Well, that was not a wise decision on my part-- Before long, Himself was shouting that he was on the phone with Son#4 and Son #4 was upset--"Why was "I" cutting the grass when grandson was going to come out--Lordy Be! --- I told Himself , it was only because the grass was so wet--AND--I continued cutting-- Soon---- I was told " in no uncertain terms" that Grandson was ready to come out here from town , but now he would not come--In fact, he may never come again! ---- I asked if he could cut the Lake side which was dry---
"NO"--- an emphatic "NO"--I was told--so, I continued on and did the lake side too--then crawled inside tired, and sad--- I hate all the stuff that happens -- Why can't grown ups spend some time with older people --- Grandmothers don't ever mean to upset their kids--They just want peace-- short grass---and if they end up cutting their own grass, it's for a reason-- They don't like to hear the mower labouring --- They certainly don't mean to upset anyone-- 'specially the Grandson-- I thought , when it is raining, it is hard for anyone to cut the grass--even me--
---so, to-day is a new day--The Computer guy will be here to install a brand new Modem--Hopefully then the phones will not go offline --AND--the outside cameras will work once again--
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Oh Lynda! So sorry to hear that you had such a bad day yesterday! I hope that today is better for you! You can make amends with your grandson - explaining to him why you needed to cut the wet lawn. I am guessing that Himself called son#4 to tell him you were cutting grass? Wonder why? Oh well, today is a new day - don't dwell on the past. Play some piano and relax or read a good book. You deserve a rest day after all that mowing!
ReplyDeleteLynda, So sorry others got their feathers ruffled. Perhaps suggesting that son/grandson call before they plan to come out or a day in advance would fix the situation. Gosh darn.
ReplyDeleteDoubt you need grandma lessons as you've been a great mom. Talk to son/grandson and tell them you need better communication from THEM. Sorry
It will be ok.
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Well--You are right--I did just that-talked to son#4 this evening-- Yu know, its so hard trying to figure out all these times to do stuff--then it rains-- or Himself goes into a crazy tizzy-- does not support me--- riles up the grown kids-- and puts all the blame on me-- life is very hard some days-Lynda
DeleteI hope today is better! ❤️ Be careful Lynda, you could slip in the wet grass and ??? …. Hopefully, Son #4 and grandson will reconsider their words and show a bit of kindness to a woman who is simply trying to keep everything done ALONE!! Help would be so nice! Eissa7
ReplyDeleteSorry the family issues come up... and all we want, as old-er folk, is a peaceful life, right? Hope things are better today, and I also hope your son and grandson take a step back and come to understand things in a balanced way.
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Oh boy. It is strange to me how sometimes people seek out drama. Seems like maybe Himself was doing that a little bit? Ah well hope things can get patched up. Yes, for sure, as we get older, it is less appealing for the young ones to come visit. Their time in life will come and they'll regret it. But til then, hang tough. You did what was the best for you in that moment.
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Hate to be ornery, but maybe you should have let the grass dry and let the grandson cut it. And himself was probably calling them because no one thinks you should be out cutting grass after your fall. It tends to make people upset when they think they have arranged to help you, and then you choose to do it yourself. SO, love you Lynda, but maybe you owe someone a big apology.
ReplyDeleteI agree with what this person wrote. I know it is hard when you have always done things but it is time to let others help you. I would suggest you apologize and explain why you did it and hope that will calm everyone down. The other thing are you sure himself called and not your son to tell you what time they were coming? I also love you Lynda but this time you might have to apologize and then think are you willing to give over these chores to others totally meaning it has to be on their schedule not yours. I know it is so hard but you are lucky you did not get hurt with everything being so wet. I know if I was wanting to help someone and they did that to me without explaining it to me before they did it I would not be a happy camper and I am sure that is how your son and grandson are feeling. Here they thought they were going to help you and you did this even though you had good intentions.
DeleteGood luck hope everything fixed soon for you.
Yes, I agree with everyone. If the grandson is to cut it, let him cut it. He was probably counting on the money.
DeleteSo sorry to hear that you have more drama in your life. Maybe try calling grandson yourself and explain why you did what you did and apologize for not calling to check and see if he was coming out first. Mothers always have to be the ones to smooth things out . . .don't we.
ReplyDeleteWe have a battery lawn mower which does not do well in deep wet grass-- I empty it a lot so it keeps going but the poor Grandson ------ I tried to explain to him that on wet days its better if we change the dates-- He was OK with it--- not his Dad--- so sorry about it all-Lynda
DeleteI have to agree that you should have waited for your grandson. Maybe call and let them know your reasoning. Hopefully things can be patched up and he will come back next time. And if he was expecting money yesterday perhaps give him some anyway.
ReplyDeleteI went ahead and cut the grass because of little Lopez wading thru it to do his business-- plus--- it's so hard for a young kid to cut it when it was so wet---for better or for worse eh-I got it done-- Lynda
DeleteYour grandson needs to read this blog!!!
ReplyDeleteI hope it's better for you tomorrow. remember to think good and happy thoughts when you first wake up. {{{HUGS}}}
He does doesn't he? =--Thank yu for writing
DeletePoor Lynda, damned if you do, damned if you don’t. It makes you anxious to not have the grass cut, so you may not think it through, but the anger is a bit much from your son, too. Also, it’s not good to cut wet grass, our yard folks do not cut when the lawn is wet. They come another day. So good you did not slip on that stuff, I slipped on wet grass out fun, and hurt my knee and hip. Darn it all, See if a realtor can be looking for a different place for you. You are a hearty gal for grabbing the bull by the horns for sure. Take care.
ReplyDeleteOne thing I have learned through caring for Mom and them caring for my grandparents is that you honestly have to let go and trust them to know how to do the grass, or shoveling or whatever chore it is. They look at it as a way of caring for you and please don't take that away from them. Let go, so what if it isn't done when you think it should be, let it go. You really have enough to do and you have done enough for all.
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ReplyDeleteI haven't seen a blog today, (Tues) I hope you are doing ok and everything is well with Himself. Thinking of you. Hugs!
ReplyDeleteHope all is ok since there is no blog today. Don't be down because of yesterday. Things happen and other things are more important like Lopez being able to get out for pee! You are strong - keep smiling.
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