It has been quite a morning--There are times that I wonder just how long a person can put up with the Shenanigans another person who is going on 96 years, can be taken care of--by--ME---Of course I am talking about Himself--We have had quite a morning-- This man who is "older" than old--- and who has been very sane and sensible all his life, is absolutely terrified of leaving this world--so, ANYTHING OUT OF THE ORDINARY , upsets him--and he rants and raves , and calls everyone in creation, demanding he be looked at, this very minute--
There are times I believe I will tear my hair out--and it is Sunday and no-one is going to come out to our house to look at him---- and he doesn't move ----because he thinks he might fall--He NEVER WALKS---- OR EXERCISES--like EVER! -and, of course, I AM THE LAST PERSON HE WILL LISTEN TO----Lord love a Duck! I guess you can tell that I am fit to be tied---about to give up---but----- you all know that I won't ----( maybe I won't---)
So, I have moved the summer clothes upstairs here-- and the winter wear down--- (Watch it snow now eh?)----- And I have 2 piles of extra extra large clothing---to give away---I have lost over 50 pounds-not on purpose, but being the chief cook and bottle washer here in this house---the garbage taker-outer-- the cleaning Lady--the gardener--the shopper--AND the bank Lady--- well, actually I look better and feel better without that extra weight--but-----it isn't easy--- I do not mind doing all that, but the person I live with doesn't notice or appreciate anything--- I believe it goes with being older than old!---
and--I can see the inside of our garage now---- Little by little, I carried stuff out of it--donated a lot to the Lodge--- tidied a lot of "stuff" up--rearranged things--- and it is beginning to look better--- Now if there were 10 more of me, it would really look good!
and if I can just stay strong--- i think I can get thru this---You know, we women deserve a medal --- but--- Are there days in your life that you wish you were Cinderella?---that some Prince might move you to his castle--- but--then, he might get some sort of old age thing, and we'd be right back where we started---I might as well just take the power --and stay where I am--- you think?
It's tough isn't it--getting "older than old"---I am way too young to be this age for sure-----Good thing I have my piano--and my dog----and cat--- who simply adore the music--
----I guess they do keep me sane----sorta!
It is Sunday----- Grab the power if you can---Be thankful for small mercies---and a smile does go a long way--
Lynda you are such a strong woman. I don't know if I could manage even 1/2 of what you do. Thinking of you and Fred. Take care.
ReplyDeleteBless your heart for thinking of us--Maybe your kind thoughts kept me sane to-day--LOLOL-- and he is fine this evening--well--sorta fine--LOL LyndA
DeleteI am always so impressed by everything you accomplish, and although it is stressful and exhausting sometimes, I do think that all that physical activity keeps you moving and functioning much better than many people in their eighties. So give yourself a pat on the back and take a break and play the piano today!
ReplyDeleteI LOVE PLAYING THE PIANO--- and I'm not even very good at it--but Lopez thinks I am--LOL--- My poor husband eh?---Lynda
DeleteA smile like that last lady in the meme. Saved the 'they will wait for you' meme.
ReplyDeleteSounds like you are having an awful day. Some positive things here, though, like your awareness of you strength, the getting thins cleared out and organized, the acknowledgement of your music helping all of you relax. I am assuming it helps calm Himself, too.
You are definitely Wonder Woman with what you do. Sometimes a bit of help from a child, contractor or service person, but not a lot sometimes.
You are amazing and a mentor for the rest of us. If you can do what you do...and survive...surely we can handle our smaller loads of life.
Sis, do know you have lots of followers on your side, praying for you all and keeping you in their thoughts.
{{{HUGS}}} Love, Maggie.
Miss Maggie-- my amazing friend--Yes, all of you are truly amazing--There are such crazy things that these mixed up guys do, I guess to-day it just got go me--but-- I managed to get thru the day and this evening, he does seem relatively normal-- It does make one wonder what has happened to his brain--such an intelligent kind person and o many absolutely crazy things pass thru is head now--just not fair is it?--- Thank yu for being here Maggie--One day we will meet--lynda
DeleteIt's Kathy. Honestly I don't know how you do it all. I'm sorry himself is having a bad day. My husband is 26 years younger than himself but he doesn't ever get any exercise either. He wants to lose weight but he doesn't work at it! And yes, I am also the last person he will listen to! I have to believe that somewhere inside himself he knows all that you do for him, but you know how men are! They want to be the ones in charge! Take care of yourself today and keep on keeping on! We're all here for you!
