To-day is a new day-- and------I made it thru yesterday ---with a lot of help from my friends-- "YOU"---My grown kids were out here also--even my daughter seems to be understanding to-day-- So.....what now?-The biggest problem is, accepting that this is happening--for us all--and now I have to figure out where to go to help Himself--He seems to be "in the land of the living"--more like his old self--- this morning, which is wonderful-
It is extremely cold --sunny--clear blue sky--but--frigid! Little Lopez could hardly do his business, because his wee little feet were freezing--He kept holding them up--
I wish I could speak with the Queen, who is going thru her own turmoil --- It must be difficult for her, but, she removed her son that was causing it , from public events, and all of it must"ve broken her heart. Too bad there isn't a place for Moms to go to chat away about their difficulties--and in that place, everything would be made right ----- Lord love a Duck!--We Moms have to just figure out "Stuff" and hope for the best, don't we?
Yes, we moms do have to figure out stuff. Glad you got away for hair appt and glad daughter is starting to get it. I'm happy your kids rallied round....a blessing.
ReplyDeleteNo easy answers. Take it a day at a time. Glad to hear Fred is better today.
You are not alone. Take it a day at a time. Sometimes an hour at a time.
Be warm and safe. Take good care of YOU.
Today is a new day. Don't even think about yesterday. What are your plans for today. Life is now a day by day journey for you. What IS today may not STILL BE tomorrow. These episodes will continue to occur so perhaps it is time to seriously think about what you are going to do to take some of the pressure off yourself.
ReplyDeleteGlad your children are there for you. Very happy you got your hair done! Yay! Have a pleasant Friday.
ReplyDeleteYes, life seems to keep on tossing those curve balls. Glad Himself is having a better time of it today. These things (getting old-er) do tend to have their ups and downs. Hope the kids continue to be there to support the two of you as "next steps" become clearer.
ReplyDeleteHugs, from afar!
I'm so glad you took time for your hair appointment (some "Me Time"), as self-care and some time to yourself is so important. It is REALLY encouraging that your children -- especially your daughter -- are coming to understand that things have changed and that their father is dealing with a different reality now.
ReplyDeleteI know your area is pretty remote, but do you have access to a gerontologist? I found one for my parents and he really helped me through the Alzheimer’s and dementia issues. Otherwise, I suspect the place to start is his GP. And YES . . . sometimes even removing ourselves from the situation for a few moments helps. SOOOoo glad to hear that your sons were there. That helps. And I’m sure hearing what THEY had to say helped your DD realize you are speaking truth about what’s going on! It's hard to accept that Himself's realities are changing. **SIGH**
ReplyDeleteThere is absolutely NOTHING easy about ‘mom’ing’, even for the Queen! I am proud of her for doing the right things, though. Can’t imagine how hard.
And above all, glad to hear Himself is more like himself.
MANY hugs
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As you said today is a new day and things are better than they have been. I am glad that you had some Me time yesterday and had your hair done. My thoughts are with you. Take care and have a good day.
ReplyDeleteHope you have a good weekend. Has the doctor said to come in with Himself, or just ignore it all fir now? Hate these kinds of decisions to make. Glad you had time for the hair to get done,
ReplyDeleteThinking of you and sending love and hugs....so glad to hear that the Sons are rallying around....one day at a time, that is all any of us can live. ❤️ Eissa7
ReplyDeleteOh dear. I am so sorry. I am on vacation and just had to read your blogs. Heartbroken for you. Sounds like sundowners or maybe little strokes? Hopefully the doctor can figure it out. Your daughter was that way because of a wee bit guilt not being there. That’s normal for her and you! Has to be difficult for her as well being so far away.
ReplyDeleteGlad that you could leave for a bit. Prayers and hugs going your way….
https://www.alz.org/about
ReplyDeleteThis (above) is an organization which helped us quite a bit in educating ourselves so we could make the best decisions. (You don't have to donate to get help. Like any non-profit they always gladly ask for and accept donations.) I haven't looked at their site since my mom passed in 2018, but they did have some very informative articles and videos. Those helped us get started, and the local memory care facility had regular seminars that we attended whiched helped us deal emotionally with what was going on.
