Good morning-- It is cold-- I have shovelled off the car--(which sits outside)----Ice and snow on it-- It needs to be driven-- We have sunshine--but it is cold--and snowy out there. Lots of snow fell here yesterday--I think all I did was shovel yesterday------ mostly around the car--and on the car--(not like a huge long driveway--)
Lopez was difficult this AM--would not allow me to pick him up--or get his leash--I knew he would bite me , if I tried---Man oh man, I have never owned a dog like him!---- I do not want to give him away, but in my head , I know (I think) it would be the right thing to do----What if he bit Himself??-- OR--My FACE ???--- What to do--What to do??--And if he were re-homed, would it make him worse??--I believe it would! I have had the Dog trainer in and she is working with him--no change yet tho--
This AM, while out shovelling, I could smell bacon and eggs cooking--I am going to buy some bacon..--It smelled SO SO good~I almost went to the home I smelled it coming from--
The people who live behind us, had an ambulance thee yesterday--It looked as if a person had fallen-- The person was taken away on a stretcher, in an ambulance--These are the people who probably have seen every inch of me--- all winter-- prior to us having blinds-----
So are we settling in?-----Sorta----- I do miss Elliot Lake -I do miss our home ---- and I do miss the people I knew there. Does that ever change?-- Himself seems just fine with living here--probably even better than where we were before-- When will I be??--
Will I ever feel like this is home??? I need to hear from you all--
So--I am off of here for now-- I go to the Optomatrist to--morrow--who will send me to an Opthamologist--The whole thing is like a puzzle-
Oh--- Trump ------ went back on his threats--kinda a crazy man I'd say--
See yu to-morrow-
It's Kathy. I am so sorry you're having such a time with little Lopez. Do you think he also misses his former home? It's funny that he is now fighting you when you want to take him outside. I think you lived an entire life in your Elliot Lake home and no, you will probably not ever really feel settled in this new home. When my husband and I talk about moving (we live on a very busy road and it's getting worse and worse every year - so distracting) I think about raising my children here, saying goodbye to so many pets here, planting my gardens and watching my flowers grow year after year. I have never liked this home but after 43 years it has become home. I can walk though this house in the dark and know where everything is.
ReplyDeleteBUT you have so many positives living in your new home. You're closer to shopping and other things you need to do. You have less space to clean which means you can read more books. Less snow shoveling, no lawn mowing, or weed wacking. All these things are something I look forward to one day! You may never feel completely settled but eventually you will feel at home!
And yes, I heard last night that Trump has provided a one month reprieve. I believe he just really wants the borders between the US and Canada and Mexico to be more secure. But we'll see. They talked on our news this morning about how many things we import from Canada - I had no idea! Have a good day.
and now Trump wants the US to take over Gaza-- I could not believe that!--Ye-- I guess it takes time when one moves-I do know I could not continue doing all I was doing there--but I sure understand how you would miss your home if yu ever moved-- Lynda
DeleteGood morning, Lynda! The snow is all gone in Ohio and the sun is shining. I really think you will feel better in the Spring! We all get funky in the Winter and in a new place does not help at all. I really think you will feel better soon. Just think about Medina and ice cream. LOL Maybe roll up little cheese balls and give one to Lopez on the floor and walk away, Do that a bit and then in a few days put one on the palm of your hand and try to let him get it there. Little things so he can feel good. Just a thought. Happy Tuesday!
ReplyDeleteGood idea about the cheese balls--Iolove little Lopez-- Lynda
DeleteYes, you do. I feel like I know him, since day one when you got him. He is just adjusting to changes.
DeleteLynda, I agree with you about Trump. He is a convicted felon...twice over. Can't imagine why some wanted him.
ReplyDeleteGive little Lopez a bit more time, dear. Learned responses need some time to change.
Of course you will feel more at home in your apartment. You might try this: take a piece of paper, draw a line down the middle, on one side list all the positives about living where you are now and on the other side write the negatives. Maybe the only negative will be that you miss Elliot Lake.
It's cold here, too...very cold, but the sun is shining. No snow yet. It's predicted for the twin cities (Minneapolis and St Paul), but we are 45 miles SE. Often we don't get their weather.