ReplyDeleteHi Kathy--- himself is fine to-night--- but unimaginable things happen --every day--Yu know, I should write a book--LOL--Kathy I appreciate yu writing-Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda! Sorry to hear your Sunday has managed to be a bit stressful! Happy you got the clothes switched out. Sounds like you have got a lot done! Yes, I know Lopez and Sushi loves hearing the piano. It is so soothing. It is hot and 80 in Ohio today and quite warm this coming week. Sending you extra hugs today!
ReplyDeleteAllison, our daughter said it was 80 degrees in Medina--only 50 degrees here--and--Himself is still alive-- and that is a good thing--LOL--- Lynda
DeleteSomehow, you weather the storm time and time again…I applaud your strength and determination…you keep doing what must be done. Truly, it is up to you IF it is going to happen AND somehow you find a way to keep it all going. Sending Sunday hugs your way…❤️ Eissa7
ReplyDeleteOne day at a time---always things seem better the next day---and you all are a good bunch to vent to--- Thank yu-Lynda
DeleteOh Lynda, you are doing so much. And with a sense of humor. Its so difficult to be subjected to the ups and downs of a person with memory issues. my mom changed so much with hers and it's hard not to be hurt by it. Hugs, Betsy
ReplyDeleteHello Betsy---So nice to meet you--- I guess we must thank our lucky stars that we do not gt that way-- and patience is a great virtue isn't it?--a day at a time-- Good to hear from yu-Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda. Sorry to hear things aren't going so well. I GET IT.....any and everything that gets handled is mine to handle. My himself has Cognitive issues along with profound hearing and vision loss....ain't easy to deal with. YOU do it with a sense of humor. I'm not at your level.. you inspire me to be more patient. Hang in friend. This too shall pass.
ReplyDeletePlay piano for all the inhabitants over there.
50 lb loss is a lot. Good on you. And now you have a reason to buy something for yourself.
You've certainly made big strides on getting the garage in better shape. Yay you.
Hope things are better after naps over there.
Hang in...this too shall pass.
Hugs and blessings
Marge/St.Louis
Marge--Yes I finally kinda lost it to-day but--- all of this shall pass--I really do know that!-- All of you help me out a lot-- I appreciate you being here-- Lynda
DeleteWell said, as usual, Lynda... you are climbing the mountain that is yours, and I am climbing the one I've been given... one day at a time, one foot in front of another. It sounds as though you ARE making progress, even though some days it does not seem like it. Here's hoping for more "good" days for Himself than not.
ReplyDeleteHugs,
-Barb OKM
Barb--dear Barb!--- Thank yu from the bottom of my heart-- you and Ember help me a lot--Lynda
DeleteOh my goodness. You deserve all the gold medals on earth. You are doing a wonderful, wonderful job. I don't know if anyone could possibly do better.
ReplyDeleteI wish that your kids could help out more. **SIGH** You need a break. I am glad at least Himself will go to the Lodge. That is something.
HUGS and hang in there. You are doing the very most difficult job there is (besides raising kids) on this planet.
barb
1crazydog
Barb--Thank yu-- You are truly amazing--Yu lived thru it --and survived--my idol--Lynda
DeleteI am living with someone 20 years younger than yours and two years younger than me. Sometimes it scares how confused he can get and I worry what will happen in the future. I have another year before I reach 80.
ReplyDeleteI can’t imagine doing all you do and I would love to just lose 10 pounds much less 50!
Hugs to you and I love,love your posts. They give me courage.
OMG--YU have made my day--- I do never complain like I I did on this post--If it helps someone (like yourself)--I am glad I showed my true feelings---- I really kinda "lost it" today--I will not beat around the bush--looking after my husband at this stage of his aging is very difficult but I chose to do it-- so, I do--but--- there is not a lot of help--- that is helpful---- His Day Program is the best ---I cannot say enough good things about that and it is relatively inexpensive--Oh I wish you well and I hope that yu can continue to keep in touch--Let me know if I can be of any help--- One day I will feel it was worth it--- I Hope--Much love, Lynda
DeleteHi You are incredibly strong to be able to get so many things accomplished. Have your kids suggested bringing in some help as you continue to care for himself and the household? I tripped on a throw rug last December and needed a partial hip replacement. Donna_cps2
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