It made me realize how difficult it would be for Himself to adjust to another house--making me rethink the whole thing-- Himself is used to this house--he knows all the neighbours-feels safe here- so---- I need to do a great deal of "mind over matter"--- all of this--Meanwhile the real estate Lady will continue to look-maybe it isn't the right time--Maybe it is OK to stay where we are--so many "maybes"-
and--I am taking Himself and buying a battery Snow blower--We have a battery lawn mower--and I love it-- We can sell our other snowblower --and I believe I can use the new one--- It won't be as heavy--and son#1 is just down the road, if the snow becomes too heavy-- and he has a plough---- and I just might get to a store--get a few ----BANANAS
Lord love a duck! --so many decisions as one ages---in a Pandemic-- with the cost of living sky high-We ARE a part of the times--no turning back----WE must deal with it all- and we will--because we have to--
OH my goodness! I cannot imagine moving those folks out of their house and leaving EVERYTHING there – pictures, etc. I can’t imagine how difficult that is for them. It is a HUGE decision for you and Himself, so, step by step as you’re doing it is the way to go. And who knows, maybe you WILL change your mind, but take your time to think it through. And FOR SURE, being in Pandemic times adds another HUGE layer of complexity to making this decision. I am glad Son #1 lives just down the road.
ReplyDeleteHUGS and prayers, dear Lynda. You have a lot on your plate.
HUGS and blessings
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I often think that I would be better off moving from the big home (3 stories) I live in.....less yard (over 4 acres here) BUT all my memories are here and George loved the place. So, like you, I will be content to stay here where I feel comfortable surrounded by my familiar things and many chores. I tell my kids that as long as I am able to do the cleaning and yard work that it is good for me to keep busy. I am 75 and am healthy as I just keep moving! And you are probably right, it would be tough for your hubby to move!
ReplyDeleteIt is a time of quiet reflection. And if someone becomes incapacitated, that changes the picture, too. Circumstances might make the decision for you. It is good that you went to look.
ReplyDeleteI moved to a condo 8 years ago. I miss the house, but not the snow part. Donna
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ReplyDeleteSigh. Difficult for those people who lost their home. Hope their kids at least took the couple's favorite treasures with them.
ReplyDeleteIt is hard to move. I went from Chicago when I retired with only a small car and what I could fit in it. Moved here to Minnesota, and had one more trip with the small car to get stuff in Chicago. So much left behind...my big desk, my electric recliner...my instapot...
We do what we must. Maybe you can wait a bit longer and/or the realtor will find you a smaller place you both will fall in love with.
Meantime...think positive. If something makes you feel bad...think a better thought. We need to appreciate what we have to have more to appreciate! {{{HUGS}}}
My husband and I have had that move/don't move conversation over and over. We have a large yard that is really too much to care for properly and he simply isn't interested. And our home is on the larger side although it's mostly on one level. But to think about moving seems like more effort than it is worth. We have 2 sheds outside and half the basement is filled with things. One day we need to clear out some of what we are no longer using but so far that day hasn't come! Good luck with your decision making!
ReplyDeleteIt's tough to have to think about those decisions. Will son #1 living down the street help when you need it? If the family will commit to helping as necessary maybe it would be better to hold off moving for awhile as it might be too hard on himself to move. good luck.
ReplyDeleteLynda, you don't have to make any decisions today. Likely it would be difficult for Fred to adjust BUT. I think he would in time. If circumstances change, you may be forced to make a move so its good to explore options and have an open mind. We downsized and moved to another state to be closer to family. It was great until pandemic and then son divorced after 20 yrs and moved about an hour away. Here we are ....thinking of moving again. Inflation, housing market and hubs health has all of it on hold. You do have your sons close but they'd also be close in a smaller home in town. Take your time and keep looking. What about the new villas that were to be Built? Is that still an option. Change is difficult but you might really enjoy a smaller home.
ReplyDeleteBattery snow blower. Hate snow and you get a lot.
Hang in. The answer will come.
Hugs dear Lynda
These decisions are hard. I'm a decade younger than you, and already contemplating when I'll have to make them. Let the decision for you unfold, and sending vibes for the support you need in all of this!
ReplyDeleteDecisions-decisions....it is hard to make a change. Especially when you have to consider himself also, and upsetting him. Wish I knew what to tell you, we are facing a like decision and David does not want to move.
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Personally, I wouldn't let that bother you, Lynda. I think ultimately you both will be happier in a smaller place, you can relax, you won't have to do so much hard work. You will have time to get out and maybe get Fred out too, and do some things together. Too much time indoors! I would be looking for a one story plan, or a condo. I love my little one story condo! :)
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