One of our sons decided that he will not be moving out of town with a business offer, offered to him over the past 6 mos--so-----both he and his wife asked if they could purchase our home--here on the lake---Our home is not for sale----- one day it will be--when we die---- but---so far, we are surviving and enjoying our home on the lake. I realize there is a big housing shortage in this area--perhaps everywhere--so, he maybe felt that since we are old, that we do not wish to live in our house anymore--It totally shocked me out! ----I felt that because we are "of a certain age"---, that people believe us to be incapable of living in our home-- I felt disappointed that one of our children thought that way---
But-----
I wonder how many others go thru what we did?--- And now I am going out to walk--- Tess, who is still with us by the way, and I walked earlier!--
wow I know that you are getting older but why would they assume that you even wanted to sell and if you did that is up to you I am glad that they want to buy it but wow just wow
ReplyDeleteI am so glad that you still have Tess this is great news
I want to congradulate you on the weight way to go
No, we are not ready to move--- kinda shocked me out tho-- Nice to hear from yu-Lynda
Deleteah yes Lynda many many seniors go through what you are going through..
ReplyDeleteDo what feels best for you... I would let the place go but I am different.. Kuddos to you ...
hugs Jo
Hi Joanne--No-We are not ready to leave here------ maybe we should--No--No--No--LOL---- definitely not now!
DeleteSo happy to hear from you!!!!
ReplyDeleteYes, our children consider us old unless they want us to do something for them! I guess that it is universal. We need to hold firm. Someday they will realize what a mistake they made. Probably when they get our age.😂🤣😂
Hang in there. We all were so worried! Even on Facebook people were looking for you. You are loved!
Have a great day! Jacqpra
So happy that you are all ok physically. . .your weight is going in the right direction and Tess is still with you. I understand how you feel and you have to do what feels right for you. I think it would probably be too much for himself to change environments at this point in his life. We moved from our home of 25 years 3 years ago and it was initially very hard for Al even though we knew it was the right thing for us and he was only 72 at the time. Rest easy with your decision your son and his wife can find another house if they have to . . . as my kids like to say "You do You" Again . . .so happy to see you back.
ReplyDeleteWow! I’m glad you’re ok. And what a surprise offer! I love living in our big house that we built together ( designed for a family of 6) on our large acreage . But now that I’m a widow it’s a lot to manage. My youngest daughter( who grew up in this house) and her husband and 4 children also love this property . They want to buy it in 5 years when he retires. They will make me a granny flat or I could build a separate “cottage” on a piece of our land. Or I could get an apartment in town. That’s up to me. It’s a wonderful consideration for me and a way to ease out of the never ending chores , repairs and responsibilities. For now I hire help and I’m managing to do it. The pool, garden, I even learned to snow blow with the big diesel tractor last winter. Getting in the winter wood this week. I’m healthy 70. Maybe a version of one of these options might work for you and Himself. Put more of the enjoyment back and less of the hard work and stress of owning your beautiful home there at the lake. Consider if any aspect of this is appealing and might work for you 🥰
ReplyDeleteI see you were able to "get it together" and put out a signal flag that you're OK! So glad of that, most of all, but also don't want to pressure you if you need a break! Life can be super busy, even as a "senior".
ReplyDeleteAs for staying in your home, hey, that's for you to decide, not someone else! I understand, though, kids getting "concerned", as I had to go with my sister to take my dad's car keys away from him after he had an accident and didn't even realize it. I know you've been through the car thing with your Himself, too.
Anyway, good to know you're getting along OK. Hang in, and give yourself breathing room!
Oh, and I meant to say congrats on the new scale number, too! Well done! Keep on hoofing it with Tess!
ReplyDeleteI am so glad to hear from you today and know that you and Himself are both okay.(also Tess) Your son had six months to decide on the move and shouldn't think that you should give up your place to please him and his family at the drop of a hat. You and Himself should stay in your house until you want to move not when someone else wants you to move. Great to hear about your weight loss. Have a relaxing day and know that everyone is here for you.
