Now isn't the above just the truth? Anybody can start today and make a new ending--Lordy Be!---It's what we do now--to-day---- to make a new ending, that counts---Deep thought there!
We still have the piles of snow , here , there, and everywhere ---- but, I see more earth--grass peeking thru, than snow now, so-that is a good thing---a reminder that Spring is around here somewhere---And we have birds--- no hummingbirds yet, but I think they are probably heading north , or on route--- If you see them in your area, please tell them that I have brand new feeders---
We stayed home --ALLLLL--LLLL day yesterday--- By about 3pm I was thinking that a trip to town might break up the monotony---but---- we stayed home! Himself wants to visit the Dollar store this morning-- so, we will get out of here eventually to-day.
I did get ahold of my oldest brother yesterday evening, and I felt sad after. He was begging me to go and get him.---Of course that is not going to happen. He was angry and wants to return to his house, which is not a good idea as he cannot drive--cannot pay bills-- cannot get food--cannot organize his meds -- It is sad!-
-It makes one realize that we don't think too much about our VERY OLD YEARS--- what will happen to each one of us, if we become like that?---We do not want to admit that it may happen to all of us.
My Dad went into a home, after my Mom passed, but, he accepted that it had to be that way, and he lived close to Himself and I, so we could bring him out here weekends. I spent a great deal of time shopping for him, keeping his clothes in order, and setting up his room so his TV worked---My other brother paid his bills--
Dad met a very nice friend in the home and the 2 of them would be sitting outside on a bench, when I drove up-- Also the Grandchildren visited Dad -- A funny story--Dad loved McDonald's Fries--He would call Son#4 and say, "Bring me some chips"--so , Son #4 would buy him the fries and meet Dad by his room door and hand over the fries--
Maybe it's a daughter thing eh?--- Daughters do take care of their Father-- My oldest brother has no daughter--
In any event, life does go on--and on doesn't it?--- We all will have to accept that we , one day, might be "in the same boat"--as Dad used to say-----take care of yer loved ones --They truly deserve it!
I have no idea how I got onto all of this--Anyway, to-day is a new day--new things happening-- and we ARE a part of it all--
I have been away for a week in the states visiting my sister that I hadn't seen in four years due to covid. What a wonderful time we had. She is nine years older and has a lot of health issues and cannot get around without her wheelchair. It was hard seeing how she had failed since I last saw her but we got out and did things that she couldn't have done on her own. It is hard when family members are not close enough to see and help out often. Enjoy your day.
ReplyDeleteOh Madeline -- That was so nice of you to take your sister out-It must've meant so much to her-I truly wish I lived closer to my brother-- hugs to yu-- Lynda
DeleteIt's Kathy. I'm so sorry for your brother. It must be so difficult to still think like a young person but not be able to do, or remember, all the things that need to be done each day. I would be lost without my "list" telling me what to do each day. I hope I can continue to remember what to put on it as I age. We have lost all our snow but now it's raining and the wind is blowing something fierce. My lilac bushes were nearly doubled in half a few minutes ago. Have a good day. I hope the trip to the dollar store is successful!
ReplyDeleteYou know Kathy, I never go to town without my list--"Where to go"----"What to buy"----we have lost 60% of our snow-- (Well, we got more yesterday--sob sob--)---=And yes, my poor brother-- I had at least 3 calls to-day begging me to come and get him---- That trip to the Dollar tore made Himself so happy--spent $150 on 2 very large bags of "STUFF"----Cold today-- Hugs, Lynda
DeleteI have to agree 100% that it seems to be the daughters that take care of parents. Not saying good or bad . . . just seems to be the way it is. That’s too sad that your brothers doesn’t have someone to take care of him. But YOU are off the books on that one, for sure. You have your hands full w/Himself!
ReplyDeleteI am glad that you are seeing some signs of Spring. Long overdo, isn't it!
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He called here several times, asking if I would come and get him--so sad--If he lived closer, I really mightve-- Good thing he lives far away eh?He has no daughter--and his wonderful wife passed on a couple years ago---It is truly sad!--Lynda
DeleteYes, its the daughter 99% of the time that cares for parents. My mom was my blessing and I cherished being able to take care of her in my home. I have no one so I'm choosing not to think about those possibilities today.
ReplyDeleteI feel so sad for your brother. I truly hope he settles down and into a routine. I like the story of your dad wanting fries and your son brought them to him. You have good kids.
What in the world does himself want from Dollar Store? Remember to check that he's wearing socks.