Alzheimer's Disease International
alzint.org
I also saw this (above) and they may be able to direct you to an organization in your area which can help you get information and figure out what steps to take.
Alzheimer's Disease International was founded in 1984 to help to fight Alzheimer's disease, which was first diagnosed in 1906. ADI is the umbrella organisation of more than 100 Alzheimer's associations around the world. Each member supports people with dementia and their families in their country.
I'm so glad you got out and got your hair done yesterday, Lynda. Taking good care of yourself is vital, especially now.
I'm glad your kids are rallying around and beginning to understand. Hopefully they will work with you and for you through this. Always remember, as his wife you have final say on decisions. (Sometimes under this kind of stress families can disagree about best next steps; hopefully you all can work well together as a team.)
Hugs to you!!! And continued prayers. I was so glad to see your post.
PS The medical doctors were able to help with the physical stuff, but were loathe to do anything which would put them at risk of liability, so having the input from other families in similar situations was very enlightening and helped A LOT with navigating Mom's care. (Hopefully your healthcare system has a better set-up to help the families.)
ReplyDeleteOne day/hour/minute at a time depending on what the situation calls for. My 3 sisters and I attended an all day workshop with a variety of seminars related to issues that arise along with the Alzheimers and other forms of dementia -- medical, legal, emotional impact, lifestyle changes and adaptations. We split up to make sure at least 2 of us attended each seminar. We met the next day to compare notes, our thoughts, and to make a plan with multiple options. Our brother was living away and, as it commonly happens, thought we were exaggerating what was happening.
ReplyDeleteHugs from Central Texas!
glad to hear that the kids are finally getting what is going on. Glad to hear Himself is doing better today. Keeping you in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteWe do need a 'time out' now and then...just like when we were little kids acting out.
ReplyDeleteHave you tried the vaseline on the puppies' paws?
My daughter is on a mom's FB group. Don't believe it's for moms that have kids our kids' ages, though.
You, Himself, our kids, the Queen...we will all sort it out...if (as your sign says) we think of the good things! {{{HUGS}}}
I'm so glad to read Himself is feeling better! It's really hard to see ones we love begin to decline. So hard to accept😪 And you are correct in thinking it's good to take a beak because it is. Remember to take care of yourself or you won't be able to do what needs to be done for him. Sending big hugs and prayers ❤️
ReplyDeleteGlad things are better today. This seems to have been Fred's longest time so far. Hope it doesn't get worse. Looks like the kids are starting to understand the depth of the problem - which is good and maybe you'll get more help from them. Glad you got out for some "me time" and got your hair done. Poor Lopez - it is so cold today. Some others have suggested resources for you to look at - sounds like some good stuff. Look after yourself and stay well.
ReplyDeleteMy mom is still in her own home and refuses to have anyone stay there but we visit often. She has bad days and those I make sure everything is good where she is, calendars up to date and TV is on her favourite channel and then I leave her be. Usually the next day she is fine once more. She is super good at taking care of her daily routine but changes throw her off so I try to keep them at a minimum and we take things one day at a time.
ReplyDeleteSending hugs. . . I had to read the last couple of days to catch up I have been off line with my knee surgery. So sorry to hear all that is going on for you right now. Hope it is just an imbalance of something that the doctor can figure out. wishing you better days ahead.
ReplyDeleteLynda, when he is in these spells, I would try to get one of the boys or someone he knows to come keep an eye on him when you have to leave...
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Sending love n prayers....
Sounds good.
Delete❤️❤️❤️ Thinking of you and hoping you made it through today. Lots of hugs and 🙏🙏🙏
ReplyDeleteHope everything's okay. No blog today.
ReplyDeleteHoping all is ok today as you didnt post.
ReplyDeleteGlad you had a good day and hope it continues for you. I do think someone having memory issues feels the stress of others. Getting your hair done is such a relaxing thing to do.
ReplyDeleteLynda, hope all is well as can be under the circumstances. You've been on my mind and in my prayers today.
ReplyDeleteHope for the best..That's good advice!
ReplyDeleteStopping by to say hi and that you and your family continue in my thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteThinking of you!
ReplyDeleteHoping all will be ok, and that you have help there! Take care.
ReplyDeleteLynda, checking on you. Hope you and Himself are well. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers 🤗
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