---A good thing however--we both get our booster vaccine in about 2 weeks--- good news--Lord love a Duck--We turn into the caregivers----Women really have to be strong!
Thursday, November 4, 2021
Roles sure change in life---
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Beautiful artwork....you are a woman of many talents....we need all the diversions in life to keep us healthy & sane...
ReplyDeleteI wish I had just a little of your artistic talent . . .I don't have an ounce. I do understand what you are talking about with dealing with himself . . .Al is 12 years older than I am and I worry about the future and how well I will be able to deal with all that life has in store for me. You are a strong and capable woman. . . we are here to listen to anything you need to say.
ReplyDeleteYour pictures are beautiful. Life does throw us many curves and we have to be strong in order to deal with them all. You are strong and you are handling everything very well. Have a great day!
ReplyDeleteI love your paintings..not even a shred of artistic talent in my old bones!🥴. I see signs of aging in myself as well as my husband....I imagine it will fall to me to be the caretaker.
ReplyDeleteOne day at a time, my friend! Hugs, Eissa7
I wish I had your talent for painting- your picture are wonderful. It is hard dealing with an ageing husband. Mine is only a year older but I think he is getting forgetful- but I guess I am too. We can get our boosters in mid December but a lot depends on when he has his surgery. Have a good day Lynda! 😄 👍
ReplyDeleteWOW WOW WOW you have an awesome talent. I am sorry you can't use it now a days but you do have your plate full to overflowing. I wish I had that talent. That is why I rely on rubber stamps to create my art projects.
ReplyDeleteI suppose there is a couple of reasons why woman keep silent. No one would believe us or wants to hear about it. Which is sad because we will all most likely (if you are lucky) have to face old age.
You are an amazing and strong woman. Which could be another problem everyone thinks you can do everything and don't think you need help. Which is really sad.
OH my my my. You have asked such a good question. Why do women hide their struggles? I really don't know. I guess in my head when I was carer for my parents (Mom had Alzheimer's and Dad had some age-related dementia), you don't want to feel like a complainer. Even though you have PLENTY of rights to vent! And sometimes when it comes to taking care of a spouse, and I'm doing that, too, but not a all to the extent that you are, I feel if I would complain someone would interpret it as I don't love him anymore. That's far from the truth! But I have in my head that is how others would interpret my complaints! So, I keep quiet. **SIGH**
ReplyDeleteBUT my dear, I am glad you wrote about this here. It is so important for us to have SOMEPLACE to vent! And be understood.
Your watercolors are absolutely beautiful!
Thanks for all you've shared.
barb
1crazydog
Beautiful pictures. You really are a talented lady. I think it would be an excellent idea to contact someone from the Alzheimer Society and learn what is available to help you face what is happening and how to cope with it. Hiding it or refusing to believe it is not the answer. Have you spoken to someone from Community Support Services or your Doctor?
ReplyDeleteLove the pictures - you are quite the artist! No, our children really have no idea what it's like as we age. They seem to remember us when we really were their mothers! Life can sure be challenging! Thinking of you.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful paintings. I am empathizing with you as my husband and I are both seniors and I find myself forgetting things sometimes. Mostly because I have to much going on in my head. Keep strong and congrats on the weight loss. Lopez and Himself are really keeping you on your toes!!
ReplyDeleteYour paintings are beautiful, too bad you did not decide to take up painting again, instead of adding to your daily list of “musts”. We women seem to not like to ask for help, but then hold resentments in, dare not speak of them. Maybe that is a symptom of dementia in us. May we all go gently into the night.
ReplyDeleteAs time changes our roles change, too. Guess I am lucky that I only need to care for myself and my kitty (he's called Lucky, too!).
ReplyDeleteYou do as well as you can in any moment. So does Himself. Focus on the love and all will be well. {{{HUGS}}}
Love your watercolor paintings!
ReplyDeleteAnd, looking closer at the newspaper photo of you in the pool facing the camera, I still maintain you strongly favor Cloris Leachman, an American actress and comedienne, 1926-2021. COVID-19 listed as a contributing factor to the stroke that claimed her. Like you she had one daughter and 4 sons.
