Good Morning--Lopez and I have been out--Sushi is fed--I have walked---So......This day has begun--How are you this morning?--Are you happy?--- Are you completely pooped?--Did you sleep well?----In any event, we are here--a huge part of to-day--- and...it is a sunny day--cool so far tho outside!
I believe it will warm up however--So, yesterday I went out to Son#1's house, on the lake--Lopez came with me---We sat on their deck, and looked down over the lake--so pretty--and warm still--and there were a few boats out on the lake. I did not stay there for dinner however, as they both have a cold---
Hopefully, we didn't pick up their cold-----And when I returned home, a good friend called and said she would pick me up and we could go out for dinner--so nice of her!--- I could not eat all the food on my plate--brought it home--In fact, usually I can not eat very much--never finish everything-- so, I bring it home and try to eat it the next day for lunch---No appetite--Will this change??-- I certainly hope so!!!It seems to come , with the loss of a partner-- Crazy!!!!
YES I AM----
I MUST TRY --HARDER___
Good morning, Lynda! It sounds like you had a great evening on the lake. So nice you have friends there and dinner out with them. I know the classes will help. Sorry you have to feel this way. One day at a time. No, I did not sleep well. I was awake until 4 am. I rarely do that! It is nice in Ohio. Leaves are falling. My tinnitus has been bad for quite awhile then yesterday was good but not today. I have a new doctor in October. I hope he is better than the one I had for five years. How are you doing this morning? Big hugs!
ReplyDeleteGood morning Lynda, have you had your grief counseling session yet? I think it will help. I hope you attend the bereavement group because you will discover that you are not alone in your sorrow. Nice of a friend to invite you out for dinner. Many Seniors don't finish a restaurant meal, take the remainder home and enjoy it the next day. Are you moving around enough? When you lived in the big house you were very active, so that may be another reason you have a poor appetite. Will you be getting your hair done today? That always made you feel better.
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Maureen from California
It's Kathy. YES, you are definitely worth the fight. I did not sleep well last night - I found out yesterday that my husband teaches on the day we are suppose to go to Bemidji (about 4 hrs away) to celebrate my DIL's 50th birthday. I thought about it all night long - which one of my children can I ride with, will my DH work something out for his class, why does his Art Center stuff always have to interfere with our life! This morning he said he would figure it out, but who knows. He tells me all kinds of things that never happen! But, it's a nice morning and Daisy and I will go out and work in the yard for a bit! I hope you have a good day. I'm glad you found some classes that might be interesting for you - and how nice to have a friend ask you to dinner. As for not being able to eat it all, I believe all restaurants provide more food than most people can eat - that way they can justify their high prices. I always have a take-home bag and my husband usually does too!
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Glad you are getting bereavement classes. I am positive they will help! If you didn't breathe on each other, you should be safe from illness going to your son and daughter-in-law's home, too. Living at a lake with all the nature to look at and interact with is the best.
Yes, I am happy. I just got my hair cut (and leant 'Becca $ to get hers done). I leave for Chicago a week from tomorrow. I am getting more and more excited.
It's 75F here and mostly sunny. Perfect weather to me.
Soon it's lunch for me and Lucky. I will (always) check back later. {{{HUGS}}} Love, Maggie
Afternoon Lynda,
ReplyDeleteJust keep moving forward. One day, one step at a time. Things will get easier. Just have hope and know that while Himself isn't physically there with you, he is there, always in your heart.
We are here for you.
Hugs,
Jackie
Awwww, sorry to hear DS #1 and wife have colds, but glad you got to enjoy going there for a while. And SOOooo nice that a friend and you went out to supper. That is always enjoyable. I never finish a restaurant meal, either. Just too much. It’s nice to have the leftovers the next day. Glad your bereavement classes start soon. It just helps to share your situation w/those going through the same thing. ((HUGS))
ReplyDeleteAnd the struggle is REAL, but for sure the fight is worthwhile! YOU are worthwhile. And Himself would be proud of you w/all you’ve accomplished.
HUGS and blessings
barb
1cd
Hi Lynda
ReplyDeleteKeep at it. Hoping the sessions will help. You'll be able to talk with others and find out what they do....maybe get some new ideas to try. I bet you'll hear some of the same things we say. One day at a time.
#1s lake house seems like a favorite spot for you. Hoping you don't catch their bug.
Dining with a friend is just what you want. Do you have other friends there that could meet monthly for lunch? There have to be other widows and you can find your widows group you talked about. You CAN do anything you want. You are blessed with resources and free time. Get out there.
Hugs
Marge
St. Louis
Hi Lynda: Glad your grief sessions will start soon. They should help you to feel better and listen to what others do to cope. Great that you had a friend ask you to go out for dinner, That's the kind of thing you need to help you feel better. Start doing so of these things and you will start to feel a bit better. It takes time. Hugs Brenda
ReplyDeleteI just read this meme on Facebook and thought I'd share:
ReplyDelete"Sometimes the only way forward is to wade through the muck of your grief — for anyone or anything you’ve lost. Not around it, not over it. Through it. The path may feel endless, but it transforms as you go, and over time, grief loosens its grip."
Marti
((( BIG HUGS!!! ))) It takes time, there's no predicting, and you can grieve however you need to! And yes, you are worth the fight!
ReplyDeleteLinda, I could not eat either after my husband died. I lost 15 pounds and have not gained any of it back - in fact I have even lost a couple more pounds because of the challenges of my house fire and rental and moving back and all the things I had to do on my own....buying new furniture, picking out new appliances, cabinets, etc. replacing so many things for the last 9 months! I am not motivated to eat, and I don't enjoy cooking for myself. I am so sorry that you are having a hard time, but grieving is hard work. We never stop grieving the loss of our spouse. But we can't live in the past and have to go forward, but having days where we go on a crying "jag" is OKAY! The more we loved the harder we grieve. Don't give up, join a book club at your library and try something you enjoy - sewing, quilting? My town recently started a senior citizens' group and have a luncheon once a month and even have planned some fun trips....wondering if your town has anything similar? Maybe playing cards or bunco with others? And lastly, become more active with your church community if that appeals to you.....I know that has helped me! Sending you a big hug, hang in there - you are stronger than you think!
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