-And she said, "Lynda, what am I going to do with you?--Give it time---"---so, I shall try---- but--- if someone--anyone--- knocked on our door and handed me a dog--any size--- yes, I would take it-----So---this morning, while Himself is at his day program, I cleaned a cupboard in the kitchen--a cupboard that I never had time to do that--
You see, I am trying to keep my heart beautiful-- really I am!!!
We have snow falling--It is winter again--colder than cold-and I do miss yu all. Too bad that we all don't live closer isn't it?- We could help pull out- those that are in "The Depths of Despair"---We could sing and dance and ----EAT----Do you all eat when you are sad? ---You could bring your dogs and I would play the piano for them all---We could laugh and laugh and laugh-----We could even pretend that we are younger than springtime---
Always try to be strong---Maybe I should practice more--- because, it's hard to ALWAYS BE STRONG---no matter what life throws at you---
That’s an awesome thought .. . . we’ve survived 100% of our worst days.
ReplyDeleteGlad you got to the hairdresser. You needed the pampering. I wondered if you were going to look for another pup. I can only say, I think your hairdresser is right. You have your hands full w/Lopez and Himself. Puppies and new dogs take so much time and attention. Definitely wise words . . . give it time.
You HAVE a beautiful heart, for sure.
Yes, it’s winter here, too . . . cold and snow. Not impressed but then Mother Nature didn’t ask my opinion. LOL
Oh I do so wish we all lived closer. Definitely we have helped each other virtually through sad times, celebrated good times and kept each other sane in insane times. It would be so much more so doing it in person. We can dream!
Glad that each day is a little better. You’re making progress.
Yes, hard times do make us stronger, but wouldn’t it be nice to be strong w/o going through them!
HUGS and blessings. A day @ a time.
Barb
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Barb--one day at a time for sure--Yu said it--and I believe that is going to be how it will be--- Thank yu for the hugs-Lynda
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ReplyDeleteLOAGrandmaMarch 22, 2024 at 12:37 PM
ReplyDeleteAnd we need to remember, sis, there are just as many...even more...great, wonderful, happy times. Sometimes we just need to think of those.
You and all your blog followers could start our own town! Either near where you live now or somewhere central between where we all live. Might be hard to figure out where that is.
We'd all be friends...sisters (are any of your followers gentlemen?)
We'd all have our own opinions and perspectives, of course. We'd share them, but not force them on others of our group.
We'd cheer each other up if needed, give a kick in the butt if that's what's required, we'd laugh, sing, dance and have fun! Of course, we'd need to bring our pets and people partners and dependents too. It may be a pretty big town.
Someone said you'd don't need another dog. That's their opinion. Let your feelings guide you, but I recommend you do wait a while to see if those feelings keep coming. We probably all wish that our beloved pets lived as long as we do...and healthy, too!
Great that you cleaned out that cupboard. Keeping busy helps.
Thinking of and praying for you all always. Love and {{{HUGS}}} Maggie
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Oh dear Maggie--Iam trying very hard to let the dog situation rest -- for now--- I am also hoping that by some miracle , I might just find a dog --or something--or--maybe no dog for now-- See Maggie?--I don't know whether I'm coming or going--LOL-- Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda, it's Kathy. I really needed the meme about surviving even the worst of days. Today is that day for me. Mediation did not go well, in fact it ended up with Bryan getting everything he wants and Lauriellen getting nothing. They wouldn't even discuss child support until she agrees to allow Bryan to have the boys every other weekend and one afternoon/evening a week. She is devastated and I haven't stopped crying all morning. And spending 5 hours with those boys who throw terrible temper tantrums about every 30 minutes - yesterday was the worst day I've had in a very long time. And then we got snow overnight. But today I don't have any responsibilities. I can wallow in my sorrow - or decide to take care of myself! So far I've been wallowing - but it's time to start taking care! Thank you for your blog, today it's my life line! Oh, and I agree with your hairdresser. As much as I know you want another dog, maybe it's okay to just be okay for a little while!
ReplyDeleteOh no--- I am so sorry that the mediation did not help-I agree-- he seemed to get a lot--the Father guy--Maybe he will not like having the boys , if they keep acting up---- hard eh?---It is snowing here a lot also--- I hope things work out for yer daughter-- I am like yu--think children should be with their Mother --young children for ure--Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda! I understand how it feels to have your emotions on that roller coaster ride about another dog. When we lost our very first yorkie last year at 10 years old we tossed the idea around for 6 months. We knew we had our 7 year old yorkie who was finally perfect and easy to care for. BUT, YEP BUT...we now have a 10 month old. That Tommy! lol So, it is normal to think about another but maybe taking longer is the best way to be sure. I was glad we took the 6 months. More Ohio hugs as you get through this. Each day gets easier. I promise! Take Care!
ReplyDelete6 mos eh?--I can hang in for 6 mos-- Maybe I'll know by then-- Lynda
DeleteIt may be less time for you. You will know when/if the timing is right. Stay strong. Hugs!
DeleteI sure understand the "wanna puppy" urges... as I get them myself. In the wake of losing Rubia and seeing The Prisoner missing her as well as my own missing her... and then the lady who gave me Prisoner when he was a kitten... well her dog had puppies in January. But I know I can't take on a dog that big. I'm kind of where you were when you decided you couldn't take on another Shepherd in the wake of losing Tess.
ReplyDeleteAs I greet The Prisoner each morning I realize how empty my house would feel when he heads for the Rainbow Bridge, too. BUT, there's a practicality about all of this!
So... letting it simmer for a while.
You'll find what works for YOU and your situation... no need to rush about it.
