I am late blogging--Himself has not been Himself--since yesterday, when I left him to pick up some papers at his Clinic--I come home to a very strong, very bad smell in the house. He was attempting to start supper, in his Ninja, which he always uses----but --never has cleaned it--It was a wonder there was not a fire. I am beginning to see that he cannot be left alone-- He has not been himself since all that!--- very angry--very hard to get along with--I read about "Vascular Dementia" online, and all the symptoms suit him to a "T"---So, somehow, I must muster up some help for me--
So other than all that, Lopez and Beau and I are good--and Sushi---the cat who came in from the cold.-
Life is packed full of surprises isn't it--? The challenge is to keep on top of all of them--We do have sunshine--warmer weather --so that should help-- Slowly I am moving my summer clothes upstairs---There is always good news isn't there?---
I am sorry to here about the problems you are having with himself. Big Hugs. Have you tried to get him back into the doctors again? Keep a journal of the good days and bad days so when you do get to see a professional you have some documentation of his condition.
ReplyDeleteGood idea to journal his episodes-- I started to--then forgot-- Lynda
DeleteLynda, You must be very careful leaving himself alone. So much can happen in a short time. Sounds like it is time to make some changes for the sake of safety. Hard decisions ahead but you are stronger than you think. Hug a fur baby, cry a little if you must than tell yourself 'I can handle this too'.
ReplyDeleteOh Willow--It sure has been a couple of bad days--I realize he should not be left alone--I am trying to get sone help-Lynda
DeleteYou really do need some help at least so you can get your groceries and have your hair done. You need some me time also! The community should have help that comes in for an hour or two every couple days to help. You can do this!
ReplyDeleteI am trying to get HOMECARE --but there is a waiting list-- Hard to believe eh?-Lynda
DeleteI'm sorry that it's been a rough couple of days for you. It does look like he can't be alone anymore. It's hard to have to make that decision to get some help for him, but you not only need it for him but for you.
ReplyDeletePaula-- It tough seeing him so changed-- but--- Hopefully if I can get his meds in him in the evening things might imporove
DeleteLynda
I am sorry to hear that himself is not himself these days. It must be so difficult for you!
ReplyDeleteYes--- it certainly isn't fun----- The DR. called and increased his meds--Ill try it--Lynda
DeleteHang in there! This too shall pass........ at least that's what we are always told, right? I hope tomorrow will be a better day for both of you.
ReplyDeleteRosemarie--so nice to hear from yu-- Everyday is different-- Thanks for yer support-Lynda
DeleteYes, Lynda, there is always good...somewhere. That is what we need to focus on. Some days are better and some days it's hard to find the good. It is there, but harder to see.
ReplyDeleteHope you are able to get your hair done. You didn't mention whether you would take Himself and he would wait for you, but you did say that you felt he could never be left alone.
I bet you will let us know how it went on tomorrow's blog.
At least the rest of you are fine.
{{{HUGS}}}
I ended up leaving him at home--but--it is not fun to do as I never stop thinking of what is happening At home-- Is he better to-nite--maybe a bit--Lynda
DeleteWhat they all said! It's hard when it gets to that point, but safety of life and limb have to be put at the front of the line. Many hugs for you (went through this with my dad, over 20 years ago...)
ReplyDeleteBarb--YU went thru this?-- It isn't fun is it?--Thanks for just being her--Lynda
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ReplyDeleteRocky seas on the near horizon. Time to call in reinforcements and set some plans.
So true--rocky seas Lynda
DeleteHaven’t your sons looked into places that are near you that take care of the elderly, when they become dangerous to life and limb? Whomever his doctor is, is not very trustworthy, should have been helping you, for this day was coming up, no question about it. Already, when he was hitting you in bed, something should have been done, name one a waiting list, etc. No wait and see period. You cannot watch him every single minute. Sorry for you going through this.
ReplyDeleteIt certainly is not a good thing to go thru--- I called Dr Chou who deals with these pAtients- He will visit here in May--He had some suggestions--=increase his medication wad one thing-- I just wish there wad someone who could come in--once a week-lynda
DeleteOh so sorry that he fits the description of vascular dementia. My Dad had that @ the end. Very intelligent man. Just took a downhill slide taking care of Mom w/her Alzheimer’s til they moved here and I could help him.
ReplyDeleteWell, hope you can make hair day, but I sure appreciate your hesitation. It’s hard to leave Himself alone if he’s not acting himself. And can’t have Little Lopez accidentally harmed. It’s a tough situation, but . . . you have to be safe, HE has to be safe and so do the fur babies. Definitely a good idea to get help from your sons. They at least live close to you. ((((HUGS))))
Hope it’s a good day.
Hugs
Barb
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Thanks Barb-- I know that yu have been there and yu u understand--Lynda
DeleteGlad you can see the positives in your day. For openers, call a son to stop by....or like you did before...drop himself at a sons house. You need some you time for yourself, not just working. Hope you get hair done. Lopez is doing fine and he can be in a crate with you or at home.
ReplyDeleteGlad you were able to do some research and find out whats going on with DH
Hugs dear lady.
I got my hair done--Holy cow eh?-- Whatta day!--Thank yu for yer support-Lynda
DeleteLynda, I am so sorry you are having to deal with all of this. But like most people have said you need to get help ASAP. He can not be left alone or you may come back and find the house burned to the ground. I don't mean to scare you. Himself is no longer himself. He does not know what he is doing which is so hard for everyone who have known him for a long time. Time to talk to your children and ask for help. See if there is anything in your community that can help you. I also would go back to his doctor and say what help is there available to you and himself. I can't believe his doctor has not told you.
ReplyDeletePraying that you get the help you need ASAP. I am so sorry I know this is so very hard for you. I carry you in my heart and prayers daily.
Hi Jan, I called Dr Chou--He looks after Dementia people--He will visit us in May--He suggested I increase his dose-- I was told to before but never did it-- I guess its time-Thank yu for yer support-Lynda
DeleteHugs. I hope, in spite of it all, you have a nice day.
ReplyDeleteOh Patricia--- It will work out-- I just have to be strong-- *S*--Lynda
DeleteI agree with the others that you need to ask your sons for help in looking after himself whether you drop him off at their place or one of them comes over while you are out. You do need to go out for shopping, etc. Also I can't believe the doctor has not given you anything about things that can be done or who can help out. Is he afraid himself won't like that? There is no other reason for him to not give you something. You need some type of help. Good thing you are strong! Hope all goes well.
ReplyDeleteI will pray for you guys!
ReplyDeleteLynda, I am so sorry you have to face all these changes. It can be very difficult. I suggest you find a support group. You may find it very helpful to talk to people who understand what you are dealing with because they are in the same boat. There is usually a trained professional to help guide the group and encourage positive discussion and support. Also consider hiring someone or a company that can stay with Himself when you need to be away, That way you will not have to worry so much when you are out shopping or getting your hair done. It would give you some peace of mind.
ReplyDeleteI pray that tomorrow will be a good day.
Beth M.
I am so sorry Lynda, you have all this to deal with. You have done much better than I have....being a caregiver is hard, but if he would burn the house and him in it that would be a terrible thing....so don't take a chance on leaving him alone...this disease seems to be escalating so quickly...........prayers and I hope you find someone who can come in to stay with him to let you shop/pay bills/whatever...especially getting your hair done... Hugs.....
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