ReplyDeleteWay to go on the weight! Keep on keeping on.
ReplyDeleteI’m so happy to hear that you, himself and Tess are all ok as I was getting worried. Great news about the weight loss but a surprise about the news from your son. Is it the same son that wanted to buy it before? I’m sure one day it will be too much for you and himself to handle but selling it should be your choice. Enjoy the beautiful area while you still can. 👍 💐
ReplyDeleteSo glad to hear everyone including Tess is ok. We missed you. Congrats on the weight loss. Don't be too hard on your son. They may have thought they were doing something good. Someone said they could build a smaller home for them on their property. That sounds like a feasible idea. But you must do what is right for you and himself. Take care. Look forward to another blog tomorrow!��
ReplyDeleteI was wondering about you, I hadn't seen where you posted anything. Glad to hear that you are okay. Have a great Monday
ReplyDeleteGood to hear you are OK. We built our home 24 years ago and my DH is 85 and says he will never sell it, he will be here till they carry him out. Glad you are keeping the weight down.
ReplyDeleteI am so happy to read your digital electric voice at the other end of the wire. I'm relieved to hear that you are all well and still bravely tilting at the windmills of life. And at times like these, it is a comfort to remember that there have always been times like these.
ReplyDeleteMy kids know that if they try to boss me around or treat me like anything but the independent adult who raised them as I get older, I'ma hit 'em with my cane. That said, know that they mean well. They thought they had a creative solution to their problems - and what they imagined might be yours. These little transitions we had to go through raising them aren't any easier on the flip side, as they try to figure out their roles in taking care of US (whether we're ready for that or not!)
ReplyDeleteGlad that you are ok, and doing well with the weight loss. I do understand how things that our children assume about us is just shocking at time, but I've also come to the realization that I must not have my head in the sand when it comes to things I can and cannot do. For examples I have come to the conclusion I no longer can ride a regular bike and now is opting for a 3 wheeled bike. I'm not steady on a regular bike and instead of injuring myself I decided that I will go the other route. My son told me so a ways back and I was not happy that he did. He was right, and I now know he wasn't doing it to shame me just that he was looking out for my own safety and good. Let me tell you it's a hard pill to swallow. So what ever your and himself's decision is about your house, know that your children are concerned for your well being. You'll know when the time is right to sell the house. Just saying.
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear what you've been dealing with regarding your son and his wife. Thankful to know you and Himself are doing well physically and you were able to take a step back and work thru your feelings. Congrats on your new weight! You did good to lose with going thru so much stress!
ReplyDeleteSorry you had to go through a rough couple of days. You should feel good,though, that so many here were worried about you. I was one of hose that emailed you. Walking helps to clear he mind...and the feelings! Sending good vibes your way. 😎Cathy
ReplyDeleteSo happy to see you back on, Lynda, and that you are all doing well. (I take it Beau and Sushi are, too). Thanks for accepting my friend request. When you are thinking you are the pigeon, try to think of one of your blessings...something that is going well for you. It will make you feel better, even if only temporarily. {{{HUGS}}}
ReplyDeleteThank God you are back. I was worried that you were either you or himself was sick or Tess had decided to go over the rainbow. I am so glad that was not the case. But I am so very sorry for the reason you were missing. Yes it is sad that when we get to a certain age they think we can't do anything any more. And if you get to a certain age and fall it can be worse. I am sure they "think" they are being helpful and nice but they are looking at it from their side not yours. As long as you can handle living in your beautiful home then you should be able to do it as long as YOU want not what someone else wants.
ReplyDeleteYou should be proud of yourself because you stepped back and looked at the situation and figured out what you were going to do about it. AND YOU DID NOT ALLOW THE STRESS to get to you so you lost weight. WAY TO GO my dear friend. Proud of you. hugs
We are so glad you are back! I tried not to worry, but people were asking about you and I got to thinking about how you usually write every day! Maybe you should warn us next time, with a quick sentence or whatever. It was so nice to be able to talk with you again on the phone! There's Linda! And she's fine! I was so happy! Congratulations on the weight loss! Yay! I'm sorry to hear about your son and his wife, being so rude! You guys should get to enjoy it as long as you like.
