I never got back on here yesterday-- I am sorry--but--I did get to read your comments before bed time--Thank you--I always appreciate hearing from you--
Yesterday turned into one of those hectic crazy days---To-day is so much better--so far! And of course it is foggy--misty--kinda wet--with snow all around us--so far not here--yet!
So, Son #3, the Policeman, upset me yesterday--always something eh?--even swore----was upset as I asked him to return something that should be left in this house-He didn't feel it was necessary--so---something I had to deal with, and really, I preferred not to-- but--I did--- and the language flew --not good language--BUT, I DID NOT CRY___ but--I did inside-- It hurts a lot when one of your kids act like that--
So, still calling businesses-- telling them about our move--very time consuming--and now I am stuffing "stuff" into a few boxes--- wondering how to transport a cat and a dog together---and also thinking I am taking too much "stuff"--SO much to think about--SO much to do---
Anyway--here are the "Oldies" and "Goldies"--
Son#4 with his son who is now in high school--with Himself behind the chair --
Another picture of the top of TV hill, when they were constructing the highway to our house--note-all the rocks--
-and one of the beaches in town where all our children took swim lessons--
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So many things I'd like to say, but I'll keep it simple. I know your life will be so much brighter with less toxicity in it. Your kids in the area you live now, will miss having you near. You'll also miss them, but when y'all get together again it will be with much joy. I'm so excited for you because it really won't be long now. ❤️ Stay strong - and I will too!!
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness--SO SO so good to hear from yu! Yu must be OK ---or yu wouldn't be writing-- YU are one brave Lady--Yes a smaller spot--no stairs--no outside work--Only Son#2 close by--and I know he will help me with Fred, when he can--Tis difficult go get rid of stuff and we have parted with a lot-- So happy o hear from yu-- HUgs, Lynda
DeleteThings to think about when you are packing is if you have used it in the last year, are you likely to use it at the new place, does it bring you joy? If not purge it from the pack . . . we got rid of so much "stuff" when we moved and still there was stuff we shouldn't have brought. Remember you are down sizing . . .it's hard I know but you are doing great. I'm glad you are still finding a moment here and there to post. I wish I was there to help you with everything you need to do.
ReplyDeleteWe are finally getting some rain here in New Hampshire . . .we had the driest Fall on record and lots of brush fires recently.
Yes I hear that all the time--if yu haven't used it get rid of it--still hard tho--LOL--Lynda
DeleteAdult children can sure be a problem. I wonder if they understand how much it hurts us to the core when they scream at us?
ReplyDeleteYes --It was very hurtful--sad really-- They should feel so ashamed--Lynda
DeleteYikes, sounds like #3 has a temper; so sorry you had to deal with that, but glad you were able to accomplish what you knew to be right. I left certain things in my parents' house when I sold it ... extra parquet flooring squares, extra tiles from when the kitchen was redone, all instruction manuels, etc.
ReplyDeleteMaybe is there room in the back seat or far-back of your car for the dog-crate and cat-crate? That way they're contained and safe.
Even paring down ruthlessly, often we wind up with more than we need, especially when moving to a smaller space. Hopefully you get rid of just a bit more than you think you need to. Then, when you get there, you could always reassess and donate the things you realize you don't need as you settle into the smaller space.
I'm glad you're doing as well as you are ... this is a big undertaking. Hugs to you.
I just purchased a soft crate--just hope it comes now--Lynda
DeleteIt's Kathy. I'm sorry your son upset you. Yes, it's really hard when one of your children are disrespectful! Last Thanksgiving it was my oldest daughter who left here with me in near tears for the way she talked to me. So, no more holidays at my house - it's too hard to get the house and the food ready and then have to try and enjoy the company! It snowed here again last night - made the roads really slippery. Thank goodness my husband was home and was willing to drive me to my bible study. My appointment went well and I am now able to go back to the gym - and also get down on the floor to exercise! That made me really happy! And my husband took me out for lunch before we went home! Hope today is an easier day for you!
