I am late posting-- but-- I am OK--- I am learning to walk away from all the silly stuff going on --I am learning that my 95 yr old husband is very afraid of the surgery that is going to occur on Friday--- He is not going to have a General Anaesthetic -- It will be done as a Local---the operation on one vocal cord which was damaged when he had covid last June--is going to be repaired--- so then his voice should return. I could not understand why he is so stressed, but now it is all coming out--
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--So, you see, Doctors worry also about surgery on their bodies-- and no matter what I say, I am the bad person---but, I am the only person around him---As Mom used to say, "I must have the patience of Jobe"---whoever Jobe was---
Other than all that, the day is good--- I hear water bombers flying over our house-- There must be a fire sorta close to here---
-Good thing I have big Beau, because he loves to hear me chat away to him--- and Lopez follows me everywhere--does not want to get in the way of Himself's cane-- ----
-"----When things are chaotic, I wish one inner silence"------ and that seems to work-----
Big hugs out to yu all--- good thing that we are strong---and loving---WE ARE YOU KNOW!
So sorry you are having to deal with this Lynda, possibly Himself should have kept working...then his mind would have stayed sharp....
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand....Job (Jobe) is a person in the Bible...He said no matter what God threw at him, he would continue to be faithful to God....and he had all kinds of tests and he stayed faithful and praised God..........so HENCE the saying: the patience of Job.....
Darlene--Thank yu so much--Jobe was a person in the Bible---I never knew who he was--- but Mom always used that expression--Thank yu SO SO much!
DeleteI hope you are not going alone with him to the surgery on Friday. I expect he will be very stressed by then and I don't want him to take it out on you.
ReplyDeleteIt is supposed to rain later today but the sun is out now and the temps are pleasant with no bugs. DH is going to get his Shingles vaccine today. We had to move it 3 or 4 times because of various thing but today is the day. I already had mine. He had the original shingles vaccine but now they want him to get the Shingrix one since they say the old vaccine isn't very effective. A bunch of other errands to do while we are in town.
I keep looking at the fire map and it doesn't seem to be getting any better in Ontario or out West. Stay safe
Let me know if DH has any reaction to that Shingles vaccine-- I need go get it also---the Shingrix one I mean--Yes I hear a water bomber flying around here--must be fires-Lynda
DeleteI so love the peanuts comic you included. The highlights of my day lately have been noticing that the two cats have strategically decided to sleep just at the right height for me to stop on my frequent walks around the house to give them a little bit of loving. And you know, what you give you get back sometimes with pets, and it's doing me (and the cats) a world of good. I tell them how grateful I am to have them and how wonderful they are. It makes me feel so good. I'm sorry Himself is scared. I've had two surgeries for vocal cord growths. One just a couple years ago. They made me stay overnight only because they knew I lived alone. The other was when I was 2 or 3. I was born with a growth that got removed when I was 3. I get a bit grumpy about having to repeat myself and always have - I think it's because only a few people close to me could understand me until I was older. From my experience a few years ago there's not much to it - but he may be ordered not to speak for a few days. THAT part was very hard. Not even whisper because that's harder on the vocal cords than speaking, apparently. I hope that won't be the case for himself because that may be hard to get across to him. I need to go borrow the 'I wish for you' image and give it to my niece. She's decided after years of dealing with health issues the medical profession can't figure out, she's stopping all treatment as it's not helping her and is 'going to let things take it's course.' She's out of hope, and I truly wish I could give her hope but I think that has to come from within. But I'm still sending her the list. Thank you for posting these things. They really do brighten our days and because of you, we're all stronger together!
ReplyDeleteOh Gayleane-- YU sure brought tears to my eyes this morning --Thank yu for all your kind words-Everything happens for a reason doesn't it?- Years go, when I brought Sushi, the cat, in our home, and she bit and scratched me , but we worked things out and I love her so much now and she is my friend also--listens to me ---Happy that you are able to help someone with the "I wish for you list"---- I appreciate hearing from yu all--- It makes me stronger also-Lynda
DeleteThat’s great that you learned the source of Himself’s anxiety. The healthcare team should hopefully be able to help him feel calmer.
ReplyDeleteThat quote is true. . . we have it within us right now to get . . . to where we want to be later.
OH NO! HOPE that there are no fires near you!
Yes life has all sorts of lessons to teach us, even as we get older!
(((HUGS))) Keep talking to Big Beau! He’s a good boy.
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Yes Barb, Big Beau certainly is my friend--Lynda
DeleteLynda, I've always heard that doctors make the worst patients and isn't that the truth?! Fred will be fine once he gets there and sees how easy it will be for him.
