Himself has not been a happy camper-he decided to make soup yesterday, and-everything but the kitchen sink got taken out of the newly restocked frig, chopped up, and piled into his soup-and I could see all my groceries being depleted--and when he found some celery which looked as if it had been in the frig for the past 10 yrs---he kinda "lost it" ----I don't know how I hadn't seen it when I had cleaned out that frig--and----- as unbelievable as it sounds, the rotten celery was held up to my face-, demanding to know why it was in the frig in the state it was in---- so, as one can imagine, my Himself was certainly NOT Himself--
Trying to reason with him does not work--He cannot hear me properly--and he always says, "I am going to tell the kids about you!"-I wonder how many wives--women--spouses, are living like this--??----
-I did walk down the road, hoping to get some help from son#1, but grown adult children do not want to get involved--sometimes I think if my himself could just be removed--for an hour or so, then return, he might be his nice "self "------lose all the frustration he carries--
Oh my! I hope you didn't end up wearing that celery. Geez. I'm sure you had a few things to say about that too. And going to tell the kids about what? They already know about his behaviour. Holy cow! That sperm joke was so funny and caught me so un-awares at first. Love it! And I'm so glad you can reach in and find humour when I'm sure you were fuming for awhile on that back road today! Big news here. One of the younger generation of the family that has adopted me for Christmas and other year round events and goings on... had a baby boy last night. She was feeling rough and went to hospital. They delivered the baby in the middle of the night by C-Section. It had been scheduled for the 30th, but someone wanted to make an appearance on his own time. Baby and Mum are doing great. What a huge surprise for everyone including me. So now I have wee one to look forward to holding for a bit. Can't wait! I've had to course correct my ex husband once in awhile when it comes to the kids. He once unfriended our daughter on Facebook when she said "and if you don't like it, you can unfriend me!" So he did. Months later when we figured out why he sent Birthday greetings to one kid and not the other when they share the same birthday, I had to explain to him that those types of things apply to anyone else, but not to us parents. If we have to we can mute them for a time, but always keep lines of communication open. Goodness. I'm delighted he's married to someone else because he really is such a stubborn old cuss sometimes. (His wife and I get along fantastic and she knows I understand when she needs to complain). Anyway, I have Bingo yet to play and then I'm off to bed. My day was very productive and that always tires me out but makes me feel so good too. ((Hugs)) - Gaelyne
ReplyDeleteNo---but I wanted to whack him with the celery-- I dunno why he thinks telling the grown kids stuff will scare me or what--I would gladly love them to take over his care-- but--I do not hear them asking--That is so so nice that you have a family member now befriending yu--So yu communicate with yer EX?--- I just do not think I could ever do that with my himself if we ever parted our ways--but--at 95, I guess we won't be parting ways --or he will not be remarrying--Yu know Gaelyne, I do not think I could ever marry again--there is no way I could take care of another man--(I don't think!-)-LOL-- YU never know tho---LOL
DeleteI rolled at the winning sperm insert. That cracked me up. I think we can all relate to looking at DHs and thinking that.
ReplyDeleteSorry he's being difficult...BUT.... in the big scheme of things fussing about old celery isnt a big "thing". As you said, get away for a bit and let it roll off your back knowing this is NOT himself. At least he cooks...grand quantities but he cooks.
Hopefully the boys will be around today and he'll be distracted out of his grumpy mood.
Hang in. Stay strong and positive.
Hugs
This evening Son#1 had us over for dinner and it went well-- praise the Lord!--Glad yu enjoyed that insert--I hesitated putting it in at first-- but--when I read it, I immediately felt that way about Fred--LOL-Lynda
Delete(((( hugs )))) Sometimes I like to just retreat into the "pink cloud world" of how I'd want the world to be, as opposed to what's in front of my face.
ReplyDeleteHope that Himself is himself again for at least enough of Father's Day to give you some relief!
Barb--It is crazy how some people age------ If he could see himself , he would not like Himself----Lynda
DeleteToo funny about that celery, well beyond its "use by" date. If I'd had that brandished in front of my face, this would have been my response: "Oops."
ReplyDeleteso unlike him---getting upset over rotted celery--LOL--Lynda
DeleteSo sorry that your DS could not help you. **SIGH** SO frustrating, but . . . you took a good first sep in helping yourself walking down the road, for sure. Just to get away for a tiny bit . . . . helps you settle a little, even if not necessarily DH. **SIGH** Hard to let things roll off the back (my Mom always said always forgive, but you don’t have to forget . . . in other words, you can forgive someone but remember the LESSON in the situation. For you, it was get away for even a short time to regroup.
ReplyDeleteHope it’s a good Father’s Day.
