This is April 20---the anniversary of Apollo 16, landing on the moon--Remember that?----It is also when Danica Patrick became the first Woman to win an Indy Car Race.---- Adolf Hitler, was born on April 20th, 1889, in Austria. He and his wife had 3 children, who all died in infancy-
My brother called last evening, several times--( the brother who is in the Long Term Care facility ).It is quite a distance from here. He was begging me to go and get him--which is not possible-- I did speak to his one son who sent his brother over to talk to him and they have convinced him to give this care facility a couple of weeks trial--and, my brother has decided to do this--(for now)----The nurse on the phone was very pleasant-- I believe it is a good place for him-- large-- very clean from what I can see, and he has a private room--They have his meds all figured out and that is a huge plus for him, as he had been taking all the meds for the week at once--He was so confused!
The whole thing is hard to watch, for me, from a distance-- I just know that I cannot take care of him-- Old age is tough sometimes--
AND---- This is HAIR DAY--my favourite day---maybe get out some of those summer clothes---
--laugh a lot---Life should not always be so serious---Lighten up---Look at the good side of living--
It's Kathy. I'm proud of you for knowing your limits. You already have yourself and himself to take care of, that is a handful. After my father passed away we wanted my mom to live in a senior facility. She didn't need care but I worried about her being in her home all alone. She didn't carry around her cell phone like I asked. We were all set to move her in and she refused! I understand but I think I would want to be somewhere where I could have other people around. We went shopping in the rain today - not fun!
ReplyDeleteHi Kathy-- It seems my brother is happier now--I think them giving the meds to him has helped him. He called to-night and said he liked it in there--went to a movie--and he said a school band came in at noon and played for them-He said that yes, he will stay-- There isa god in Heaven-Lynda
DeleteMy older sister who was divorced moved in to take care of my Mom in her last couple of years . . . it took the pressure off the rest of us girls. We took turns going there and giving my sister a break for a week or so. I have 2 sisters . . . my brother thought it was girls work to take care of Mom. Our weather was great last week but this week is colder and rain off and on.
ReplyDeleteIt sounds that you all helped take care of yer Mom--It is hard--kinda lonely too as yu never really have an interesting conversation with the Dementia person-sad !--We had rain all day-- with clouds----Not a nice day--Lynda
DeleteI am also glad that you’ve made up your mind to not look after your brother. Don’t let him wear you down with all the phone calls. You have enough to look after with himself & the fur babies. And remember you ate moving. He will settle in & it would help if his sons were around more! Have a good day getting you hair done. Then relax. Brenda
ReplyDeleteHi Brenda--- YU know what?--The brother called to-nite and says he likes it there in the home'---Amazing!--I think they have his meds sorted out now. He sounds more normal-- Lynda--
DeleteI hope you have a great day and enjoyed getting your hair done. Take care.
ReplyDeleteYes, it felt good to get a new Hair do--Lynda
DeleteLots going on in history on this date!
ReplyDeleteGlad that your one nephew was able to talk to your brother and convince him to give the care home a try. Fingers crossed. (((HUGS))) and definitely, be gentle with yourself, because you have enough on your plate right now. **SIGH**
Hope that your hair day is recharging for you. You deserve to be pampered.
HUGS
Barb
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Well Barb--- THe Brother has decided that the place he is in, is not so bad-- Can yu believe that?-Lynda
DeletePlease remember that these older relatives are not at full capacity to make decisions of where to live, regardless of what they say. You do not have to pick up the phone everytime they call, some places do not let them call for the first few weeks, so they can get used to their new existence. My mother was so happy at her assisted living, things to do, people to talk with, etc. She was there about 5 years, passed away at 102, was treated very well.
ReplyDeleteYu are so right-- To-night he told me that he thinks he will stay in the care place--that it wasn't too bad a place--He said he saw a movie-- and he likes some of the other residents-- Amazing--I guess it takes time-Lynda
DeleteLynda, that 'fat' lady in crops with spike heels and her midriff showing is HILARIOUS! Ya know, she probably thinks she looks great, and that's as it should be.
ReplyDeleteWe are 40'sF cloudy and rainy. We need that moisture, though, now that all our snow has melted.
Glad you'll get out of the house today. What a relief!
Friday the doc told me I should be wearing compression socks. I got out some I had for my flight last year. What a difference. They feel great! I am just thinking how hot they'll feel when the thermometer is in the 90s...and now I can't wear sandals. Don't need to paint my toe nails now!
My friend downstairs gave me a large bowl of homemade beef stew. That's what I'll have for supper. She just has carrots, potatoes and onions. I will add peas and corn.
Thanks for all the info on today's date. You must do lots of research before you blog.
I am happy it seems your brother is giving his facility a chance. He has to take his meds properly. Maybe that will even help with his confusion.
When I got my lab results, my A1C is almost where it shouldn't be and my glucose is up. Except for an occasional restaurant meal or gift like my friend just gave me...I am going to go back to the plant based (vegan) diet my doctor son recommends. And if you want to know where my protein will come from...it's from the same sources the animals use!
{{{HUGS}}}
Those stockings sound helpful-- Good for you!---And what a good friend to give you a meal--=AND---GOOD NEWS--My brother is settling in and even liking the new home!--Amazing!
DeleteWe have had rain all day-- It is melting all that snow which is a good thing-Lynda
Lots happened in history on this date. Interesting.
ReplyDeleteGoodness Lynda. Your brother is calling a lot. You might have to set your own boundaries if the frequent calling and begging you to take care of him continues. I do hope he settles down. You can't help him so I hope he gets acclimated and gives this place a chance.
Enjoy hair day.
Hugs
Margene-It seems things are turning around for him---==- He called this evening and he even sounded more normal-perhaps having them give him his meds has helped too-Lynda
DeleteHope it was a good "hair day". I feel for you, being far from your brother and unable to take him on (you have your hands full already! Sending good vibes your way. When we get "old-er" sometimes it seems like history gangs up on us, landing many events on the same "date" across the years.
ReplyDeleteWell, Barb--Maybe because his meds are now sorted out, but this evening , my brother called , and it seems he likes it-He went to movie there last night--- and yesterday at noon, an orchestra came in and played music-- and he said the food weas gopod--He sounded more normal too--Lynda
DeleteMarti here. This afternoon I've spent trying to better learn how Medicare works. I FINALLY got my Medicare card in the mail, and have an appt with a benefits manager next week to help me pick a Part B and decide between regular Medicare and Medicare Advantage, I think that's what you call it. I have a LOT of meds I take, and that must be covered.
ReplyDeleteIt's been a lovely day here, 82 degrees, and brilliant sunshine! Tomorrow it all goes south, though. It will rain in the afternoon and only be in the low 50's or 40's by the weekend. Boo!
Hope you had a good hair day!
Marti I don't even know what Medicare is-- It must be some kind of payment for medicine Is it?--We have had a very cold morning and rain all afternoon--=crazy weather-Lynda
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