The sad part of all this, is that I am beginning to find that the children--grown children--do not believe that their Dad is having any problem--He is almost 94 ----knows everything--and VERY difficult for me to deal with--MOST days--not every day--maybe if these grown adult kids spent more time with him--they would see what my life is like here--EVERY DAY--well, almost everyday--
Did I tell you that a stray little dog was at our gate ?- I walked down our road and found where it lived--Apparently it's owner had hoofed it to the highway, and this wee pooch was on her way to find her--The owner said this little dog was 18 yrs old----poor pooch!---
Did I tell you that our Hummingbirds have flown away--?--Thank goodness! --And have I told you that every night when Beau and Lopez go out to do their business before bed, the front lawn is covered with toads?-- Lotza toads! --And they are gone in the morning--I have to be careful where I walk-- When they jump they scare me!---and this summer we have had so many baby snakes slithering across in front of me--
That is all for to-day-- Queen Elizabeth, the cardboard life-size copy of her, is still standing, so I guess my tape is working---It is a new day--much cooler-- The 2 men will be here soon to climb up on the steel roof and repair the nails, to stop the leak-It has been planned and cancelled many times.
It's a new day and we are a part of it-- Be Strong----Easy to say--Hard to do sometimes!
ReplyDeleteOH my gosh, Lynda! So sorry all that happened with Himself’s ears. Glad you took him to the Hearing Clinic. Yup . . . I would be like you . . . not in line to touch his ears again!
What can I say. Really, I think, unless your kids stay w/Himself 24/7 for a period of time, they are going to be in denial. Of course, that will never happen. Difficult situation for you. I remember caring for both my parents here @ home and my brother just brushed everything off. HE WASN’T HERE day in and day out. But . . . the good news is . . . I survived.
Oh my goodness! Glad that the owner was reunited w/her 18 yr. old fur baby!
Huh! Wonder why all the toads on your front lawn? And then gone in the morning?? Yikes!
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barb
Yes I remember you dealing with it all-- and YES, yu survived-- Lynda
DeleteSending love and hugs as you continue to juggle all the necessary homefront issues. Could it perhaps be that since you are with Himself 24/7 you are forced to deal with the reality of the situation; whereas, the kids spend brief periods and may not notice OR want to notice.
ReplyDeleteEwww…toads and snakes….I much prefer animals with fur!!! ❤️ Eissa7
YU hit the nail on the head-- The kids are only here briefly-- Lynda
DeleteI am so sorry about the kids, but having gone through my own Dad's decline 23 years ago (about this time of year, too), I do "get" the denial part. Nobody wants to believe their parents are in decline... but eventually we could not deny it... and we were right in the same town. He'd be FINE for hours, but then later in the day... not so much (sunsetting). I hope your kids catch on and support you.❤🧡
ReplyDelete-exactly as it happened here--dunno why Himself declines as the day goes on- I did not realize they felt all was going well-- Thanks for writing Barb=-Lynda
DeleteYou really do have a lot on your plate and it’s too bad the grown kids are in such denial. I can see it and I’m not even there. Ahh, glad you found the dog owner. Eighteen years old, bless it’s heart. Ohh my! I do not like frogs/toads, all the same to me. They are my irrational fear! Lol Hope your roof gets fixed. I am doing siding and stone and between rain and his other stuff it seems slow going. Hang in there, dear Lynda!:)
ReplyDeleteSo so good of yu to write and let me know that you understand the crazy situation here at home-- Hugs--Lynda
DeleteI assumed that you had been using your cell camera to videotape sometimes when Himself is acting up! So they can see it, especially your daughter. Please do that! They need to see for themselves, and hear for him selves! Next time food is dropped, have at least one come to help clean up. Quit hiding this stuff. They need to know, it is important for Your safety!
ReplyDeleteYou are so right-- Thank yu-Lynda
DeleteWell, you know you are Wonder Woman when your children don't believe anything is happening with their 94 year old Dad!!! Having lots of toads it's a good sign that the environment where you live is safe of toxic materials. Have a beautiful day.
ReplyDeletePatricia -- I am the Mom--I must remember that and speak up got these grown kids-- Tough tho--Its not what I ever do--Lynda
DeleteGlad ear situation has a good ending. Dont blame yourself....you tried to help Fred.
ReplyDeleteAs far as the kids in denial, I'm truly sorry. Its TOUGH for you...I get it and I believe you. What to Do? Not sure. Kids don't spend enough time around him to obsetve...I might think about recording the bad stuff for medical help to see...I don't know.
Weird stuff with the toads. I could tolerate toads much better than snakes.
Always something to fix, repair, replace around there. Hang in.
Glad QE survived...a bit worse for the experience but you still have her.
Since your daughter came for a visit did she finally see what you were telling her about Dad? Oh well
Carry on. Stay strong
Hugs dear Lynda
Yes, Daughter accepts that her Dad has regressed a lot--but keeps sending medcial stuff--so much--that I could open a store--and we don't use most of it--Her heart is in the right place--but------ nice to read yer comments-Lynda
DeleteI agree with you. Your children should be staying with himself every now and then - when YOU are not home. I'm sure they just don't want to think about their dear father changing so much but they also need to be more supportive of you. Stay strong!
ReplyDeleteYes yu re so right-- Lynda
DeleteMost women are awesome because we have to be---There are so many toads-big tiny--medium size--some jump way--others just sit there and make me scream when I am about to step on them00just wondered why they come out at night --Lynda
ReplyDeleteGuess you'll just have to accept that they just don't get it. Even if they DID get it, probably nothing much would change, would it? I'm sorry that that's the case. Push comes to shove, you'd have to just put him in skilled care.
ReplyDeleteI ADORE toads. I hadn't seen any all summer, and suddenly I've seen TWO, both little babies, or maybe it was the same one. Always around 8:30 or 9 at night, when I walk Jake for his last potty. I have a tradition each year that when I see one, I pick it up, bring it in, sit down with it on a towel in my lap, and enjoy it for about 5-10 minutes, and then take him (it's usually a her) back outside. The first one I ever observed here lived under the front patio cement. So I bought a little toad house, but not one of them has used it, as far as I know. This little one I saw about a week ago, I took her back outside and put her under the toad house. They're so cute, they remind me of Kermit the Frog! :)
Glad I went back to check for replies...I didn't comment yesterday! Shame, shame.
ReplyDeleteToads...haven't seen any around here. We have a gully, though, which when filled with rain, makes a small river (our bldg is called "Riverside"). Maybe if I climbed down the steep hill, I'd see them. I'd probably fall, though. Toads probably fine more food for themselves at night. Deer do that around here. They come into people's yards. We have one man who daily gives the feral cats food....we all need to exist together on this Earth...and help each other out. {{{HUGS}}}
It's tough being a caregiver! Sundowners' syndrome is hard to deal with especially for one going it alone. We will keep you in our prayers Lynda.
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