ReplyDeleteGreat results eh Kathy--but yu worked for that--=-Lynda
DeleteOH Lynda! I would be livid if one of my kids talked to me like that, too! That’s all I can say about that. HUGSHUGSHUGSHUGSHUGS Really NO excuse to talk to parents that way.
ReplyDeleteI HOPE today is calmer so you can get through what you have to do to get this move done. That is emotionally challenging enough!
Hugs, blessings, peace
Barb
1crazydog
Pretty bad eh Barb--kids!!!---- Lynda
DeleteSis, I don't know what the item you were arguing about is, but if you wanted it to stay, it should not have been moved by your son. That said, we have different perspectives. He must've been looking at the situation differently. It is very stressful...arguing with family. My mom always said that arguing isn't good cuz no one wins an argument. That's due to those different perspectives.
ReplyDeleteLove the photos...as always. I watch a tv show called 'Vacation House Rules' that takes place on Canada's lakes. The man helps people renovate their 'cabins (some more like mini mansions) so they can rent them out part of the year to make $ and keep them in the family. The lake photo you posted looks like the lakes in that tv show.
Re: the pets. Just try to keep their crates separated so that they don't add to each others stress. Make sure they are where they can hear your voice. If they can't, consider putting an item in their crates with them that carries your odor.
We got snow yesterday that ended up almost covering the ground. Less than an inch. It's mostly gone today. There's a mix of sun and clouds. It's just at the freezing temperature.
Out of curiosity, did Himself witness the argument and chime in with his thoughts?
Been shopping already in the cold. Got a 'lunch slice' of pizza for lunch .
Will check out now, dear. Hopefully your afternoon and evening will be productive and peaceful. Try to get some music/reading/nap in. {{{HUGS}}} Love, Maggie
These kids do not ask--- They should-! -I would never walk into their home---- and pick anything up and take it--It felt like there was no respect for us---Hey I watch that show also--the renovation of cabins--We are supposed to get snow to-morrow-Great ideas with the crate --Thanks Maggie--Lynda-
DeleteLynda, I am sure #3 either #1 hoped you would forget about said item, and/or #2. Hoped you would forget he had it, and lashed out with a guilty conscience....
ReplyDeleteWhile so far I have only had one dust up with the daughter, when she finished I said are you done???? If so, you listen to me now and we straightened out the issue.
I don't know what is wrong with children these days, it seems to me #2 is the only one who treats you and Himself with any degree of
love and respect. I am sure when you have moved away, and are not local so you come to holidays and so forth they will realize but too late. Kudos to #2 for being the kind of man he is.
I'm so sorry you had to listen to that kind of language...Hugs for you..
Darlene--sad sad sad---seems like there is no respect eh??--- Plus the swearing--We just do not talk like that--Lynda
DeleteI have been out of town on a trip with 50 other seniors for the last 4 days, so I am just getting caught up with reading your recent blogs....trip was great (Branson, MO) saw lots of good shows and ate way too much at some nice restaurants....and it is good to be back home!
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear that your son yelled and cussed! Makes me sad. Sounds like he thinks he is entitled to whatever it is that you wanted back!
But I am happy to hear that you are getting all that paperwork/bank transfer stuff done! You are smart to make sure it is done before you move! And it sounds like you are doing a great job of getting rid of things you won't need or have room for in your new home! I know you must be getting excited about the move as the time draws nearer! Just keep looking ahead at the "prize" (your smaller, more efficient, and new home!) and you will have your motivation to keep on going strong - because you are one strong woman who is doing an awesome job of taking care of everything and more! Hugs!
