This momentous decision came to me, after having a bad day with Himself---- No matter what I did, he became angry--- In fact he was angry all day--- Crazy little things seem to upset him--like--I could not connect a hose outside--- then I could not get the weed whacker going-- and of course he had to do it, which made him "madder than mad"---then when the weed whacker finally did start, I tripped and fell down the hill ---- It was a day that one does not want to think about ever again!-----
It FINALLY hit me that I am not able to carry on in this house ----(It took a long time eh?)--- We will be here till next Spring, then hopefully , move to a one story house with a basement, in town-- houses are at a premium now here, so that is why we will have to wait it out until one comes on the market--
After my very bad, awful, terrible day, yesterday, I was hobbling along with Lopez on the back road, and there was son #1---- I told him about the terrible, awful crazy day I had had, as I was crying, and low and behold, he appeared , at our door, after dinner and fixed 3 of my weed whackers--So, there really is a God in Heaven--- I thought he was a "Saint".
Lord love a Duck---take care of yer parents-- They won't be around forever!-- So, I have so much more to tell yu all, but--to-morrow is another day-- What on earth would I ever do without y'all to chat with every day?
Hope you enjoy your hair day!
ReplyDeleteOh my! Well, hard as it is to downsize, you’re obviously ready since you’ve made the decision. Good luck w/the real estate agent!
OH NO on tripping and falling down the hill. I HOPE you are all right! So sorry that Himself was in a mood yesterday. BUT that does make it hard to keep up w/what needs doing in a large house.
Awwww, glad son #1 was able to get the weed whacker going!
HUGS and love and peace, Lynda. . . you deserve all that!
Barb
1crazydog
Sounds like a good decision, Lynda. Very grateful for son #1. As we age, we need to make adjustments to make our lives simpler and easier. HUGS
ReplyDeleteYou are an amazing, wonderful woman. I am always so impressed with whatever life throws you, you find a way to stand up and carry on. You are an inspiration to me.
ReplyDeleteDownsizing sounds like a practical decision. As we get older, we simply can’t do what we used to do. It will definitely be difficult, but if anyone can do it, you can!
Wishing you a better day than yesterday. You are loved.
Jacquie (Jacqpra)
I think you have made the right decision to downsize. It will be hard deciding what to get rid of but you will feel so good once you have completed it. You have enough just looking after the two of you and your pets let alone the large house and property. I hope you relax and enjoy your hair day. HUGS
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear you fell. Hope you are OK this morning and not hurting too much. I agree with your decision to downsize. At this time in your life you should have less to deal with but your life just seems to keep adding more and more on to you Will one of your sons be able to buy your place? Be strong. The changes will be hard for you but better in the long run.
ReplyDeleteIt's good to have decisions MADE, y'know. I'm glad you have come to peace with this one, even if you do feel like crying. It will be hard, for sure, but we're all heading down that road, aren't we? I watched the Queen on the balcony with her family for the flyover... it was stirring. When I think she was married five years before I was born, and ascended the throne in my birth year. So strong, the Queen.
ReplyDeleteHope things get brighter, day by day... and enjoy that hair day... that's some small personal luxury, and we all should have one, that never goes away, no matter what!
Hope you're ok after your fall. I try to be so careful because as we age, it's so much easier to break things. Glad you made the decision to sell the house. It is a real hard thing to do especially when you really seem to love it there. It will be tough but you can't do it all yourself. Too bad your sons don't help more. At least one did yesterday. Enjoy your hair day and try to relax.
ReplyDeleteSorry you had such a difficult. Wishing for a better today!!
ReplyDeleteGlad you are ok after your fall and have made a decision about "downsizing" Let me tell you from experience when we downsized to move to NH from VT. . . we moved out of a huge old farmhouse to a one story ranch with a basement and it was a crazy ordeal. Stat sorting through things now and start getting rid of stuff you aren't taking . . . it will be so much easier later. You will be surprised at all the stuff you have that you don't need or want anymore. Have fun at the Hairdressers . . . I am going tomorrow for my Summer do.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry about your terrible, horrible, really bad day! You shouldn't be the one doing the weed wacking. Your children need to come and help! I told my husband yesterday that if something happened and he couldn't do the lawn work anymore I would have to leave. As it is, he sure doesn't do it the way I'd like it done but I have learned to live with it! I think you've made the right decision about moving. I wish you well! And I really hope today is a better day.
ReplyDeleteI hope since you would be downsizing, that you will make enough profit that you can bank some money to pay someone to do your yardwork. No reason y'all should have to be doing that yourself! Hope you're not too sore from the fall today. I fell 3-4 weeks ago in the house, and I was achy for two weeks!
