Today is Monday, November 10th--no sunshine yet--and it is freezing cold outside--no snow falling tho--yet--but, one never knows--It may start to snow anytime!--I hope not ----
I just laid out my pills-for to-day- My husband used to do that for me. So many things he did for me---The snow tires--He always took the car to the dealer and took care of that also.---As he grew older, he could not do the grass , or the snow---- so those chores began to fall to me--He, however was great with the cooking--a way better cook than I ever was--and he could create a meal out of nothing--a fantastic tasty meal at that-----He always knew how to handle the kids-- even better as they grew older-- were in high school and going to dances and drinking at times--He would always
pick them up--after a dance or a party , and not too much upset him.-- I MISS HIM---- Can you tell??
There he is-- On the top left corner corner-- He loved his family--
but=--life goes on----but-- where did he go??--- Allison did enjoy her encounter with the medium--Theresa ---Even tho she didn't get a reading, she said that she learned a lot--maybe people become "spirits"-----are still hanging around---maybe in Heaven--- We do not know, do we??-----Perhaps one day we will understand all this--
But----in the meantime, I must cope---and I really am trying--I DO FIND HOWEVER, THAT THERE IS JUST NOT ENOUGH TIME IN EVERYDAY----Do you find that?--It seems that I am still doing chores and it is bedtime!! That never used to happen!
One day --one thought --One task at a time--not as many tears--more confidence as each day passes--We seem to get thru this---this living alone--Lopez and Sushi help-- friends help a lot---a good book goes a long way---------------and my kids really do make my life worth living--
Amen to taking one day, one thought, etc. at a time when you feel overwhelmed! Such good advice! And yes - the days seem to get shorter for me also as I never seem to be able to get everything done that I had planned for the day. Maybe as we get older, we just plan way more than we can handle? Or maybe we just do everything more slowly so the projects take more time? I also think that we have to stop and rest more often! My brain tells me I need to "just stop and sit down for a few minutes" and so I do! I share your sentiments about missing Fred and all that he did for you....I didn't realize how many things my hubby did for me until he was gone!
ReplyDeletehard eh Sandra??-- It is good for me to hear that I am going thru what yu went thru=--and you survived--Thank yu for writing--Lynda
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ReplyDeleteBeautiful blue skies here and it is to be in the 30s F.
I believe our soul...our spirit...goes on. That's why people often feel (or sense in another way) that their loved ones are still with them after they have passed on. I have experienced that with people (mama and grandma especially) and pets.
Love that photo of the family. Himself sounds like a wonderful father and husband. The Bible would have called him a 'help mate.'
Chores are endless. I wonder if I can ever get them all done at one time so everything is perfect around my home. I have to, though, as we have another inspection coming up on the 19th. That's the day before the procedure to dilate my esophagus.
The good thing is that the couple days after that procedure when I will probably have a sore throat and not feel up to par with all the drugs, I will need to do very little.
Better get to today's chores, Lynda. I will check back at end of day.
Busy or not, enjoy your day and DO take that time to relax and recharge! {{{HUGS}}} Love, Maggie
Well Maggie everyday takes time--- chores-- banking--moving summer clothes--putting them away--walking Lopez--vacuuming--a busy day every day--Now why are they working on your esophagus??---- I hired a man to plough today--(in case it snows)
Deletea day- is never long enough-- Not going out to Andrews to-day staying home here--I am not good driving back in the dark-- HUgs-- Lynda
It's Kathy. Yes, the day comes to an end far before I have done all the things I wanted to do - but... I just stop. There's always tomorrow. And if there isn't, someone else will have to do those things! I do believe the spirit of our loved ones are with us always. I talk to my dad all the time, he was the wisest person on earth! At this point in my life, he is the ONLY person I miss so much - I loved my mom but I never really felt loved BY her. I hope you have a good day today. We did have some snow fall last night, but only enough to see on the ground through the grass and it will warm up by Wednesday! Take care!
ReplyDeleteHi Kathy-- Too bad yu did not feel loved by yer Mom--Funny--coz I was much closer to my Dad than my Mom-- Yes we had a few flakes of snow fall last nite but there will be so much more coming-(I hIred a guy with a plough today--paid him till Xmas)--- That will be one less thing for me to do-- Keep yer chin up--Dad used to tell me that--and hugs gto yu--I love yu--THere! --- LOL--Hugs, Lynda
DeleteIt’s Monday and we all have lists of things to get done. I think I just don’t have the energy anymore, so the list slowly gets checked off but never ends. Thank goodness no one is keeping track of what I accomplish except me. And yes, life is definitely harder when you have lost your helpmate and their loving support, but we can do it.
