Yesterday was a complete write off--and I am sorry-- AND---- (now this sounds bad)--I was walking Lopez and some poor older man was coming out of the Fire station near here---and I stopped to ask directions--AND--- in all my tears--I told him all my sad storry--AND_-THE POOR MAN LISTENED - UNBELIEVABLE!
It was one of those "sob story days---or "Daze"---
We were over to our daughters B and B--last night--had supper over there--
Here we were with all our dogs---
Here we were with all our dogs---
We were eating Chinese food--as we remembered happy times with Fred, and HIS LOVE of Chinese foods--
Lopez and I-=-
So it is a "hair" day to-day , with groceries--- AND___ an ice storm to-morrow, here----- Oh--I want to tell you, ---the Robins are back--- I see them hopping all over. Isn't it nice to know that most things stay the same in this world?----
So--- I shall try to put an effort into not feeling so sorry for myself--Life can be good---even when the man yu married has to go to Heaven---Maybe there is a reasson that he went first--Maybe he left me here for a reason-- to keep this family together---Who knows eh??--
But---- As Dad used to tell me, " Keep your chin up"---It's a brand new day, and we are a part of it"
AND__
RD in AZ here it is a new day and you are part of it that is the best part enjoy your day and get the things done that you want to get done I am sure that Fred is there with you and encouraging you to keep going and stay strong
ReplyDeleteWE have Freds ashes here because his wishes were to be put in Dunlop Lake--It is sunny tody outside but an ice storm tomorrow--Lynda
DeleteGood morning, Lynda! It is sunny and high 57 in Ohio with chirping birds. Sorry you are getting that ice storm. Such a nice Chinese meal with your family and sweet little Lopez. It’s okay you talked to the man and he listened. That was nice of him and good for you. I am thankful that Himself lived a great, long life and did not suffer or was not ill at home for a long time. Have you tried the cage in bed or Lopez in bed with the door shut, yet? I think you both would love it. Happy Thursday. Hugs!
ReplyDeleteWEll, Sushi the cat sleeps on the bed--so--I put Lopez' crate on a bench right beside the bed-- He likes to see me--- He is turning into a good little guy--Lynda
DeleteAhhh! He will help you so much!
DeleteGood morning Lynda…. You are allowed all those emotions. Stay home tomorrow during that ice storm. I’m sure that man at the fire station has had his own sadness. I’m glad he listened. Enjoy your hair day and food shopping. Great pictures!
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Hi Vicki--The poor man eh--but he stood there and listened-- Tell yer husband you love him-- I never said that enough--Lynda
DeleteIt is a good thing to tell your story, I think it is helpful to others to listen. I went to a grief group after my husband died and it helped me to talk and to listen. There was a wonderful therapist who also did private sessions if we wanted them. It was offered through the community.
ReplyDeleteWhatta great thing to go to--- That poor guy probably went home and told his wife he meant this crazy Lady--LOL--Lynda
DeleteWonderful to see you blogging, Lynda. I know those sob story blogs. I am sure we all do. Now I try to focus on the positive stuff. It's always there, but sometimes it's buried beneath the 'bad' feelings. I am getting better at it.
ReplyDeleteThe photos are great. So happy your daughter and hers are still with you.
Hair Day will be enjoyable.
An ice storm AND robins? Wow. Mother Nature is getting mixed up.
It's 19 degrees over freezing here and will warm up another 20 degrees. It's mostly cloudy, though, and may rain.
I just got scheduled for the infusion I (supposedly) need to strengthen my bones. Labs first, then the IV.
Lucky is saying it's time I got off this computer and romp him around. I swear, I am his slave.
I'll check you for any comment later. Still praying for you and holding you in my thoughts. {{{HUGS}}} Love, your sis, Maggie
aww Maggie --so good of you to keep me in yer thoughts---Funny how one goes up and down--Yesterday was a ""sob yer heart out" day-- and "tell everyone yer sadness"-- That poor man tht I told everything--and I never saw him before in ,my life-I just miss Fred like hell!!- Allison is using your laundry sheets --(here) and loves thjem--She said to tell yu--Hugs my friend--Lynda
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ReplyDeleteA friend from college just posted this and I thought of you when I read it.
