sure you) taught his kids some great things that they will remember the rest of theirs lives and teach their kids, too.
We never got that snow storm I told you about...the weather map showed that we were right on the edge of where it was to be.
"Keep on Tuckin", Lynda. We are all with you in Spirit and still praying for you and yours. {{{HUSG}}} Love, Maggie
lynda, it says a lot that he liked the place you moved to and could enjoy it while he was able to. It took A LOT for you to manage that difficult move all by yourself. my dad struggled for years about whether to move - my mom was in care and he was in the process of moving into the same facility but in his own apartment. He became ill and died before he could. I wished he would have moved closer to us (i have 2 sisters) but he went back and forth on that for years. I felt like he had his own life there where he had lived for so long, and had friendships and his work (he was a doctor too). My mom had been ill so long that I think moving and having just us was not something he was interested in. The point is, you did a good thing for him and it was dang hard for you. I hope lyou can find time to rest some after such a difficult couple of years of caretaking and moving. You of course miss him. Its also ok to rest.
ReplyDeleteHe was happy there Lynda................that is worth a lot. When David was so ill, my daughter nagged him to move here....I finally had to call her and tell her to lay off....and quit the phone calls and texts trying to get him to move. He loved our home, and wanted to stay there. Of course for him it was the only home he ever owned being a military man.
ReplyDeleteHimself was happy, so that is worth a fortune. You made him happy. Have you considered staying there? You're closer to #2 who is far more helpful....
Much love and prayers for you...
I know that you are going through a very rough time, and I am so glad that your son is there for you. The first year is so hard. He was a great man, husband and father.
ReplyDeleteLove and prayers for you and your family