You see, people who are 96 yrs think they are "younger than Springtime"--and think because they are home here, that they are in charge of EVERYTHING, make crazy demands on their wife---like---- "What is that box?"--(It's a new soft sided cat carrier so I can keep the cat safely in the car when we are travelling to Lakefield)---well, "Why would you buy that now?"---and---"You spend to much money""--and it just goes on and on, ending with something like, "Only a stupid person would order that and why are you spending all my money"-----
I try to ignore it all, as we were late getting Him to the Day Program---as he was sitting watching TV as I made the bed, took out the garbage, walked Lopez, and changed our bed---I was up at 4-30am to get everything done--so----- I guess the best thing is to ignore the crap----from my Dear Husband -stop the crying-- because I know he doesn't mean what he says--and "CARRY ON"---
"Keep your chin up"-- Dad just yelled in my head--Good thing Dear old Dad is up there looking down at me--This day can only get better eh??
So---- there you go--Already I do feel better--I really needed to talk to you all--and maybe I did find that Rainbow connection today-------Well, ya never know eh?--
Lynda, you are so funny with that last meme! We sometimes think we are losing all our marbles. I think that comes with all our life experience and the demands on our time.
ReplyDeleteLove the photos...family memories are important. Especially, for you, because it helps you reconnect with the love of your life.
Hope being at his program will settle Himself down and he will forget the cat carrier. At least he will be tired afterwards and should give you some peace as he rests.
It's after 10 now and I haven't even eaten breakfast yet...and you were up at 4:30? Wow! When I was in basic training in the Army and scheduled for KP (Kitchen Patrol) I had to get up at 3:30. Swore I'd never do it again.
Saved 2 memes...the Rainbow Connection and that last one.
You sure find lots of good ones.
Still overcast here and a little colder. Not even up to freezing temps. We're supposed to get some sun this afternoon.
Outa here now, sis. I'm hungry. Will check back later. {{{HUGS}}} Love, Maggie
Yes Maggie I was afraid Sushi , out of fear , might escape from our car when we travel to Lakefield-- so I bought this carrier from Amazon--Hope it works--Actually the carrier will hold a tiny dog also, but that might freak Sushi out-- thought Id get the litter in there also-It snowed here all day--- Lynda
DeleteIt's Kathy. I'm so sorry himself hurts you like that, knowing that he doesn't understand what he is saying. I think all husbands can do that without thinking about how their words affect us. Mine did just last week. I want him to take Pilates with me now that I can get back to the gym. He snapped at me about not wanting to spend the money - after he just spend hundreds for art supplies! All for him. That night I couldn't sleep and found myself in the living room crying. I know he just doesn't value the same things as I do, but it kind of hurts anyway. So, too bad for him - I'm going to Pilates by myself because I love it! Today I went to physical therapy. I am getting stronger - not strong enough but she can see the progress. This week's exercise - getting down on the floor and up again, using each leg in front! And doing more step ups and downs! Gotta get the strength back in my legs! I hope your day improves! You are doing so much and deserve to be thanked!!!
ReplyDeleteGood for yu Kathy --Yes Go and do what pleases yu ---Yu only liv once-- Lynda
DeleteSending lots of hugs and rainbows to you from Ohio! So much on you right now and the extra is just too much. Chin up just like your dad is telling you. It will get better! All is fine here. My husband and nephew are out enjoying the day together. Hope your day gets better. Stay strong!
ReplyDeleteThe day did turn out--BUT----WE HAVE SNOW now--lynda
DeleteHi Lynda, as dad said chon up. Fred won't remember what he said....try doing the same thing lol.
ReplyDeleteIt will be OK.
IF you ever get committed, look me up as I'll already be there. Lol
Stressful time, lots to handle and lots to do. A marble might be loose but it's not lost 😁
Hang on, stay positive, loving and kind. It WILL be ok.
Hugs...love to you dear lady
Marge/St.Louis
oh marge-- There are good days and crazy days--LOL Lynda
DeleteOh Lynda, you earned a cry! It’s mentally healthy! So, do cry when you need to! ((HUGS))
ReplyDeleteLOVE the pictures of ‘way back when’ ,. , .. makes you smile, doesn’t it!
Hope your day gets better.
Hugs and blessings
Barb
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Pictures of "way back when"--=great expression Barb!--snowed here all day-Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda: Unfortunately you will just have to keep telling yourself to not say anything to himself. If It was me, I would had an extremely hard time putting up with it and not saying anything! So I give you credit for what you are going through and keeping quiet. Hang in there! Hugs Brenda
ReplyDeleteBrenda --I pretend I am deaf-- but--sometimes "biffing him one" might be easier--but--yu know, He used to be the kindest most gentle person in the whole world-- sad eh?----= Maybe its to much Jamaican food--LOL--Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda, so sorry to hear that Himself barked at you and made you cry. You know he probably doesn't remember any of it, but nevertheless, it still hurts to have someone yell at you. I was thinking that on the day of moving, Matt will be there with a car, and your daughter will be there with a car as well. Maybe talk to Matt that maybe Himself can ride with him or your daughter and you can follow in your car with Sushi and Lopez. That way Himself can't yell at you, and you can sing to the animals at you travel. That's just a suggestion. Hopefully the rest of your day was more peaceful. You are Wonder Woman. Thanks always for your blogs.
ReplyDeleteOHHhhh YU are so so good--Imagine!--Thanking "ME" for the blogs--but--yu know, yu all keep me relatively sane--LOL-- And-- picking Himself up after lunch, he never remembered being so cross--Getting older than old is tough you know! Lynda
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Marti here. Gosh, anybody would cry when someone is sitting there saying all kinds of mean things, even if they don't mean them. Try to pretend that, instead, he is saying "you are a wonderful woman, I appreciate you so much, you are doing such a good job at all this." Then laugh and smile at him. See what he does. Say, "thank you for those wonderful words." LOL LOL
ReplyDeleteI went to my job, and worked hard. It is raining here and dark. But not cold. About 55 degrees, but will get colder.
Great idea--I certainly will say ALL that--I like that--Thank yu--Lynda
DeleteCrying can actually be a good stress reliever. Much better than acting stoic and on the inside feeling pitiful. And there is a LOT of stress for you just now ... a life partner who needs care and is sometimes cruel and unreasonable due to the disease; seeing the love of your life deteriorating; doing everything alone that the TWO of you used to do together; arranging every little thing for an enormous move with not enough help. It's a lot of stress needing to be off-loaded to keep from wrecking your health.
DeleteThank goodness you are taking care of your health, walking each day with Lopez ... it helps with the stress.
When I went through cancer with my daughter I never cried in front of her; but I cried in the shower every single day; I cried in the car driving home from work. It was about the only way I could keep from falling apart.
So go ahead and cry a bit to release the stress, then on you go. Thank goodness you're getting the move sorted and after a bit of adjusting and finding help for your husband after the move ... stress still, but probably not as much.
Hugs to you.
Sorry you had a bad morning. Moving is so stressful, and being the caregiver for a grumpy 96 year old is another full-time stressful job. You really do handle it all well, I would be crying everyday. You’ll soon be moved and hopefully able to find some time to relax, although I think Himself (and you) may have to take a while to adjust to apartment living.
ReplyDeleteJust remember, you can do hard things, you have done them before, you can do them now.