HUGS
barb
it was a good Fathers Day--- very good!-- Thank goodness-Lynda
DeleteI hope I never have to experience the anguish you are living through with my husband. My heart hurts for you. I certainly do not have your patience . . .my DH might wear the yucky celery if he ever gets in my face like that. Let him tell the kids . . . maybe he should and then they can see what you really deal with on a daily basis. It is a sad situation for sure. Hugs coming to you from NH
ReplyDeleteThis afternoon has gone a lot better-- Yu never know eh what sets Himself off-- and if I get angry at him, he only gets worse-Lynda
DeleteLove your first insert. I guess you just have to put up with it again to maintain your record of doing so! At least you go out and went for a walk to allow you time to settle down and hopefully for him to get into a better frame of mind.Sad your son wouldn't just come for a visit. And if himself put so many things in the soup, I would think no celery would not make a difference, As today is Fathers Day hopefully some of kids come for a visit. That would cheer him up some. Hugs Brenda
ReplyDeleteSon#1 has invited us for dinner-so nice of him--- and--we need to get out-Lynda
DeleteOh good. The day willl end a lot better. Enjoy.
DeleteOh, Lynda, I do feel for you! Sometimes I am happy I just live with my kitty. He can be difficult sometimes, too, but it doesn't last long.
ReplyDeleteI take it Himself will not wear his 'ears.' If he did, he could hear you. You might have said he can clean out the frig next time. Come to think on it, though, you'd have to check what he was 'cleaning out' in case it was something you still wanted. My mom used to have a saying, "Six of one, half a dozen of the other."
Cloudy here and light rain on and off. It is forecast to be very hot the next few days. We need that light rain...as do the critters and the plants.
LOVE that Daffy Ducky poster! That's one I would like to share.
On FB I wished all fathers, step-fathers and grandpas a Happy Father's Day. Woops...I forgot fathers-in-law! Oh, well. Next year I will remember.
We did Bingo today, and I won 3 games. I play six cards. We play a dime a card, and the winner gets all the dimes given for that game.
Now it's on to meditation, journaling, supper and tv.
It's been a good day. Hope you have a better one tomorrow! {{{HUGS}}}
Hey My Mom said the same thing-"
Delete-6 of one --half a dozen of the other"--I wonder if they knew each other--LOL--It will be a better day tomorrow--I just feel it!--So good to hear from yu-Lynda
Since there is little you can do to make Himself happy, I hope that you
ReplyDeletecontinue to find ways to provide breaks for yourself…piano, walking, reading…What you are going thru on a daily basis is rough!! ❤️ Eissa7
Himself is better this afternoon--so many "ups and downs" eh?--I took it out on the weed whacker--LOL--Lynda
DeleteI have no wisdom words just a BIG hug for you! Hoping that your day will be better.
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I will take the hug and thank yu--so much--Lynda
DeleteI hope things are going better! Stay strong. Hugs!
ReplyDeleteYers-- staying strong is the best----Lynda
DeleteI have been out of town for a women's retreat with my church and I am just now catching up on your blogs from last Thursday thru today. There was no internet so I couldn't log in. I am happy that Himself's surgery went well! And sad that you were harassed with limp celery! But most of all, I am happy that you are having a better afternoon! Hopefully all your kids have been in contact with him for Father's Day! All four of my kids called and checked on me today to make sure I was doing OK as they miss their dad and know that it is a hard day for me. Mostly I am so tired - need to sleep in my own bed tonight!
ReplyDeleteSandra--My heart goes out to yu--Yu have been a pillar of strength--Yers all the kids were in touch with their Dad--Son#1 had us over for dinnerHimself is better this evening--Praise the Lord--Thanks for your support-Lynda
DeleteIt's Kathy. If I told you how many times I've found well past it's due date veggies in my fridge - well, too many times. Yesterday I took the Romaine lettuce that had been in there for at least two weeks and threw it in the back for the hordes of baby rabbits that live in our yard now. I'm so sorry you have to live with this kind of instability and I'm also so sorry that himself isn't himself sometimes. I know he doesn't want to hurt you but I'm sure he's not happy feeling so trapped inside a world that he doesn't understand any more. Hang in there Lynda. You are a superstar!
ReplyDeleteOh Kathy-- There are times I feel like just getting so men--but--- I do not-- I never know what each day brings-- and little crazy things set him off--Lynda
DeleteI am so sorry Lynda, you are having to deal with this without support from any of the kids. Sad.
ReplyDeletebut--- i got thru it--- Lordy Be!--- That's the best part-Lynda
DeleteHugs and love to you both ❤️ ALICIA363
ReplyDeleteAlicia--- Thank yu for commenting--How yu be anyway?--Lynda
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