We will be getting our boosters after November 23 as that's the date we get Test2 for an anti-body study we are participating in. It will be interesting to see the change from 3 months ago when we began the study.
(((hugs)))
So true about the caretaker roles! Glad to hear you're "in line" to get your boosters. Stay safe and love those paintings... they are part of your history!
ReplyDeleteOur oldest son likes to paint. It looks like a fun outlet.
ReplyDeleteYou have really led an active life. I'm glad you are still managing.
Beautiful pictures. You are certainly a woman of many talents. I can barely manage stick people.
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure why we women don't share our struggles with caretaking. The kids don't seem to notice and think of us as forever strong, capable and confident. We are...but sometimes its difficult and we need to share. Hang in my dear. Blessings in your day.
Your paintings are gorgeous. A great talent. You should contact The Alzheimers Society to get some information on the disease and it's possible progressions to give an idea of what you may have to deal with. Maybe there is a local office? Maybe painting a few pictures may give you a way to relax a bit - if you can find some time here and there! take care
ReplyDeleteYour paintings are beautiful. I used to do pencil drawings mostly of animals.
ReplyDeleteI, too, an caring for my husband. I had helped care for my, Step Dad, Mom and helped during the last few weeks of my sister's life. I also worked to help people older than myself to stay in their homes. Almost of them had some form of dementia. Yes, it is hard but it is also very rewarding. I finally retired shortly after my 71st Birthday to spend more time with and care for my husband. God gives us the strength to carry on but he also gave us family and friends to call on when we need help or even just a respite care. Caregiving sometimes seem like a thankless job, but be assured that the person you are caring for is very grateful. Even when they seem to lash out at you, it is more out of frustration for their situation, they are no longer able to do the things they used to do. Hang in there. ASK FOR HELP WHEN YOU NEED IT! This is for all of you, not just Lynda.
Take care of yourselves so you can better care for you loved one.
Beth Mosko
I think part of it is because children don't want to believe their parent is not doing as well as they think. Having them spend real time with their parent alone helps get the message across. I have both my mother and my hubby changing and it is hard so I really understand.
ReplyDeleteLynda We went through this with my mother-in-law and sister-in-law. It is very hard for the family to realize if they are not with that person all the time. SIL had sundowner syndrome.
ReplyDeleteWhat a gift you are to your family and now, to all who read your blogs. I am, I admit, both in awe of and a tiny weeny bit envious of your artistic and musical blessings,both of which I have always wished for in myself. Alas, I have neither. But you do and I appreciate your sharing with us. I feel uplifted by you. Marlene
ReplyDeleteYou do such beautiful work Lynda! Yes, women as we get older usually become the caregivers and it can be trying. Have a beautiful day!
ReplyDeleteDo you think it's possible you don't want to bring shame to Himself? Sometimes I think we won't say something about someone we care deeply for so others will not thnk poorly of him. Especially to family members. If you could get it on tape that would be proof. You don't want your children to know just how bad it is.
ReplyDeleteYour art is spectacular! I had an cousin whose wife back in the 40's and 50's took up plate painting with her mother. I was tasked to handle cleaning out their house when they passed. I decided my pay was one of her plates and a vase she decorated.(((HUGS)))
You are beautiful!
You are kind!
You are smart!
You are lovely!
You are gorgeous!
You are amazing!
You are phenomenal!
You are worth it!
You are perfect!
You are stronger than you think you are! Spark helped us become STRONG in mind and body!
Tell the children no matter how old that you love them to the moon and back!
Your Piano playing is divine!
You are the young lady that decided to buy a dock, the boys put it together!
Your boyfriend does have an AWESOME Girlfriend!!
Wear a mask wherever you go! Two is always better than one!
Always Remember the vacation "Porta Front Porcha" and smile!
Long noodle long life!
AND you are strong! That will never change! (((HUGS)))
Hang in there Lynda. Roles do get reversed as we age. My Mom did it with her Mom, and I did it with my Mom, and my son will probably do it with my hubby and I.
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