Great inserts today.
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My brother has no daughter-- and he had a wonderful wife who has passed on now- And Himself bought $150 worth of "stuff" at the dollar store--hose ends----screw drivers --oh there were 2 very heavy bags that I had to carry out-- --AND_-YES _-HE WORE SOCKS_-LOL--Lynda
DeleteHello, Marti here. Well, when I am "older than old," all my relatives will be gone. I have one cousin left now, she'll be 79 this coming Saturday. I have no children. I have a boyfriend I've dated 6 yrs now, but I don't know how that will turn out. He can barely run his own life. Anyway, I just dropped by to say that I look forward to a nice assisted living place, as long as I can afford it. Good food that is cooked FOR me, things to do, people to see, bus trips, etc. BUT no old age home where they stick you in a wheelchair in the hallway and you aren't even aware of it. If it comes to that, I want to go to wherever it is that's legal to have someone put you out of your misery. Animals get to go that way, and so should people! :)
ReplyDeleteDear Marti-- a nice assisted living place sounds like Heaven to me--Can I join yu?--when we are "older than old" of course-We could get to travel a wee bit-- have meals cooked for us--- Sounds wonderful!-- Lynda
DeleteWe are rays of sunshine? Honey, so are you...that's why our comments are here on your blog!
ReplyDeleteI plan to have independent living my whole life, thank you very much (must think positively, huh?) It is sad about your brother.
Something terrible with my dear grandma...she had to be in a nursing home cuz I was away in the Army and mom was always working. The home she was in had levels: level 1 people could feed themselves, level 2 they needed a bit of help, level 3 a great amount.
of help. Mom would visit her several times a week and bring her her favorite Hershey bars and bananas. They could come in for Grandma's meal tray. It would be untouched. They just figured she wasn't hungry. Grandma died of malnutrition. The official cause, of course, didn't say that. But it is what I believe. She starved.
Awful memory there. Glad I told you so. Make sure your dear brother is eating or fed if needed.
Mostly cloudy today. We got a bit of rain overnight, but not enough.
There's no snow in the forecast for us, though.
It is good to have a day at home, but it can be boring for some people. Rarely for me. I must say, though, that with my electronics, kitty, friends, chores, books...I sometimes just can't settle on what to do...that's when I 'escape'
Dollar stores are fun, aren't they? We have a 'Dollar Tree' here that has had to raise their prices to $1.25. Can't really blame the companies that raise prices. They have bills and suppliers to pay, payroll to meet and their families to care for. Sure wish it was different, though.
All for today. Time for my daily meditation. {{{HUGS}}}
OH my---- I never thought of him not eating---- scary--- It is so sad when he calls me begging to come here --- It makes me feel terrible! ---Yes, we ARE rays of sunshine--- Love your titude-- Lynda
DeleteI'll be 88 this summer, Lynda, so I'm in almost the same situation that your brother was in his own home. But, my son & his wife help me a lot plus my niece takes me out every two weeks for the day. I can not drive and I'm now unable to go out of my apartment building on my own, I can barely walk. I also have a cleaning lady comes in; meals on wheels deliver a couple of times a week & my DIL makes & freezes me lots of meals; my hair dresser and my manicurist comes here so I don't have to be concerned about getting out to them.
ReplyDeleteI never ever thought about my old age! It just happened and so suddenly! I'd say enjoy every single day, you never know when you won't be able to manage. I'm so thankful that everyone helps so that I can stay in an apartment on my own but that isn't going to be for much longer. I will accept whats coming when it comes.
Are you actively looking for another home in town?? It will be so much easier on you if you have a small one, less work and worry.
Have a nice evening Lynda, I'm thinking of you too.
Hugs & love to you, Fred and your fur babies xoxo
Yes Gloria, We have found a bunglow in town--move in ready, so I hear-- and this house will sell, being on the lake-The problem is, we may not get into that house till September--But as long as I am out of here before winter is OK with me--We definitely will not be here next winter-Fred is quite a handful but he is trying-- Yu are so fortunate to have all the help Gloria--It is so so nice that you wrote. Thank yu--Lynda
DeleteI feel for you Lynda…I’d hate it if my brother begged me to rescue him and I simply couldn’t …. Breaks your heart!! You can’t of course; you have your hands full and then some! I hope to not have to go to assisted living but who knows what’s down the road?! Did I see that there is a bungalow available?? Have you seen it yet? That sounds like it would be a suitable solution for you and Fred! Eissa7
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