I have Son#2 the Air Canada Pilot here--
It is SO SO different having someone here to help me--- Everything seems easier--no stress !--- And this afternoon, when Himself has to go to the clinic to have the sutures removed from his head, Son #2 will come with me-- WITH A WHEEL CHAIR_
Last night also, at supper time, in came Son#1, the restaurant son, with DIM SUM from Toronto-Unbelievable! ---Something that is a luxury here in the North--
Son#2 , the Air Canada Pilot, gave me a lesson on "How to use the EGO battery snowblower"-- Whatta easy machine to use compared to what we used to use! -- I shall try to use it a few more times while he is here, so I feel comfortable with it.
When a partner is experiencing difficulties, there should always be help- for the caregiver!--- I have been told there is help, but---I believe there are so many families needing this, that it really isn't available for everyone--or, it is sent to people who are bedridden and more needy-- my kids keep telling me that I must call the Alzheimers society, but even that is difficult as himself says, "Well if someone came out here to sit with me, what would I talk to her about"-----"and I don't want anyone bathing me"---
- Son#2 can help him to get from the car, onto the wheel chair while I park the car at the clinic---- (Last time, in the snow, I parked the car after dropping Himself at the door , and when I hurried to get back to Himself, who was supposed to be at the door,--but-- he was gone--(Some nice Lady saw him and helped him inside out of the weather)-
Anyway, life is "going on" but-- It sure "goes on" better with a helper!
OH Lynda, so glad that son #2 is there and will go w/you to the clinic for Himsel’s suture removal. Does Himself show his ‘colors’ when DS is there? I hope so, so that maybe the other kids will BELIEVE what’s going on.
ReplyDeleteGlad that Son #1 came w/DimSum! Sweet.
My stars . . . DO call the Alzheimer’s Society. Pick and choose the help that will work for you. As far as bathing, my Mom went through a LONGLONG stretch where she would not wash up nor let anyone help her. So, you have to pick and choose your battles. As far as Himself asking
“Well if someone came out here to sit w/me, what would I talk to her about?” Answer: you don’t have to talk @ all. Mom had stretches where she wouln’t talk to the caregiver when they were here. It’s OK. They know how to handle that.
Oh lord, and if you had that experience of Himself wantering off when you went w/him to the clinic, that is a sure sign, you need someone with him.
OK, trying not to preach. Just speaking from experience.
Lynda, SO GLAD YOU HAVE A HELPER. I know he can't stay but maybe you can find someone while pilot is there. Imnso happy you are getting a breather.
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Make that phone call, Lynda, you need help all or most of the time! I have refused all help - my mind is fine, my body isn't - but my children insist and I know I need it so we're seeing about it in January. I don't want it, no one ever does, but when it becomes necessary, someone needs to step in on our behalf! I know it will take a worry off my kids by me accepting help so I'm doing it.
ReplyDeleteI'm so happy you have your son there today, it does make a huge difference. Take care, Lynda.
Love & hugs to you, Fred, your family & your fur babies xoxo
So happy your sons helped you!!! Such a huge difference to have them there. You should get someone to help you out, just saying. Have a good day. ((hugs))
ReplyDeleteYou never know what help is available to you until you call and ask. Assuming there are needier people out there doesn't answer the question as to whether there are services you could make use of. Really . . . be logical about this . . . call. Glad the pilot son came for a visit. Have a nice time with him.
ReplyDeleteSo happy you have help! See? At least one of your kids knows what you go through...maybe 2 with the restaurant son, and is willing to help!
ReplyDeletePets are fine, I trust.
I am going on an outing to Good Will with the friend who made the salmon loaf. I will get the recipe from her.
Happy, happy! {{{HUGS}}}
Make that call and gather information, then put on your thinking cap and have a meeting with receptive family members. Not fun for anyone but very necessary for the benefit of all included, especially the caregiver.
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I very much like hearing that your sons are starting to understand that you can't take care of everything, including himself, all by yourself. And I just wonder if someone comes from the Alzheimer Society maybe himself will actually enjoy a change of pace - someone new to talk with. Or just another presence to be in the house. I agree with some of the comments above - at least you should make the call and find out what is available to you. Have a great day!
ReplyDeleteOh, this is Paceka1 - guess I forgot to log in!!!
DeletePlease call the Alzheimer’s group! That’s what all the donations help pay for! Perhaps not wanting to call for help makes you think it will get cured or something, inside. But caregivers need their strength to get by every day. Please call.
ReplyDeleteSalmon Loaf recipe: contents of 1 can pink salmon, 1 egg, salt and pepper to taste, half a can of carrots (chop them up) half a row of saltine crackers...crumbled. Mix all ingredients well, spray a loaf pan with Pam, or grease it lightly, put all in the pan and pat out to fit it. Bake at 375 degrees for 40-45 minutes. Personally, I would add some chopped onion, too.
ReplyDeleteThis seems a recipe you could adapt to your tastes...garlic? More veggies? Hmm...
I do hope you follow through and call those Alzheimer's people... you need the respite, and part of that respite is knowing Himself has someone with him! So glad you had help today!
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad Son #2 is there, and I hope he is able to see Himself's decline. In fact, maybe put him to work while he's there and see if he's willing to make some of those overwhelming phone calls for you. It's a start! Just having someone there when you're away from the house will ease your own stress level, as you won't be worrying about Himself wandering outside or the stove being left on.
ReplyDeleteAnd yum to dim sum -- we have it about once a month, one of our favorite Asian meals. So good!
Thankful that two of your sons have stepped up to provide you a bit of much needed support and relief!! Call the Alzheimer’s people…you need support from them! ❤️ Eissa7
ReplyDeletePlease make that call. It's necessary. If you can't do it, have Mr. Pilot do it for you.
ReplyDeleteI'm really glad the pilot came out. At least someone seems to understand what's going on. Please call the Alzeimers society or have him call. You need help and don't think everyone else is more important. When someone comes to sit with him, they know how to handle the situations and whether to talk or not. And they would never bathe someone unless they were supposed to do that. They do this with lots of people. And please, don't think this makes you look incompetent or "passing the buck". It's what you need to do to survive and hopefully all the kids understand. You will destroy your life if you don't get help. Please call this week or get the pilot to call while he is there.
ReplyDeleteOh Lynda! I am so glad to hear the sons #1 and #2 came to help out. I've been sending prayers and good thoughts your way - wish there were more I could do. Sending some hugs your way! kimberley (rasocks)
ReplyDeleteA Care Coordinator that is sent by your doctor will come and assess and be able to make suggestions for help for you and for himself. They also can help more as time goes on. You really need to get on that call list.
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