Christmas is over for another year--very good--so , we can get on with life now--Next year we can get our tree up--This year we never did that----And next year we will be so much more settled here-
- How are you all??--- Tired??--- Happy to have Christmas over ?----As for the unpacking, hopefully things will find a place ----sometimes, must be moved to a different spot --more accessible-I believe all our dishes have been moved a few times---I still find the recyclables are confusing-- because we never did that at home-and it seems everyone here has their own opinion as to what goes where--kinda drives one crazy---
I must get off of here-- I hear suggestions being made , and I think I should be a part of the discussions--They mean well--just trying to help--LOLOL----maybe make some coffee---in fact, men should make us coffee--
ALICIA363
ReplyDeleteHi, Lynda! Just thinking of you and wondering if you saw my suggestion of a crate or kennel for Lopez? I was guessing you took him to your son’s so he wouldn’t trip Himself.
Hugs, hugs, hugs - May the discussions go well as you settle in further.
Good for yu --I have the crate ready----Thnk yu--Lynda
DeleteLOL! "Hebrews"! If I remember rightly, you did have crates (2) for Lopez back in Elliott Lake, didn't you? Did they come along on the move? Maybe a bit of extra TLC and training for the pup? He may be a handful, but he's YOUR handful, just as Ember is mine! "Love me, love my dog"... is a saying for a reason.
ReplyDeleteMy cousin in Florida had to have her dog of 16 1/2 years put down yesterday, but he was very ill (cancer). Lopez is healthy and young, doesn't deserve that!
I know the dogs do not like the crates, but sometimes they are helpful. Have a nice day! Donna_cps2
ReplyDeleteGood morning, thanks for taking time for a note.
ReplyDeleteIn the future when you are gone, put Lopez in the crate. He'll be safe there and you don't have to ask anyone. He has and does bite you but....that's another story. Yes, get sons couch professionally cleaned.
I have no idea where the girls put stuff. It will be another adventure.
Personally, yes, I'm glad when Christmas is over. I can't wait to take the small tree down and pack up decorations. Its minimal but after a while I'm ready for it to go in storage.
Opinions are like noses...we all have one lol
Enjoy your day.
Hope dinner out was very nice.
Love, hugs and blessings
Marge, St.Louis
Hebrews...cute
Good morning, Lynda! What???! Put Lopez down? Nooo! Sigh. Ahh! He is just getting adjusted there. He deserves a chance. I know he had problems at your house but he was a puppy/teenager. LOL You love him. Others don’t like you do. Listen to YOUR heart. I am attached to him and don’t even know the little fella. Yes, next year you will have a tree and be all settled. Yes, I am tired and dreading to see my nephew leave in a couple days til Easter break. Our longest time apart. Rainy all day in Ohio but it’s ok. Going to rest and make soup later. Big hugs to you!
ReplyDeleteThat last is funny, sis!
ReplyDeleteSo happy to 'see' you here already.
You will probably be shifting stuff for quite a while.
I agree with you about Lopez. He has been very stressed and confused. Also, with no walk yet...he just couldn't hold it any more! Not his fault at all. Do any of the other family members agree with you? Does Sushi use her box in the new location?
Cloudy and right at freezing here today. No rain, though.
I need to shop for a few things. We hare having a New Year's meal here. And I need to get ingredients for my broccoli cheese casserole and cat food. I only have one more can.
Still don't know if my kids are better so I can give them their gifts after my medical appointments tomorrow.
I will be back to check comments later. Love you all! {{{HUGS}}} Love, Maggie
Oh Maggie--Yu are so good to agree --I gave up church to protect Lopez---Lotza "cooks"" here to dole out advice--Your boccalli casserole sound good--Fred kinda driving me nuts-- Lordy Be--Think I need to go o yer area-- LOL--- Too many cooks here
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DeleteThere's a saying I'm sure you've heard: "Too many cooks spoil the broth!"
RD in AZ here why oh why would you get rid of a dog just because it had an accident wow calm down people he had to go it was a new place it could also be excitement and he had not been out I do know from experience that little dogs tend to have big attitudes thus the bites but once again this wee fella has been thru so much
ReplyDeleteenjoy the time with the girls and all the help you will find things and they will be able to tell you where it may have gotten put it will be fine
hugs sweet lady you also have been thru alot and are a bit stressed also
It's Kathy. It makes me sad when people's first option for a troubled dog is to "put him down". Little Lopez has been through a lot in the past 2 months and I'm sure that's upset him! He watched his only home be packed up little by little, then a move where nothing was settled, and his routine has been completely thrown off! I believe that once your routine has been created he will feel like himself again. When my Daisy lost her friend Sheba (the cat) she was beside herself for weeks. Barely ate, always looking around for her friend. And when she did eat, often she threw up. She needed time to understand that Sheba was no longer with us and eventually she accepted it. Our pets have feeling too! In fact, I always say Daisy is the best kid I've ever had!!! I am very happy that Christmas is over, also my birthday. I feel a little bit better today but not great! So I'm taking these last few days of 2024 to just rest! I think you deserve some rest days too! Hopefully they will come soon. Hope today is a good day!
