I need to buy fresh bananas. To-day I will turn what I have into Banana Bread--- Hopefully tomorrow I can make it to the store. ------I was just outside raking those pine needles--They are all over the front and side lawn. The grass needs cutting--as it is over poor wee Lopez' head when he goes outside, Hopefully it will dry somewhat to-day as finally we don't have rain falling.
Yesterday Son #4 and son#3 were out here with their 2 dogs -- They EACH have 2 dogs--- so with Beau, and Lopez, there were 6 canines running here , there, and everywhere . Next time this happens, I must take a video of them all. Lopez was so happy to see them all!
This morning, the phone beeped, and it was a text from Lopez' other Mom, asking how he was doing. That's the Lady who raised him. I thought that was so nice of her to care enough to inquire about him. We texted back and forth--- She has no idea what kind of home he was going to--It must be hard to sell a wee puppy , not knowing who the buyers are.
And I am having difficulties with Himself--- Can yu tell?--I am talking about everything else but him. I must try to speak with his Doctor--The Hospital never did get back to me to tell me what was going on, when he went into Emerg---all of a sudden they said he was coming home--and everything was OK-- "Hunky Dory" as Dad used to say ----- himself will be 93 on the 25th--- and he never demonstrated anger before ---and he does now.----- if things aren't going his way, he gets very frustrated-- shouts at me--- it's pretty sad because he was never like this--
So, I'll get Lopez out --with Beau--It is sorta sunny--and only 3 C outside --- Lord love a Duck! I think winter is on the verge!
Since himself retired and the pandemic is here possibly being housebound is starting to get to him and he takes his frustration out on you. I think you should talk to his doctor and tell him how his personality is changing. It is nice to see the sunshine even if it is cold. Enjoy your day.
ReplyDeleteHope you enjoy your day today. It's hard when you see personality changes in your spouse. They don't seem to see the changes themselves but we sure do. Hope you get an answer to your questions.
ReplyDeleteHere in the US they won't tell you anything unless he gives hem permission to. I have it in Al's medical records that they can talk to me. I did it now while he is still able to make good decisions . . . he actually likes that they talk to me also because half the time he can't remember what they said. The rain cam and left here yesterday and overnight . . .the sun is out but it is noticeably cooler.
ReplyDeleteSome days are tough. He was a very busy doctor and now he is retired and not so much to do or think about it. It must be hard on him thus the anger. He must need a hobby. My husband took up garage sales and you certainly do not want that.
ReplyDeleteHugs, Lynda....You are so right, something is definitely going on with Fred and his change in behavior...hope that you can convince his Doc to work with you to address it. Eissa7
ReplyDeleteI just threw some dead bananas into the freezer, maybe I'll figure out what to do with them later.
ReplyDeleteHope Himself will get back to being himself again soon.
Best wishes!
Is he still in the hospital? I know how he feels. Had an emer overnight myself in August. He wants to come home.
ReplyDeleteSorry for what you’re going through with your husband.I think it’s common for older people to let out their frustrations with aging in anger. Unfortunately its the spouse or caretaker who takes the brunt of it. Be extra kind to yourself!
ReplyDeleteI can hear the worry in your words. It's kind of scary when husbands change so much overnight. I hope you get some answers. How fun for little Lopez to have so many friends to play with. It's funny what you said about your grass, ours also needs very much to be mowed. My kitty likes to go outside with Daisy and she is now nearly buried in grass also. My husband keeps saying he needs to get gas for the leaf blower so he can blow leaves before he mows. Seems like an easy fix, huh! Today he's taking care of the snowblower - what he typically does in May. He's so behind!
ReplyDeleteScary times when an ailment shows up with a personality change as a symptom! Could be so many things, and some of them are scary... could be meds mixed up, could be the frustration of diminishing health in general...
ReplyDeleteHang in there, gentle lady, and I hope you get some news from the doctor this week.
Meanwhile, little Lopez sounds like he's doing great!
prayers going your way for strength and patience.
ReplyDeleteLynda, sometimes people do an about face when they get really elderly and Fred is elderly. I think we start thinking that we don't have much time left on earth and we aren't ready to leave it yet. So we tend to be cranky. At least that's my take on it. But you really do need to check on his own doctor to find the reason for such a drastic change in him.
ReplyDeleteOh, do get photos of Lopez and your son's dogs romping & playing together. This is really good for Lopez and a good breeder always checks on the pups she has sold, as yours did. I'm so happy to see that your love of dogs has taken hold in your sons too.
Take care Lynda, you're a good woman and I'm happy to call you "friend!" Hugs to all of you!
❤️hugs❤️
ReplyDeleteLynda, I'm sorry to hear about the changes in Fred. Thats tough on you. I do hope you get some answers from his doctors.
ReplyDeleteI'm envisioning 6 dogs running around. Lopez and Beau had fun with their company.
Glad the breeder is checking on Lopez. Breeder has an obligation to make sure puppies have loving homes. Lopez sure does.
Hang in Lynda. Prayers for you and Fred.
I couldnt post comments yesterday....hope it works today. Im.so happy to read your daily posts again.
Hugs dear Lynda.
MANY hugs. I think all the possibilities about what could be going on w/Fred have been suggested. I do hope you can talk w/his Dr. THAT will be of the most help. And prayers. It's hard to put up with.
ReplyDeleteAwww, that's sweet that little Lopez's other Mom called to check on him.
Rest assured, I hope she realizes that Little Lopez couldn't have a better home.
HUGS HUGS HUGS. Hang in there.
(((Hugs)))
ReplyDeleteI would definitely find out what is causing your husband to become so angry when it is not normal for him. I'm sure you are aware of what that could indicate. Definitely something you need to talk to a doctor about. If not his doctor then talk to yours about it.
ReplyDeleteThings may not get better with himself. You'll have to watch and try to get hum out more. That may help. Must have been good for the dogs. Next time get pictures. The ones of Lopez are so cute. Nice of breeder to call. Maybe ask her about the poop issues. Try to keep smilin!🥰
ReplyDeleteI can relate to a grumpy spouse. I have also seen it happen to friends when their husbands health started to decline. I have discovered that they lash out when they feel like they can't do anything and they see their wives having to do it all. They feel worthless and feel helpless to be able to do anything about it. One friend's husband had become wheel chair bound, this was very difficult as he built homes, barns etc. for a living. He started trying to control everything his wife needed to do down to how much time it should take. I explained to her he is loosing control of his own life and is trying to take control of what he has left and that happens to be you. She no longer gets frustrated with him. About talking to his doctors, I don't know what you have in place in Canada, but here in the states we must sign a permission to release information to anyone, even family. I pray that the cause becomes clear to you soon. I know how not knowing what is going on is frustrating.
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ReplyDeleteBeth Mosko knows what she is talking about! (((HUGS)))
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