Time for me to get something done around here...haven't done much yet...just playing around on this computer.
Bacon really does smell good, that's for sure.
I'll be back, sis. {{{HUGS}}} Love, Maggie
Maggie-Good idea--list te good parts-- I know they will be longer --specially the investments in the bank--LOL-less work here for me=-= Himself has no stairs-Lynda
DeleteLopez needs to feel safe, and apparently, at present, he does not. I guess I have to ask, does he ever just sit on your lap, settle in and calmly get petted? Is it always a contest of wills? Or are there times when he's just a little love? If you have those moments of peaceful bonding, you can build on them.
ReplyDeleteYes we do have those moments--He settles into my arms and sleeps-- Yu know his world was turned upside down also when we moved--I must remember that Barb--Lynda
DeleteTrump has dementia and frontal vortex issues, crazy! Needs to no be breathing! Should have been relieved of his life Jan. 6. The Rogues that forced him on us should also be not breathing. I’m so sorry about the dog being afraid of you! Did you really squirt him with cold water? Who taught you to do that? That is something from the 1950’s, before people understood things. Wish you could talk to a doctor, you and Himself need to be checked, to see how you measure up on the dementia scale. That makes any kind of change harder to take! Moving is hard on a person, any person. This dog thing is a control thing, that wears a person down, for sure. So sorry you are not enjoying it, or playing piano for pleasure. Or having pleasant things. wish the dog would go on pads, so no forcing togo out into the cold in the first thing. Smaller dogs can get along with that. Lucky that pads are made for apartment dogs, so no need to go out. Sigh……Maybe Spring will help us all. Wish you had neighbors to talk to.
ReplyDeleteNo== I knew NOT to squirt poor wee Lopez--and I thought it sounded very mean also when I gave it serious thought---- I love the little guy-- his world--everything he knew--was changed also, when we moved--guess we are suffering the same-- sigh--Thank yu for writing --Lynda
DeleteWell, clearly Lopez needs more training sessions. *SIGH* For sure, as commented, he needs patience to build up trust. And that varies from dog to dog. For sure. Frustrating.
ReplyDeleteHOPE that your neighbor that was taken away in the ambulance is doing all right.
Oh my dear . . . everyone is different but do give yourself grace to get used to your new home. With the warmer weather you’ll probably meet more people and then it’ll seem more like home. It IS hard to leave all those you’ve know for so long. ((HUGS)) It may not feel like home like Elliot Lake did, but will definitely feel more comfortable.
Ummmm, T is not just kinda crazy . . . he’s right there front and center.
Hugs
Barb
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Barb--"T" wants the US to take over Gaza--unbelievable-- Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda… I’m sorry things are a bit rough right now. I believe you will settle in to the new apartment. I also think that when the good weather comes, you will find out more about your area. It’s an adjustment for sure when we move. I’ve been in my condo for 18 years, and I still miss my former home. But, my husband is your age, and to have no grass to cut is worth the trade off. Not to mention the snow removal.We have adjusted, and are happy here.
ReplyDeleteI wish I had advice regarding Lopez. I’ve had several dogs, but none were biters. My heart goes out to you.
Blessings to you and yours,
Vicki from Mass
Vicki --Bless yu for writing-- Yu moved from yer home to an apartment?--And you have adjusted??-- I can then eh--in time? I thnink that is why Lopez is mixed up too--Everything he knew is now gone-- Lynda
DeleteYears ago when I had moved so far, I had a wise co-worker tell me that to him home was where he laid his head. I kept telling myself that for months and it helped. Yet, I still remember my life there and it’s been 30 years. I think I really miss being in my 30’s.
ReplyDeleteBut, that was in Texas which is so pro-Trump. Ugh, I couldn’t have survived.
And now Trump wants to take over Gaza-- unbelievable eh??-- Thank yu for helping me adjust here--Lynda
DeleteIt takes a while not to miss the folks you left. We had to move due to health issues but it is much easier on our old bodies here in Virginia than in Alaska. You will enjoy your new place once you make new friends and your other sons will eventually adjust. One thing that helped me is the saying you can't look behind when you are trying to go forward!