ReplyDeleteHave a great day, keep moving, stay warm, and know that our loved ones walk with us in our memories, Susan/Colorado
Susan---Yu lost yer husband also??--I like that--"Our loved ones walk with us"""_-It is tough without Fred-- I m tying however---hard too-- At least I am not crying as much----so many chores-- Today I hired a snow plough guy--just everything is hard right now--Do yu feel that way??-- Hugs to yu-Lynda
DeleteGood morning, Lynda! It is 32 feels like 17 and we DO have snow in Ohio! I am proud of you for staying busy and less tears. He was an amazing man and find comfort by holding those great memories in your heart. I know Lopez and Sushi are so good for you and of course, your children. Hope you have a warm and wonderful Monday! Hugs!
ReplyDeleteLife is just plain hard right now-- Sushi does help-- Son#2 helps--Lopez (the bad boy!--is my friend-- Son#1 helps a lot--Timmy advises me on the snows--Phil just called--Allison just called-- I hope Fred is here somewhere-- I miss him --so so much-- LOL_- and all yu people do help me-- HUgs, Lynda
DeleteGood morning Lynda, I'm reading about the cool/freezing temps all of you are experiencing and it is going to be 90 degrees here where I live. Whoever does not believe in the effects of climate change is not paying attention. On Thursday it's going to be 65 degrees and rainy. Great photo. Enjoy your day.
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Maureen--- YU are so lucky to live where yu do--All I did all morning here was lug out parkas and boots-- LOL_-It is cold here now!--Lynda
DeleteDebbie here: you sound so upbeat and ready for the day. A day started in gratitude sets one up for a week of joy. Going to adopt your attitude today, thank you!
ReplyDeleteDebby--Did you adopt my attitude??-- I do try--but--- there are still moments I cry a lot---Will that ever end?--People here have been so kind--and I appreciate that VERY much--Lynda
DeleteI'm reading at lunch time... and realized I hadn't taken my own morning pill! So did that now. Better a bit late and off instructions than missing it entirely! Thanks for reminding me!
ReplyDeleteFunny how when people are gone from our lives we realize how many things they did to make life just a little easier for us! Now I will think of Fred and you when I take my own morning pills!
I went to the eye doctor today for my annual exam. I suspected but found out it is true... I have been developing some scarring around the lens they inserted last year... so now I have an appointment in December to have that scarring taken care of. There's always something, right?
Barb--yes, There is always some health thing happening now--LOL_-Fred used to always help me out with all that--but--gradually I am getting better--- I now have a pill pack--The Pharmacy makes it up monthly for me----all these new ways to live eh?--and wee Lopez is my company--and Sushi in bed at nite sleeps where Fred did-- kinda a crazy different life--but-- I guess it is what it is--LOL--Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda, love your upbeat, positive posts.
ReplyDeleteNo, I don't seem to get everything on the list done but thats ok. I do my best and thats good enough.
Your dear husband was a wonderful man. Enjoy all your great memories. I do believe the spirit of a loved one is near and watching. I can talk to them anytime. I notice signs like a cardinal or a penny that are important to me. They are still with us.
Enjoy today.
Marge in very cold St.Louis
Marge I must believe that Fred is near--altho I do not feel him helping me as much as I would like--I know I am better than when he first passed--and it just takes time I guess-- Cherish yer time with people yu love-- HUgs, Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda: I also never get everything done everyday. Yes Fred obviously loved his family and you also obviously love and miss him very much. You are lucky to have missed the snow yesterday - we got your share in Toronto! Hugs Brenda
ReplyDeleteYes Matt sent pics of the snow he was driving thru on his way from Toronto airport--It looked bad!--WE missed all that--Lynda
DeleteAwwww, of course, you miss Himself a lot. But look @ all the memories you created in your time together. Many aren’t lucky enough to have such precious memories. He is looking down smiling @ you as he is proud of all you’ve done. And I KNOW he’s happy you’re back in Lake Elliot. I am sure that makes him happy, as that is where you were both happy.
ReplyDeleteI am glad Allison met w/Theresa. Surprised she didn’t get a reading, Despite that, You’ll get signs from Fred telling you he’s ok. When my brother passed, it was about 9 mths. and I started getting signs. The biggest one was finding significant pennies, one w/his birth year, He collected pennies. So Fred will find a way to let you know when he is able.
Definitely need to take things a day @ a time. No matter what.
Hugs and blessings
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aww Barb!!! I hope he finds a way to let me know he is close-- so hard--- but--I do feel I am better now--sorta --than when he first passed--Everything is just different--but--I do remember his kindness--his patience--his love-- his intelligence--I was so fortunate to have found him yrs ago--and he sure did love his kids!--Lynda
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