We have rain falling to-day-- Lopez has been out-- but-- has to go out again--When you look at the child in the below picture, it will make yu smile-- Children are so carefree--Just look at the happiness in her soul!---I hope as the day goes on. I can adapt some of that!
-Looking back, I should've parked our vehicle and just gone inside to straighten out the bill----Himself is still not right--This morning, he is ranting and raving about everything- These are the days I wish I could just run away---leave Himself to try to deal with his life--but--- That is just not going to happen--
Well, Himself is not my enemy, but I must forgive him , for all the back talk he sends my way---but, it would help to remove him more , from situations when he is unable to control his temper---I guess "the bastard" is his temper---towards me--and anyone near him , in a situation where he does not understand--Lord love a Duck!---
#1. We should never be out that late in the day-- Himself's day goes downhill, as the day progresses and he becomes more tired----
#2. It is no use arguing with him, or trying to get him to stop the ranting--I should've just parked the car, and gone in and settled the bill
#3. Perhaps don't take him anywhere at the end of a day---and I must realize that once he is upset about anything, he will not stop-----so---just go home--
SO, last evening, I played the piano way into the evening---9 or 10pm---- did it help me?--sorta--I think--- but--I know Lopez and Beau were both sleeping , when I finally quit.
To-day Himself gets his tooth pulled--- That probably will go well because he likes the Dentist-and, we must move on---I must GET OVER IT!
To-day Himself gets his tooth pulled--- That probably will go well because he likes the Dentist-and, we must move on---I must GET OVER IT!
and--- just get on with this day-
-AND SMILE---- AND BE STRONGER THAN YOU EVER THOUGHT YOU COULD BE!--
-AND SMILE---- AND BE STRONGER THAN YOU EVER THOUGHT YOU COULD BE!--
Love the Pity Train poster. Sure fits the bill for me - I seem to have more Pity Parties as I have aged. You are learning how to deal with the new Himself which is admirable. Keep going along and it will work out. D
ReplyDeleteOh man!! --It definitely is hard--and lonely--dealing with Himself----but--its not everyday--Doncha wish that someone would come in every other day and sit for an hour and have tea--and we could just talk to them?--Crazy-- Lynda
DeleteThat picture looks like my DD when she was about 3 yrs. old.
ReplyDeleteSorry you had such a bad experience w/Himself. Yes, I can definitely remember that Mom’s whole demeanor would topple after about 5 pm. , and more than likely due to being tired, as you suspect w/Himself.
Awwww, glad that you played piano. At least it is something soothing to yo.
Good luck to Himself getting the tooth pulled. Hope all goes well.
Oh boy . . . that last meme is for me all right!
HOPE today is a good day for you.
Hugs
Barb
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yes by the end of the day, Himself becomes a challenge--for me--not every day--but most--He dxid well at the Dentist today--Lynda
Delete((( hugs ))) and hold the little girl in the picture tight!
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DeleteWell darn! So sorry that a trip to McDonald's was such a hassle for you! It sounds like it was a very exhausting and frustrating experience for sure....but I think you have a solution figured out - go earlier and if there is a problem, go inside to resolve an issue! Love the "Pity Me" poster! I need to put it in a frame somewhere to remind me to quit feeling sorry for myself! And I need the poster about not being where you pictured yourself......I was expecting many more years of growing old with my sweet husband - not being a widow and living alone! Hang in there my friend....you can do this!
ReplyDeleteSandra-You are one brave Soul-- Yu do so well on your own--It must be hard I would think--Living with my husband is like living with a child-not like I thought it would be-but--we are doing it! Lynda
DeleteMaybe you could go to McDonald's for lunch? Or just go pick it up yourself? Too bad they don't deliver!
ReplyDeleteMaybe Himself will feel better and be happier when that bad tooth is gone.
Heat index here well over 100F again. Tomorrow it will be a wee bit cooler. No rain, though. That might help the temp but add to the humidity.
All is well with me and Lucky besides dealing with the heat. Last night was the first night I left the A/C on all night!
A bit of Sadie work here. May even fight with my new vacuum cleaner (the swivel part swivels by itself when I want it to go straight!) I will get the instructions out again.
Looking forward to tomorrow when we find out how Himself feels...and you, too.