(( hugs ))
Barb you are "living" my situation--and I shall let it "simmer" awhile also-- altho even that saddens me as it's the old age thing-- Yu are feeling the same as me-- so it's not just me-- Thank yu --Lynda
DeleteGlad you made it to the hairdresser! Thinking about a sudden other dog, eh? Have you been checked for dementia issues lately, at this stage? Himself is not the only one who can have this. Remember when you chose a chihuahua without even knowing about them? And on and on it went…..? Oh man, wish you had a pastor or someone professional to talk to, a horrible event sends some people into a spiral, and we elderly have just as much trouble dealing with them as anyone. But common sense needs to come into action. Hasty decisions after a death should not be made. Take time to be realistic, talk with your doctor for example. Please take care…..
ReplyDeleteLOL---- Yu are probably right--- part of the sadness is I am not young --like I used to be able to just get a new dog--and knowing that this time I should not, is in itself , had--LOL--depressing-- Lynda
DeleteI think I agree with your friends above who have all blogged to you today....maybe now is not the right time to get another dog. I am thinking your Lopez is a handful at times and he might not like having to share you with another dog. And think of that new dog - coming to a new home with Lopez, Sushi, and Himself and his cane....might be stressful for the new pup! Your hands are full Lynda! I agree with your hairdresser. You need time to mourn and grieve for Beau. Another dog will never be able to take his place. Let your heart heal first.
ReplyDeleteYes. it is that cane too---have go let it rest for awhile--but-- it is so hard Sandra--I remember you being so sad --you got thru it--Hopefully in time I can--Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda, please let your heart heal before entertaining another pet. Give yourself time to grieve Beau. He can't be replaced no matter what dog you'd get. Also, at some point you are likely to relocate. Many rentals won't accept multiple pets. You have your hands full with Fred. Step back and allow your heart to heal....mabe a year before you decide if you want another huge commitment. Lopez was a huge handful and anything new will be the same. Wait...for a long time please.
ReplyDeleteI'd love it if we all lived closer. Wouldn't that be wonderful.
Good job on cabinet cleaning out.
May as well find inside projects since winter is hanging on at your house.
Hugs dear lady.
Blessings
Marge in St.Louis
Marge I am trying to tell myself all that ---hoping tht some dog muight just drop into my lap- (or no dog-LOL)--- Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda: Glad you're feeling a bit better. I am not on the same path that everyone else is as I don't have a problem with getting another dog right away. I did that with my current dog. But I think you need certain parameters to work within such as: not a puppy - that's too much work and some kind that Lopez would get along with. And one that's not a barker - mine is and himself probably couldn't cope with that. We're getting a lot of snow today too - which is unusual after it was so warm last week. Relax tonight and play the piano. Hugs Brenda
ReplyDeleteBrenda you are a woman after my own heart-Thankyu---Lynda
DeleteIt's Marti, of course I have to weigh in, LOL. I think you have to do what feels right for YOU, ultimately, BUT at this time I certainly would not be getting another dog. I mean, I am just like you. When I lost my last dog, Tucker, well, he was a big guy, and lasted until he was 15, but he could no longer hardly even stand, and often tripped and fell. I knew I would not do well at all without something to come home to, living alone as I do, and so I scheduled to meet a puppy right after he was put down. I just didn't think I could bear the awful depression I would have fallen into. But...Lynda, you already HAVE a dog. And yeah, Fred and his cane, and you are older now, and Chihuahuas can be very particular with other dogs. I just wouldn't. I know you are hurting. Work on the journal I sent you, instead. :)
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Oh Marti--Yes I have the journal -thank yu so much--and I am tying so hard to just have Lopez-- but--I am in a horrible sadness --just hope it goes away soon--Lopez has been good--and I do have a bit more free time--Im working on the positives-LOL--Lynda-
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ReplyDeleteI know you are hurting and missing Beau terribly right now and I am sorry that he passed. Remember back to the beginning when he had all his troubles and be glad that you had him for as long as you did.
For now, please stop and consider all the aspects of getting another pet at our age. Besides the turmoil it would create in your household, consider the fact that the dog could possibly live longer than you do. Would there be somebody who would take care of them if that should happen?
My sister got a couple of kittens a few months ago, she is younger than we are, but has always had health issues. Long story short, she became bedridden and is now in a nursing home. Luckily our brother is still able to take care of her animals, but I really don't think it was fair for any of them in that situation, especially the cats... Now my brother is trying to find a home for them.
I do agree with the person who suggested that if you do get another dog, to get one that is older and well behaved.
I think this is a great time to let your head over-rule your heart!!
Grieve Beau and feel sad. It’s okay. And it is also okay to feel sad about old age, just don’t wallow in it. It would be nice if we all lived close together and could get together for support, and laughs, and to complain about our troubles. And yes, food. I am an emotional eater, so there is always a reason to shove something in my mouth..😁
ReplyDeleteAs for another dog, I would give that some serious thought. Why is another dog so important to you? I would answer that question first. And read back over your blogs about the struggles you had with Lopez. That might affect your decision.
Losing a pet is hard and it takes time to heal. Take care!
I agree with most others that getting another dog right now is probably not the best course of action. But. Perhaps you could put a notation on your calendar several months out to rethink another dog. By then the grief will be greatly diminiished and you'll know how Mr. Lopez is doing with no canine buddy. If you still greatly desire a dog maybe you should go ahead and get one. Were it me, I'd look at a female so there'd be no deciding who's the most macho. And, perhaps a sweetie who's no longer a puppy and needs a new home. I'd just be sure to know why there's a need for a new home ... often it's because an older owner had to relinquish their dog.
ReplyDeleteWhatever you decide will be the best thing.