ReplyDeleteHappy you finally made that decision, Lordy Lordy. Folks our age seem to wait too long, because it’s hard to let go. But caring for that gigantic house and land simply wastes too much of your time, when you should be just living and doing personal and normal things. We are all walking down the other side of that mountain now, May as well enjoy more of it. Take care. Ethel Merz
ReplyDeleteYour blog here is kinda like journaling, I believe. A way to release your frustrations and distress and celebrate the little (and bigger) thing...like your son and the weed wackers.
ReplyDeleteIt is probably a good idea for you to move. If there are townhouses or condos available, you wouldn't even have to do outside maintenance. You might miss that though...having a garden.
Have you spoken with Himself's doctor lately regarding something (medication or natural supplement) that could calm his bad moods a bit? Did he ever get the CT scan?
So much to think about, but trust your intuition (gut). It WILL all work out in the end. (that big butt?;-) {{{HUGS}}}
Hi You are making the right decision. I left my 39 years in one house in Homewood, IL and bought a condo. Best of luck to you. I wanted to sign in with Google, but it only permitted Anonymous, But my name is Donna from Spark People. Happy Celebration of the Queen's reign!!
ReplyDeleteDonna when you are going to make a comment and you see where it says anonymous and then it as a down arrow beside the word click on the down arrow then it lists Google, anonymous, and the last one is name/URL. Click that fill in your name ignore the URL and then click on continue. I hope that makes sense. It is a pain it was nice when it kept our names not sure what changed.
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DeleteLynda, I am so sorry you had such a horrible day yesterday. Hope today is a lot better.
ReplyDeleteI hope you did not hurt yourself yesterday and that you are doing okay today.
Glad you were able to get to the hairdressers yesterday that must have made you feel better.
Congratulations on deciding to sell the house. Sorry it took falling for you to realize it was too much for you to do.
How interesting you saw Son #1 and proud of you for telling him what is really going on in your life. I know we hate to bother our children but if we don't tell them we can't do this anymore they just think we are doing great. I know it won't be easy but you need to tell them that you need help you can't do it all by yourself any more. You should have grandchildren that are old enough to help.
Praying that the perfect house comes on the market soon and everyone pitches in and helps.
Take care of yourself.
Oh Lynda, that was a terrible day and you have earned the right to cry and cry….so glad the weed wackers got fixed…and that you are beginning the preliminaries to make the necessary move to a smaller house/yard. That is tough, for sure! None of us want to leave our home because of age-related physical limitations but, sometimes, the hard decision must be made-it truly will simplify your life!! Stay brave and strong … your Spark friends love you! ❤️ Eissa7
ReplyDeleteHugs, hugs and more hugs.
ReplyDeleteHappy hair day
ReplyDeleteSome time for yourself not working on a project in your yard.
That big house requires so much of your time, energy and money
Happy to hear you are finally ready for a smaller house and yard. Yes. home prices are crazy...same here...but your big house is also worth more too. I seem to remember one of your boys wanted your house. We downsized several years ago. I DO NOT miss the stuff I got rid of. In fact, we may be going to a still smaller condo or villa.
Anothet winter in the big house sounds hard but you know what's best for you and Fred.
Happy to hear you didnt get hurt from your fall. My husband fell down our hill a few years ago and broke his arm.
Take care and HAPPY PURGING.
Oh Lynda, I'm so sorry that you had a rough day. I'm glad to hear your okay after your fall. Downsizing is a good idea to help you out. (((BIG HUGS)))
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry you are having so much to deal with, but at least you are looking for ways to improve the situation. Have you told the boys your plans to move asap? Hugs and prayers....hope tomorrow is peaceful for you.
ReplyDeleteYou have made a very good decision. You have a lot on your plate and with that big house and yard you have to make it a little easier on yourself and even himself. Things will probably get a little tougher with himself in the future and downsizing to a one level house will give you more time to cope with him.
ReplyDeleteOh Lynda, I wish I had read this one before I read today's blog, Fridays.
ReplyDeleteI'm so darn sorry you had that bad fall but glad nothing broke. Take care, girl.
I'm ecstatic that you decided to downsize by Spring, please keep that attitude and do it. Houses cost a mint these days but you & Fred are at the point when he can't do things and you're working constantly to try to keep everything up. That saying 'a woman's work is never done' is so true and you have more than your share to contend with.
You'd be so much happier in a smaller home.
God bless your son for showing up just at the right moment!!!
My love goes out to you, Fred and your fur babies. xoxo
I am so glad you are okay after your fall! I'm sorry things have been so difficult lately. Maybe you can line up someone to take over your yard work, that would be a big help.
ReplyDeleteOh Lynda! I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time. I'm so glad you didn't break anything when you fell. I doubt Himself could be of much help taking care of you. You just have TOO much to do. If you could hire someone for the heavy yard maintenance, that would help you so much. We've had to do that lately. Keeping you and Himself in my prayers . Hugs!
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