So yesterday, I attended the first Bereavement Course---at the hospital--There were maybe 12 to 15 of us-- old people--(like me)--mostly all women--like me--one man--a young man--There were 4 leaders-- We were a lot of tears as we shared our stories--The leaders handed out a drawing of a heart to each of us--Then we had to write in the heart how each of our hearts felt----like sad--After a few hours of discussions, we then ere given another picture of a heart--and we then wrote inside the heart how our heart felt--The poor heart had much more uplifting things written in it--so--I felt that maybe the few hours of discussions did help me--This course goes on for a few weeks--
Poor wee Lopez was left alone in the house-- for --like--4 hrs----He survived, but I felt sorry for him to be left alone for so long-----And when I cid get back home, Lopez and I had to take all those chopped up boxes to the dump------
So, here I am, under the stairs--Typing away here--a funny wee house isn't it??--but--it does suit me!--and one of my favourite "blasts from the past"----- You know that Fred--Himself, loved Shepherds-- We always used to have 2 at the same time--So, years ago--I always used to think that this picture below, looked like "dinner time" at our home---------------------and another favourite picture from Dieppe public School--below-----Our children attended that school-- So--I must get little Lopez out--his coat on him-- and walk the block--I hope that your day goes well-- Be careful with orders placed , that you don't make a mistake and order 200 and not just 2------ It is a lot of work to chop up the boxes!--just thought I'd tell anyou all that!
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Good morning, sis.
ReplyDeleteI am happy that your class is helping you and your classmates. Talking things out always seems to help. That's why you blog, too.
It's cold here, too. Only 28F and overcast. No snow predicted for today and warmer this afternoon.
I am about to get some laundry started. It's easier to get to a machine when I start early. I do appreciate when I can have a 'slow morning,' though. Saw a post about that yesterday on FB.
Are you using those pads that escaped their boxes (and the truck) to dust your furniture? The whole scenario you described yesterday made me laugh!
I'll be back to check later, Lynda. Enjoy your day! {{{HUGS}}} Love, Maggie
Maggie--YU start the washer early also-- good to get it done!-and yes that class (I call it the "sad class"--does help--Lynda
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ReplyDeleteIm glad you felt a tad better after the bereavement group. You're not alone, as you saw in that room.
Don't worry about Lopez. He doesn't know how long you were gone. Dogs don't know time the same as humans. His routine wasn't disturbed....he slept just like Sushi. People have to work so lots of dogs are alone for much longer periods. He's fine and will be fine.
I loved the German Shepherd picture.
I still find the Amazon mistake funny. You might try returning some of the unbroken cases. Just a thought.
Enjoy your day.
Chilly/40s here but I heard its to be in the 70s by the weekend. We actually were able to see the Northern Lights in St.Louis Tuesday night. Amazing.
Have a great day.
House tidy and off to gym.
Hugs
Marge
Well Marge--I did keep the pads but--I will be more careful when I order--and the Amazon guy came--like after 11pm--There were pads everywhere--was terrible!--Lynda--and then--there were huge long boxes to cut up--at my bedtime!-
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ReplyDeleteSo glad that the bereavement class was helpful and you might even make some new friends in the process.
I bet Lopez was happy to see you, but it's ok to leave him for a few hours. He could get in a good nap.
Hang in there and have a wonderful day!
Jackie
Well Jackie--Lopez seems to cope when ever-- I leave him-- but I do worry bout him!-Lynda
DeleteGood morning! Sunny and 50 in Ohio! Yay! Think you better come to Medina now instead of Spring! We can eat ice cream in the Winter! LOL! So happy your grief session helped you! It must be good to be around others who can relate. Oh that pad order. Gosh, easy to do. Love your “blog corner”. You need a sign…”blog corner”. Ha ha! Stay warm and enjoy your day! Hugs!
ReplyDeleteWE CAN eat ice cream anytime--LOL--Winter--Summer--'specially chocolate!---LOL--Lynda
DeleteIt's Kathy. I'm so glad the bereavement class was helpful. I do think that whenever you can share your feelings about things with others it takes a bit of the pain away. When I saw the Pain Management doctor she said "you have really stuffed your pain" and my response - my husband doesn't want to hear me complaining all the time! I sure don't want to share it with my children, and I've not seen any humans for at least 2 months! But today I had an early call from my favorite physical therapist and she has an opening at 2 pm today!!! YEAH! Maybe she can help me figure out what I need to be doing! Love the pictures - especially the one with the dogs around the table. Daisy isn't too happy with me when I have to leave her (she sulks in her kennel when she sees me put shoes on) but she's always happy to see me come home. I made Broccoli Cheddar Soup in the slow cooker today - I sure hope it turns out! Have a good day.
ReplyDeleteOHhhhh Kathy--How was that soup??--It sounds delicious--Lynda
DeleteI'm so glad that bereavement group is there for you and that it seems to help. A burden shared is a burden halved, as the old saying goes.
ReplyDeleteYU know that "sad class"(what I call it)--really does help--I do feel better for going--Lynda
DeleteGood morning Lynda, I was so happy to hear the your bereavement group has finally started and that you have a safe space to share your heartache. As you discovered, you are not alone. I think more women lose their husbands that men losing their wives, that's why there were so many women in your group. It sounds like the 4 leaders have a well thought out program for all of you. I hope your day goes well.
ReplyDelete"The Sad class"--does help--I never thought it would--but-- my heart felt better when I left---that "dying" is normal----- Lynda
DeleteGlad you got to the grief group. I found one helpful for a while, talking to others who were going through a similar experience. I will say that grief is certainly different for everyone, and some folks have a really hard time trying to figure out what life will be without their loved one. It is not easy, but we are still alive and must keep trying and moving and looking for joy wherever we can find it. I did meet some lovely people in the group.
ReplyDeleteI think your wee house is perfect, although with my knees, the stairs might be a problem. It is nice to downsize, and get rid of stuff.
Take care, and stay off the internet! 😁. Susan/ Colorado
Yes Susan--I do like my tiny house--all I need--but I keep "downsizing" all our huge furniture and Matt is telling me to stop spending money--LOLOL--Lynda
DeleteDefinitely sounds like your Bereavement class was productive. I am so glad for you.
ReplyDeleteLOVE that picture. Sweet!
had a decent weather day here, fortunately. Will enjoy it til it changes on Sunday.
HUGS and blessings
barb
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Barb I love the pics of yer dog!!____and yes I highly recommend a "sad class"--Lynda
DeleteI did not go to a grief counseling class when I lost my husband, but when my mom died a year later after losing my sweet hubby, I was really knocked for a loop....as I had made taking care of my mom my way of dealing with my initial grief....thought it was why I was still living and my DH was gone. Problem was that when my mom died, it was during COVID! So no one was going anywhere. Fortunately, a lovely lady lead a "Grief Share" group online! So every week, I met online with here and 5 other sweet ladies who also had lost their loved one......we watched videos, shared stories, answered questions and helped each other heal. I am so happy to hear that you are getting to something similar.....you never stop grieving for your lost loved one, but time helps you to deal with the loss and that great big hole in your heart never goes away, but it seems to get smaller. Sending you a big hug!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteSandra--so so true-- thev "sad class" reAlly helps one deal with the grief--Your books helped mec also--HUgs to yu-- YU are strong--Lynda
Deleteit is good to hear that the grief group helped you to feel better they do tend to help people seepast this point
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Love cures people - both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it.
Karl A. Menninger
have a wonderful day
Great quote-- Thank yu--"love"-- I sure loved my HIMSELF-- He once told me the best thing he ever did was "marry me"" It made me cry--
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