Sandra--Wht a great little break for you--nIce to get away eh??--so good!--Lynda
DeleteMoving is difficult enough without someone acting ugly and disrespectful!! Keep plugging away at the calling and box packing…you’ll get thru this! I will be so happy not to worry about you not shoveling snow this winter! ❤️ Eissa7 (Karen)
ReplyDeleteKaren ----- Me too--- My heart is happy also--- Nice to hear from yu--Lynda
DeleteSorry about sons behavior and language. Proud of YOU for not crying. My only child, son, has flared up at me many times. Neither of us feels good when it happens. Sorry Lynda...don't need that on top of everything else. This too shall pass.
ReplyDeleteREMEMBER YOU ARE DOWNSIZING, A LOT. You don't want or need many of the items in the big house. Think SMALL. Only take what you routinely use and really want. No need for 4 sets of dishes, 50 coffee mugs. 20 pots, pans, lids lol
It's hard but you'll be glad you did it. You are doing great. I so wish I could help you.
Dog and cat in separate crates as far from each other as possible or maybe you can hold Lopez or sit him near you. It will all be ok. Cats dont normally travrl well. Hope it goes ok. We are all supporting you and cheering you on.
Stay positive and strong. Keep your serenity.
No yard, leaves, weed whacking etc. My personal favorite is no snow blowing, shoveling for you. I hated how you had to do all that stuff yourself.
Pilot is kind, helpful and WILL help with whatever you need when he's in town. That sounds great to me.
Hugs dear friend. As you've posted...don't let the ass_____s get you down!!!
Hugs
Marge in cold, windy St.Louis
No---- hard tho not to feel sad that your own kids treat us so terrible---not all tho--- It will be a rest once we get unpacked--Lynda
DeleteIt's Marti. I've lost track, but you have just TWO weeks left there, and then you are moving on the 5th of December? My how time has flown. How are you going to get all that packing done in just two weeks? I am so excited to see all the new pictures of your new place, and your new adventures! :)
ReplyDeleteOh Marti the movers wil pack most up--I hope--then unpack it--Lynda
DeleteI sure hope so, Lynda. Would help you if I could! :) I just don't want you to be sitting there in the middle of the kitchen floor with nothing packed and the movers there, like a friend of mine once did, LOL. That particular friend wasn't mentally stable, had depression. I forget what happened, but there were the movers, and nothing was packed.
DeleteI am trying to pack as much asI can--also taking things to SADD_-Society for animals n Distress Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda! Snow in Ohio! Yikes! And snow where my nephew is so our visit will run a couple days later. Disappointed. So sorry about your son. My one and only hasn’t talked to me in five years over a very minor spat. Crazyiness. Better to take too much and then you can rid more things if need be. Hugs to you in all of this. You are so strong!
ReplyDeleteYour one and only acted like that also??--makes one feel terrible doesn't it?--Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda: Son #3 has a temper and an entitlement issue. Nobody should take anything out of someone else's house especially a parents! Maybe he's angry you're moving away. And he's the one that'll lose a dog sitter? Not for you to worry about - you have more important things to do and you're running out of time! Relax tonight. Hugs Brenda
ReplyDeleteYes Brenda--I am the dog sitter--LOLOL--that he doesn't respect--Lynda
DeleteHugs for the upset. Feelings run high when it's our kids! I was fortunate tonight to see my son being "dad" to his foster son. The little guy was worn out. I thought of you because we had our dinner at an Asian Buffet, and I thought of your son #1's restaurant. Food was good. Ate too much. The little guy wanted to go home, and crawled up in my son's lap. Son hugged and comforted the child, and excused himself to take kiddo home earlier than the rest of the party broke up. He later texted that the kiddo fell asleep on the way home and he had to carry him inside.
ReplyDeleteHere's hoping for the healing of those tender feelings!
Hard eh Barb-- one never knows how to act--what is the best--??--Lynda
Deletestand your ground the kids can not take things with out permission and it is your right and duty to take it back hugs Lynda you are in the right and doing the right thing
ReplyDeleteI need yu to keep telling me this--=LOL--Lynda
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