ReplyDeleteNope, no one has ever written instructions on how to handle situations as we age, a person has to live it to know what it's all about. I have one remaining sister and she has a memory problem now but she remains as cheerful as she's always been, maybe even more so. She knows that not everyone will reach the age she is ~ 93! What a sweetheart she is. She has an apartment in a retirement home and pretty much takes care of herself, even helps out another woman who daily forgets where the dining room is. Sis goes to the woman's apt and takes her. Isn't that priceless? :)
Live life day by day, minute by minute and try to smile whenever you can.
Hugs and love to you & Fred xoxo
Gloria--Bless yer heart-- There are days that I wonder how Ill ever make it thru--and then I hear from yu and I know that I'm not alone--Thank yu for all yor kindness-Lynd
DeleteWhat a lovely blog, Lynda. Well, mostly. I know it's difficult to deal with Himself. You can't explain much to him, cuz you don't even know if he understands. If he does, he would probably forget soon and be afraid again. I am sure the surgery will go well. I hope he heals soon with very little pain.
ReplyDeleteHas anyone else come by to see your house?
Any word on your daughter's condition?
They are still waiting on the pathology report on my son-in-law. He has already survived receiving a donor kidney and surgery for thyroid cancer.
The things we need to go through!
Just chillin' here today...a few chores, crosswords and playing with Lucky. These days of virtually no responsibilities come very seldom. I must admit, however, that they come more often since I retired.
Power on! {{{HUGS}}}
No more showings on the house--Our daughter is getting much better--The anti viral meds really shortened the blisters spreading-- Lynda
DeleteI certainly hope the fires are not traveling anywhere near your home.
ReplyDeleteLoved today's inserts. I so admire your positive attitude and strength. Im certain DH will be fine. Trying to calm him down or explain what will happen is likely futile as I'm not sure he'll remember. He reads medical journals. Would it be possible to find an article on the Procedure? Perhaps he could digest the information in doctor lingo and it could calm him down. Just a thought.
Jobe is from the Bible. Horrible things happened to him for years but he stayed loyal to God and overcame every horrible thing thrown at him. His faith never wavered....thus the phrase, patience of Jobe.
Stay strong. You got this.
Play your piano.
Hugs
Our daughter sent him a video on the surgery so he knows what he is in for--- just so worried--- he is!-- Lynda-
DeleteOh, and I have to tell you...we are also getting smoke from Canada wild fires in Minnesota! {{{HUGS}}}
ReplyDeleteOh Lordy-Yu are getting Smoke from Canada--and no more showings on the house-- guess we are doomed to be in this house forever--*S*---Oh well--It is a lot of house-- justa ton of work--but I enjoy most of the work- Yu need days with no responsibilites--just whatever ticklers yer fancy--(Mom used to say that--LOL)--It just popped into my head)_--
DeleteIts me --Lynda -- I forgot to sign the below--
DeleteIt's Kathy. We have a terribly hazy day here. I'm not sure what fires we are being affected by but I sure do wish God would send some rain everywhere! I think it's very smart of you to not comment back to himself. He's just not happy and it's not you! I do hope the surgery helps him feel better.
ReplyDeleteYu know Kathy--- I hope its the surgery he is worried about because I dunno how long I can deal with him this way--Lynda
DeleteI doulb that there is anything you could say or do to help himself out with the surgery. As a doctor he will think he knows better than you or anyone else does. So I think you are doing the right thing by just smiling and staying quiet! Hopefully you can get him there ok on Friday and he stays calm. Good luck. And hope the fires stay away from your area. Hugs Brenda
ReplyDeleteBrenda he has completely changed--- so worried about the surgery-- hard to deal with--Lynda
DeleteBest of Luck on Friday. Your loving Himself is NOT the one you knew, so dealing with him the way you used to, will not work. Wish the medical people there would help you out more, they leave you hanging, forcing you to take care of an impossible soul. We would have thought things in 2923 would have been better, wouldn’t we?? Sending good vibes to you!!
ReplyDeleteI am taking care of an impossible soul terrified of his surgery on Friday--Yes I thank yu for the vibes--Lynda
DeleteMy daughter has a lot of anxiety...she worries about everything! It is so hard to try to help her realize that she has fears that aren't necessarily going to come true....but it is hard for her - so I understand what you are dealing with Himself's upcoming surgery! You are right to just say little and stay calm and not argue and make it worse. Very hard to do, I know. I sent a belated birthday card to your brother today. Hope he gets it sooner than later. Have no idea how long the snail takes to get there from where I live. I have been buying bags of mulch and trying to get them around my tree lines to make it easier when I mow. Have done 12 bags so far, but is so hard to do as each bag weighs 40 lbs - and most of them are wet which makes them heavier.... but I just do what I can do. Will be gone for the next several days at a woman's retreat with my church - so I am hoping for a little rest from yard work and perhaps some strength training in my faith!
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