It's the "crack of dawn" here--- milder--- like minus 3C-- and no snow till this evening.
All is quiet on the western front so far to-day-- The Dr. came out yesterday morning, but the whole visit , so far, did not amount to much-- (so many more suggestions from all of yu)--on how to deal with "older age" problems--However, we shall see , what we shall see--Perhaps all good things take time-- This DR did suggest a brain scan and a talk to a Dr who specializes in "older age problems-"-
Because we are getting snow this evening, and because we are down to one mushy black banana, I will be heading to the grocery store shortly-- the earlier I get there, the fewer people there will be in the store.-- I have a list as long as my arm----
I wish my daughter was not so free with her trying to help, from Ohio---I did have to tell her that she must ask us before making all these arrangements--
Oh man, it is tough being a Mom----Maybe there is something good about living on a desert island at our Age-- away from the frightening crowd ---
Wishing you a peaceful day, Lynda!! Stay strong and take care of YOU, too!! You are dealing with a lot of mental/emotional stress right now....Sending hugs, ��, and ❤️.
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I hope you got those three posters I sent on Messenger for you. I find they help me when I re-read them before seeing mom. I did answer your comment on my blog post too. Winter makes this harder too as you cannot go for much of a walk to clear your head and take a breath but this is truly the time for just taking one day, one step at a time. When I get overwhelmed with all that might need doing I pull back and take a breath and just take the very next step, no more and then the next. It really helps. Huge hugs my friend!
ReplyDeleteStay safe.
ReplyDeleteBe safe with your travels and long list at the store.
ReplyDeleteAlthough the visiting Dr. had some suggestions, doesn't sound like much was accomplished.
Nothing wrong with telling your daughter not to manage the situation from Ohio. You are there and more than competent to decide what next steps to take.
Take it a day at a time. Do take care of you. Prayers and hugs for you and your family.
Hugs dear lady. Be safe.
Wish the doctor visit was more productive. Hope your day at the grocery goes well. Thinking of you often during the day
ReplyDeleteI hope this doctor arranges the scan and appointments for you, so you are not on the phone waiting forever for human help. Careful at the store today…..yes, one step at a time.
ReplyDelete((( hugs ))) Hope things are quiet and calm at the grocery, and you get there and back safe and sound. MRI is something I had done after my falling and concussion issues back in 2016... very interesting process, hope it gives you some answers, too.
ReplyDeleteHugs.
ReplyDeletePerhaps your daughter is frustrated with being so far away and unable to help. Making arrangements for you may be her way of coping and feeling like she can do Something at least bc she loves you both. Her intentions are likely good and you are right to feel she must consult you first. I dont know which is more stressful, being in the thick of the situation or being far removed and imagining all sorts of troublesome scenarios for a loved one. Both are hard indeed. You are in my thoughts today. And I thank you for brightening my day each day despite your situation. You are a force of nature.
ReplyDeleteI hope you had a good trip to the grocery store ! Maybe the little break for you helps. Wish the Dr had been more helpful but like someone mentioned, maybe he'll set up some tests for Himself. Keeping you all in my prayers ((hugs))
ReplyDeleteOh well, you know, a gerontologist may just be a good fit for your Himself . . . IF there is one available. My parents both had the same gerontologist and he was wonderful.
ReplyDelete(((HUGS)))) to you and Himself. It's hard when the landscape of life keeps changing on you. Prayers.
And I hope that your foray to the grocery store is a good little 'get-away' of sorts.
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1crazydog
I'm with you. I also have 5 children and it seems like the daughters (3) are much more free with their advice - typically advice I didn't ask for. It makes me wonder who they think THEY learned from..... After all, we're the ones who taught them how to be good mom's and good people! Take care of yourself while you are taking care of himself! I hope this all eases up once Spring comes!
ReplyDeleteYes, it is tough being a mom, a wife, and a grandmother. ((hugs))
ReplyDeleteDon't know how your daughter can arranged stuff from Ohio. Seems the doctor here would be able to do more and she should remember our healthcare is different from the US. Glad things are better today. Hope your trip to the store was ok. At least you got out with a change of scenery. It's warmer here today too but tomorrow starts as rain and changes to snow and could go on for 2 days. The streets are still not cleaned up totally from the last storm a few weeks ago so not looking forward to it. As someone mentioned a gerontologist would be good. Don't know if you have one there. Doctors from Fred's clinic probably feel awkward about being there? How's Lopez doing? Look after yourself.
ReplyDeleteThere's plenty of good advice. Happy you are finding some of the comments helpful. Maybe the Dr. did not want to say too much prematurely.
ReplyDeleteLynda, either your daughter needs to come home for a visit or talk to his dr. or one of the boys to explain to her that her father is 93 and has
ReplyDeletedementia and it is escalating.
I pray you are not injured during one of his fits.
Keeping all of you in my prayers and in my heart.
ReplyDeleteTake any little breaks you can.
Beth M.
Hopefully the doctor will make referrals quickly for the gerontologist and the necessary tests. You may have to get on the phone and push for answers and help. I hope you will contact an Alzheimer/dementia organization to ask for help, information and advocacy should it be needed. Your health and safety can be at risk as the condition worsens, and if it is related to an infection or something like that the longer the wait for tests the harder to cure, so long delays are unsafe for your husband.
ReplyDeleteHopefully your daughter will respect your decisions and not continue trying to run things from afar without consulting you. I'm sure she means well, but it probably makes things harder for you. As his wife, you have the final say so on decisions. Sometimes kids forget that we know a thing or two.
I'm still praying about all of this for you.
Saeetheart, you definitely are not alone. We all have each other!
ReplyDeleteWe have bitter cold here. Way below 0 tonight, but i do not believe snow is predicted. {{{HUGS}}}