ReplyDeleteGood Afternoon, Lynda. Beth Mosko here. I was concerned that you hadn't Written for a few days, but knew you would be back to it when it was right for you. I am glad to hear your weight is down, and hope that keeps your determination strong.
ReplyDeleteThank goodness you and Himself and Tess are all ok! Please make out a WILL, Now, spelling it all out, and taking notice of all of your kids. Before the sneaky son tries to squeeze out more than his fair share. Seriously.
ReplyDeleteDon’t you just hate being blindsided?! Glad that you continued to make your wishes known and your decision firm! Missed you❤️ Eissa7
ReplyDeleteBottom line is you and HImself are staying in your home until YOU decide that it's not feasible anymore, IF it's not reasible anymore.
ReplyDeleteMy kids have both pulled that same type of shennanigan on us. WE are not ready to move and are just fine here. So, that's our decision and we're sticking to it.
Congratulations on the scale victory! Awesome.
Hang in there, and glad that you, Himself, Tess, Beau and Sushi are all right. Amen!
So pleased you are back. I am sorry that your son thinks that you are "Too old" to live in your own house. Some day he will understand. (I hope). I am so proud of you for not giving in to "stress eating" and have lost more weight. YOU CAN DO IT!!!!! Have a very unstressed evening and week.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad to see you back! Some times life just gets so busy; how did we have time to work??
ReplyDeleteThat is a hard one, your son asking to purchase the house. It may have been self-serving on his part, but it may have been that he honestly thought you all didn't want to "take care of the big place" and figured it would be good for both of you. Sometimes our adult kids just are so used to us being the parents and making all okay for them that they don't stop to think about the pain they cause us. But, I'm so glad that you and Himself are stil enjoying living in your home of many years and made him aware of that. You might decide to sell in future or not; but you worked hard for what you have so letting it go to meet the need of your son's decisions should not be expected. My folks stayed in their big house until they went home to God. Dad thought about selling after Mom died, but never "got around to it."
Yay for your keeping on the healthy path!!!
Lynda, I am happy to see you back! I check every day for your blogs.😊
ReplyDeleteI love your honesty and courage.
Vicki
I bet your son and wife thought your place was getting to be too much for you and your hubby.They must really enjoy your place to offer to buy it.Keep up the Good weight Lost.
ReplyDeleteThat was a blind side !!
ReplyDeleteSo glad to hear all is ok...well, except for "the offer"....a bit of a hit in the gut altho they might think they are helping & easing you out of a bad situation of upkeep etc. Hang in there...know you will.
ReplyDeleteWonderful news about the loss...keep it coming....
Now relax & think good thoughts...enjoy your days.....
Glad you have returned. Congrats on the new number.
ReplyDeleteYou should send them this YouTube video, maybe a commercial but still gets the point across - https://youtu.be/scqa7SAjYLk
ReplyDeleteTht is a great idea!
DeleteGood morning Lynda! It’s so good to hear from you and know that you, Himself and Tess are well. I was worried about you all too!
ReplyDeleteI believe I remember this same situation coming up before about selling your home?? Maybe you should just be very clear to them that YOU will let them know when it’s ready to sell. You live there as long as you wish, it’s yours! You may have to hire some things out to help with the maintenance but that is doable! Sorry for the upsetting situation…it would upset us too!
Congrats on the weight loss…good job!
Whoohoo on the weight loss Lynda!! I have been holding my own using the nutrition tracker on people one but now I have just signed up for cronometer so I am going to see how that goes. There are things I miss from the nutrition tracker on spark like transferring foods from day to day and counting my macronutrients and Cronometer has the ability to do that. So we shall see.
ReplyDelete194 wonderful . doing good .
ReplyDeleteI hope he meant it kindly, but it doesn't seem that way.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you are well.