Grief isn't meant to be a cage-it's meant to be a door. A passage, not a prison. A bridge, not a wall. So, let the tears fall when they come. Let the laughter rise when memories bring warmth. And let sorrow and joy exist side by side, for they are not opposites-they are just love in different forms. Jameson Arasi
ba_coy from Sparkpeople
Oh that is so nice--I must save it--Thank yu for sharing--- Hug your family for me--- I wish I had had more hugs--Lynda
DeleteI remember crying any time someone was nice to me or offered their condolences. The tears would just flow. It eventually got better, but occasionally, 8 years later, if I mention my husband, I get choked up. Funny how our emotions work. I am sure the gentlemen survived the conversation and understood your grief.
DeleteThe dinner looked like fun, and the dogs looked happy!😀 Take care !
The man probably went home and told his wife he ment this crazy woman--LOL--LYnda
DeleteGood morning Lynda, I'm glad to hear you've decided to have your hair done today because that always seems to perk you up. I think God moves in mysterious ways at times, and I'd like to think that He put the man exiting the fire station directly in your path so that you could relieve your heavy heart by sharing. God knows what we need at all times, and I think this was one of those times. The days ahead will be a mixture of feelings... some days you'll feel sad beyond measure, and other days you're enjoying happy memories. Yesterday is behind you, and you have no idea what tomorrow might bring, so just do the best you can on the day at hand. Please don't scold yourself for crying because it's a natural response to what you've experienced.
ReplyDeleteThe food in the photo looks delicious and the photo of the three of you with you dogs is sweet.
God bless you Lynda.
Maureen from California
Hi Lynda, it's Kathy. I think that man was put in your path for a reason. Sometimes it's easier to talk with a stranger than it is to talk with a friend. You had words that needed to get out and God sent you an angel to listen! I loved the pictures of you and your family - and even little Lopez got to go with. I think you are doing amazingly well for someone who just lost the love of her life! Enjoy your Hair Day! I know that was my mom's favorite day of the week!
ReplyDeleteKaty-Yes I did get my hair done and I like this new girl--Lynda
DeleteDon't feel bad. I know you have helped many people over your lifetime, it's OK to be the one being listened to now, in your sorrowful times! How kind of that gentleman to do just that... listen.
ReplyDeleteHugs, and hope it's a good hair day!
yes Barb--I must listen to others who need to do the same eh--Lynda
DeleteAwwww, well it was meant to be that you talked w/that gentleman. Glad he listened. We all need that some days!
ReplyDeleteI am glad you were able to get together w/your family for Chinese food and reminiscing.
You know what . . . it’s all RIGHT to feel sorry for yourself right now! Just don’t miss the good moments, too.
HUGS my dear. Let those tears flow as they may. That’s a good thing.
Blessings and peace
Barb
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Aww Barb--- To-day was a much better day--- Good thing--Lynda
DeleteOh, so good that you all are getting together and reminisce. That first little while after losing a loved one it's good to be close together and share memories, huddle around the warmth in the emotional storm so-to-speak. And the puppers were there too! Sweet. Looks like Mr. Lopez was being a good boy.
ReplyDeleteIt's okay to cry; it's early days, really, in terms of losing a dearly loved person. We try so hard to 'be okay' and not be a bother by showing our pain, try to show a strong face. But most people of a certain age have lived through some terrible pain and losses, so perhaps are more able to listen when we need it. As some others have mentioned, there are small group grief support groups; here where I live they are typically held at a church. My aunt, and also two friends who lost spouses felt like they helped them greatly, better than individual counseling. You'll find your way. Be as kind to yourself as you would someone else who grieves ... seems like most of us don't do that for ourselves.
Hugs to you! I'm keeping you in my prayers.
awwwww I do feel your prayers--Thank yu-- Lynda
DeleteLynda, I know you are experiencing tons of emotions right now. I pray that God gives you the strength you need, the peace to calm, and joy to show you the way forward. I have a friend who just like you lost her husband. She tells me that she wants to talk about him, as she is all over the place with emotions. So she calls and I listen. She needs that as you probably do to. I'm glad you have family there with you for a bit. I wish the best for you.
ReplyDeleteThank you for all your kind thoughts and ideas--Lynda
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