ReplyDeleteOh I like that--Do not look behind---I shall try-- Lynda
DeleteI think, Lynda, I'd reach out to Rescue. Tell them the situation. There is always someone who can work with such dogs in Rescue. Chihuahua Rescue. Reach out to the nearest one. They DO drive long distances to pick up the animal. I've had to use them many, many a time, when I would end up getting something I had no business getting, guinea pigs, vicious dogs, birds, a dog who wouldn't housetrain and I was just home from total knee replacement. Life happens... I wouldn't just give him to a shelter, they don't know what to do with such dogs and might put him down. He's not vicious, right? Something must be happening to him that you don't know about. He never acted that way before back where you used to live, did he? I find it very odd - Marti
ReplyDeleteMarti--I believe he is just mixed up-=-= was used to our other house--but--what do I know really-- Lynda
DeleteAdding on...don't feel bad about it. You're elderly. You've tried. You don't need to be having a biting dog around the house on top of everything else. I'm sure you love him, but that's just not acceptable in my book, lol. I mean, you've raised him from a puppy, even. Maybe see if the trainer knows anyone who could take him off your hands. Sometimes even vets offices will take in an animal that remains there. We had to do that with a cat we had who peed everywhere and couldn't move her bowels. She became the "office cat." - Marti
ReplyDeleteLotza good ideas Marti--Thank yu--Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda, I am so sorry that you are having a tough time adjusting to your new town. There are so many positives for both of you there.
ReplyDeleteHaving downsized and moved to another state to a smaller place myself..it takes time. And I didn't have a Matt. What truly helped me...gotta get out there. Do something for others. Play piano at a nursing home...they dont care how good you are, they care that you took time to be there. I played in a kitchen bsnd, back home, we stunk lol but the residents enjoyed our music...it was a gazoo band with an accordian lol. As i said, we stunk
I volunteer 5/6 afternoons a week stocking a food pantry. Very caring, lovely people there. I also found a newlllllllllchurch. You gotta get yourself out there. Go with Fred to the Sr.Center. Join a book club. Thousands of things to do. If Canada has an app called MEET UP, explore the offerings in your town. Might be a million different things...gardening, a community garden, crocheting, knitting...who knows.
Won't tell you what I think or what I would do with Lopez...can tell you I would not tolerate a biting dog. Could be your face or could be Fred next time. It's your decision how much time and money you are willing to invest in a possible change.
Hugs dear lady.
Marge/St.Louis
Marge--Yu cheered me up--Yu played in a gazoo band-- So funny eh??_ I do not think the Lady I hired to help lopez has helped him very much--but-- I do not want to give up on him--which means putting him down--i shall try to get out to volunteer-- Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda, I am so sorry for you and himself. It seems like Lopez is biting more lately. Dogs are so empathetic and sense their owner's moods. Could it be that he is reacting to your sadness? I was told a long time ago that dogs are very much like four year olds. I have often thought about this during the many years that I have had dogs. I have always had two dogs at a time and they were all large dogs. Lopez is also adjusting to his new house and so I think it will take some time. Perhaps when you feel a little more settled so won't he? You are doing great and as my dad used to say "keep your chin up and soldier on." You got this.
ReplyDeleteKaren--Thank yu--I WILL "Soldier :" on--I do love wee Lopez--I shall keep trying--I feel sorry for im yu know-Lynda
DeleteTraining takes some time to produce changes; only you can decide whether you should continue with Mr. Lopez or whether safety for him, yourself and Fred means that you rehome him. It's a hard thing to figure out, I know. It sucks being a grownup sometimes.
ReplyDeleteAs for getting used to where you are now and missing where you were, you've been there a very short while. Hopefully you'll get out and make some connections, friends outside your family through activities.
Happy Tuesday.
Yes here it will be
Delete"HOME" one day-it will;; be--- I do know that--and My Lopez is a challenge--Lynda
Hi Lynda: I don't have much time today but just wanted to mention one more thing about Lopez. My dogs breeder said that dogs pick up on our moods, illnesses, affect him also. I know nothing about chihuahuas but would suggest a rescue place for them if you decide to get of him. Good luck. Hugs Brenda
ReplyDeleteAWw Brenda Hard tio believe but :Lopez good wee boy this evening--but--He can turn on a dime-Lynda
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