Yesterday was difficult-- but-- you all are my "rock"--Thank you for being here-I kinda "caved in"--I should know better--because there is always a "to-morrow"--I read and reread all your comments before I went to bed--and I appreciate so very much, that you cared enough to lift my spirits----
And you know something?-Himself does not even remember this morning, how he acted--or what he said, or what went on---So, why do I get so upset?-- I must just let all that happens, which can be upsetting to me, just roll off my shoulders---I got back up ----Praise the good Lord!
This morning, at 8am, I had our vehicle into the dealers , for an oil change----I was the 1st person there, so it went pretty quick! Then I came back home and took little Lopez out with big Beau and they both did their business --on a frigid cold day. Bless little Lopez's heart eh? In spite of all the work this wee Chihuahua is, he is a smart little guy-and in spite of how difficult he was in his first year of life, he has come a long way and is calmer and becoming easier to care for-- but---- Would I ever get another Chihuahua?--- "NO""----- ( At least, I don't think so!)
I heard on CBC radio this AM, how Canadians are finding the cost of living beyond their means, and are resorting to credit cards more and more. --I felt a tad better that the high prices are not just worrying me, but I guess we are all in the same boat--fighting inflation as best we can!
This little old guy isn't helping the situation either-- with all his "gifting" etc and this season of Christmas coming--- You know, he starts his trip, here in the North Pole --- I might even see him when I'm out with the dogs-- Want me to tell him that we all want money?--- and lots of it--???---I shall see what I can do.
I put the above on here, to remind myself , that there is always "to-morrow"----that when life brings "Stuff" into yer life that almost blow yu over, I MUST close my eyes, Hold on tight, AND BELIEVE---- We all must!
Lynda, I suppose the best thing for you to do with Fred is to go along each day with whatever mood he's in and try not to let it get you down. He really can't help it but I do with you and your sons would get some help for him.
ReplyDeleteI'd get a Chihuahua in a heartbeat, lol. Some can be difficult to train but with firmness and showing him who's the boss, they come around okay, as you're finding with Lopez. I find that each Chi has it's definite, own personality, and when you buy a Chi pup, you just don't know what it will be. But they are so loveable and loyal, I cherish the wee things. Yes, they are very intelligent too!
Enjoy today Lynda, you've had a good start to your Tuesday!
Hugs & love coming to you, Fred and your fur babies xoxo
Gloria-Bless yer heart-Thank you-Lynda
DeleteYes, we are here for you Lynda. The challenge of dealing with Himself must be overwhelming. Hope you are able to 'ignore' his downturns - as He is not really Himself. Now I'd have a talk with your kids, tell them you need their support.
ReplyDeleteDeb-- It is SO good to hear from yu! How could I ever carry on without all of yu--Thank yu-Lynda
DeleteIt's always so good to see you buoyed up and bouncing back, Lynda. I still hope that more help comes forth for the situation with Fred, so you don't get overwhelmed. Bless little Lopez' heart, I think he's won you over! You are a tender-hearted soul, and of course the ups and downs are upsetting to you. You have this huge community of folks out here in the tech universe who love you and wish you well. But you need some help close at hand in your own locale, too. And that's what my prayers for you include!
ReplyDeleteOh Lynda… I did not log in yesterday. I am so very sorry about Fred. It has to be so tough. We are all here for you and hopefully your family will also see as time goes on. It’s so hard for children to see their parents age. We have to remember the struggles that we watched with our own parents.
DeleteSo thankful for your pups. Funny how our fur babies are so important to our sanity! And, of course, you have us.
I’m sending you a big virtual hug and prayers.
Jacquie
Funny that yu say that-- because I think I would go right off the deep end , if it weren't for my dogs--LOL-- Lynda
DeleteMy Mom never could get over the compulsion to correct, remind, explain to Dad his behaviors from bad days. This agitated him and depressed her. He started picking up OCD behaviors when these confrontations would occur, i.e., going through the house setting and resetting all the clocks for hours on end, each with a different time. He would tell me and neighbors that she was trying to make him feel crazy by making up stories about him. Her wishing and praying were not going to 'fix' him. When he had bad days it was like living in an alternative reality for each of them and it was, from their individual views of their situation. This was their new, constantly worsening reality and it was gut-wrenching trying to help them through this. It is the spouse without dementia that emotionally suffers the most. It's H-E-double hockey sticks to watch a loved one slip away inch by inch with moments of clarity and lucidity that pop up ever so often.
ReplyDeleteOne distraction that worked almost every time to calm him was to ask Dad to show me his yard which was full of beautiful plants. He would explain to me in detail where each plant came from and when with the same details each time. We would sit in the swing after the yard tour, sometimes talking and sometimes not.
A book that helped me reframe what was going on was "The 36-Hour Day: A Family Guide to Caring for People Who Have Alzheimer Disease, Related Dementias, and Memory Loss Mass". Check it out on Amazon.
(((Hugs)))
I just wrote that title down of the book yu recommended--I shall look for it on Amazon-Thank yu-- Interesting how my kids come in and don't like to see me arguing with Himself- --It sounds like your family were the same with your parents-- Lynda
DeleteGlad the oil change went smooth and quick and the doggies were well behaved. ((hugs))
ReplyDeletePatricia--- We have hardly any snow --so I can't send yu any-- yet--but--I probably can later -- How many tons do yu want?--LOL-Lynda
DeleteIt seems like you have to 'grin & bear it". Keep smiling around Fred and don't take to heart what he says as you know he doesn't mean it. You need someone local to talk to about this so you can get some help. Also talk to your kids to see how they can help. Good thing you are so strong!
ReplyDeleteWell Brenda--Yesterday, I "caved in"-- took everything he said to heart-- better to-day--me---- plus I got out too which helps-Lynda
DeleteI understand , when yu say, yu sometimes need to "rob Peter o pay Paul"--I think we are all going thru that-Lynda
ReplyDeleteWishing you a good nights sleep! All of you.
ReplyDeleteMy heavens, Lynda, it is HARD to unhear and unsee what you’ve heard and seen, so . . . don’t beat yourself up over that.
ReplyDeleteYes, even here for sure we’re fighting the affects of inflation. Hard not to worry, but the best course is to budget and prioritize. Not easy.
This year it is small gift cards and home made cookies. That will be appreciated.
DEFINITELY have to have that hard talk w/the kids and let them know you need support, and what they can do to help you!
HUGS
barb
1crazydog
I believe you are doing the very best you can, and of course it is hurtful when someone who was never like this turns in to someone else. I am
ReplyDeleteso sorry .... I would either go upstairs or maybe sit down and drown out his fussing and maybe go play the PIANO. That way you can focus on something else besides the words.