ReplyDeleteGood morning! It's still barely morning here, at 11:25am.
ReplyDeleteSo, keep in mind that anything I type is my idea from my perspective ... and it's free so consider it's worth to you. :D
The cool thing about your daughter and daughter-in-law getting everything unboxed and put away ... the area is cleared and you didn't have to unpack it. Score!!! And they are doing it because they love you and Fred and understand that you need the help. They may be a little pushier than you'd like, but that's the thing with our children as we age. They are worried about you as they suddenly realize you need help, which is kind of a scary thing for adult children. We've always been the ones who could do it all, THEIR source of help and advice. When they get a clue, sometimes they overdo it because there's a little fear, they know more about some things like technology because they grew up with it so they mistakenly think they know more than we do in many areas because they generalize and feel we need help thinking so over-do. So they try to 'mom' us, as my friend Dixie says about her dear daughter. I have to be careful sometimes when I let my daughter know she's overstepped, because she worries a lot about what I think and how I feel in case she's made me upset, so I take care to let her know that I understand she's trying to help and how much I love and appreciate that we have a relationship good enough that she wants to help. After the dust has settled, and your daughter has gone home and the dil is back to her 'regular routine' you can take your time acclimating to the space and deciding what needs to be moved. You can do it a little at a time, just fifteen minutes a day so that it gets done without a lot of upheaval. (I follow Diane in Denmark and use Flylady system as I'm not a natural born housekeeper.) You can keep that little box in your trunk to put in things you intend to donate because you realize in the moment that you don't really use them.
The Mr. Lopez situation ... your children are probably worried as he is bitey, and they're worried about you or Fred getting bit. They don't love him and have a bond with him like you do ... and they did not go through the hard times you've had the last year 'up close and personal'. Mr. Lopez has been a source of companionship to you during a really hard time, and even his occaional naughty antics gave you something to think about and focus on beyond the unending work, worry and exhaustion. (They may not be aware of Fred swinging with his cane at the little guy, or other events, reasons, breed issues which could lead to this.) They may think he's too much of a handfull for you 'at your age' and are worried about him causing damage to your house. They may also be concerned about getting bit themselves, or one of the grandchildren. Or, the worst, Mr. Lopez biting someone who comes to the house for repairs, piano tuning, installing the blinds ... being bit and filing a complaint. (I do agree with the others that you should have Son #2's couch cleaned for him. Maybe price it out and get a 'gift certificate' kind of thing that they can use at their convenience.) And Mr. Lopez ... as you will have a bit more time now that you have no outdoor chores taking up so much time, could you take him to training classes, or have a really good dog trainer come to your home to work with you? (Like really soon.) That way you can keep him feeling safer so less bitey or naughty in other ways and you are more easily able to control him and prevent things that set him off? It may be pricey, but a good investment for peace in your home and reassurance for your family. I read somewhere crating gives your dog a 'safe' space once they get used to it, and some people take an old sock or some such that has their scent on it, which is comforting to the dog. (Of our many dogs over the years, only one never adjusted to the crate, and she has severe separation anxiety so we only used it until she adjusted enough to not destroy things and now leave her uncrated when we're gone.)
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(My comment was too long to post all in one go ... I think I just need to write a column with advice and thoughts only I'll heed. :D)
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed the Christmas season this year, and am slowly taking down the decorations I put up so they'll be done, sorted and packed away for another year. I'll have a little box marked 'donation' and will donate them at the end of November next year ... I continue to pare down my decorations as I only put up a little tree in my bedroom and decorated my little family room, put out one figurine in the dining room and a little Christmas bling in my bathroom counter vases to replace what's usually there. I love it!! I share a house with my daughter and son-in-love, and they are slowly accumulating their special Christmas decor. I leave it to them to decorate the living room, entryway and outside. I figure they need to be free to establish their own rituals, as I won't be here forever and we do share the house and bills. I don't have as much energy as I used to, so doing less decorating means less work but still enjoying. Last year or the year before I had them take some time and help me sort and pare down the decorations dear daughter and I accumulated and made through the years; took some persuading but they were glad they did.
I'm so glad you are in your new place, that your kids love you enough to help (and overhelp) you. Not every parent has that.
Here's to getting ready for a new year with more self-care, more laughing, and figuring out what we want to do when we grow up!!!
Put Lopez down???????????? for having a pee accident??????
ReplyDeleteThat is rediculous.......just get the couch cleaned and put him in his
crate, perhaps with a pee pad...it isn't his fault he did not get to go for his morning?? constitutional.....
I can't believe people.....he has had a lot to adjust too as well as his
hooman parents.
PS: After the helpers leave you can move stuff where you want it.
At least you had help for a change. I'm sure #2 does not want you to even consider "putting him down." Poor little guy...
Hugs,
DarleneK
(formerly from Alabama-now in Illinois)