I wish I could hear you play your piano...such stress relief. I have seen info about a thing called music therapy. That's what you have!
{{{HUGS}}}
Good idea--- lunch at McDonalds--or--just me go--Oh My Goodness--very hot where yu live--Do yu have AC?--Yes, last night I played way into the night--the piano I mean--very relaxing-Lynda
DeleteIt's Kathy. I love the Pity Party posting and also the one suggesting that we let go of the life we expected and learn to find joy in the life we have. Boy, that's my picture right now. So sorry you had to deal with that situation at McDonald's. Although himself is not wrong, I find that young people of today's world aren't as smart as the children we raised to be able to take care of themselves. I went to Subway yesterday and it took the young man (also very new) almost 20 minutes to build my sandwich, which promptly fell apart when I opened it. Oh, and he also talked so softly that I couldn't hear him. The other worker had built 3 sandwiches in the same amount of time. But yes, I'm sure he was very new and being upset with him wouldn't have solved anything! You learned 3 very good lessons yesterday! Hope today goes better!
ReplyDeleteHi Kathy-- Himself did well t the Dentist to-day--- He looked so weak coming out of the chair there-Lynda
DeleteLoved all the inserts today, especially the pity party and finding joy in the life I am living in spite of being way different than expected at 77 yrs.old. I shall be grateful for good health and that I can get out to do what I need to do. Fun, travel aren't part of the equation but thats ok.
ReplyDeleteSorry DH had a melt down at the McDonald's employees. You did learn from that episode and now have plans on how to avoid a repeat.
I chuckled at your note that DH doesn't want to go back to Sr.Center and tells you repeatedly. He'll get used to it and I'll remain optimistic that once he's there he's glad he went.
Playing the piano is your meditation and reset button...keep playing.
Hope dentist goes ok and things are calmer today.
You are amazing and such a positive example to us...every day.
Know that you are loved, strong and exceptional.
Stay cool. Day 4 of 100F and very high humidity. 90F by the weekend.
Hugs
Margene--no travel in our life anymore--If I get to read my book tho, I am happy-Lynda --LOL-
DeleteHe did well at the Dentist--Lynda
DeleteMy oh my, that Sundowner syndrome hits again! So sorry, so hard to accept that Himself is a different person, can’t find the “old” one anymore, but looks the same. So hard on both of you, he’ll on earth. Hope the dentist went ok.
ReplyDeletethe Sundowner thing is real--- The Dentist did go oK-- Lynda
DeleteReally lov e the pity party and the one after. And the little girl certainly makes your day. At least now you know to never take himself to McDonalds in the evening. Hopefully he will feel a bit better after the dentist visit. May this evening be better! Play the piano and relax. Brenda
ReplyDeleteHe had the tooth pulled-- and is doin g OK--and--HIS MOD has improved-- no McDonalds--LOL-Lynda
DeleteIt must have been so difficult to deal with that whole situation! Sometime, though it's hard to do, I just have to close my eyes, imagine the person when they were in their right mind, take a deep breath and move on as it isn't you that the abuse is aimed at. It's the situation, how they feel, and sometimes, you just don't know why! Sundowner syndrome is a very real thing, so just look at it as you did bedtime when the kids were little. Himself just can't be out after 5. Not sure how he'll be when the days get shorter and darker. I just know that after 5ish, I don't ask, don't push and just ignore the words.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry Lynda...I am sure you were embarrassed beyond belief....and I hope those kids did not take it personally...
ReplyDeleteOh dear. Always remember that when you're having to cope with Himself's issues or other problems that these are the things that help us be strong and learn. Sometimes we learn resilience and other times we learn what NOT to do. I got one of my first lessons in dealing with money at McDonalds - as a customer when I was in high school. Always being terrible at maths, I quickly realised it was important to be able to add and subtract quickly and learn to calculate what change I should receive back beforehand - because I didn't like being shortchanged. I've had a rough week too, so your Pity Party Train image was so spot on. My walking and balance is just woeful so I need my walking stick most of the time, and then picking up small objects (like medicine tablets) is really fraught with dropping them and then having to risk falling to pick them up... so when one popped off my desk into my shirt folds, when I went to back my chair up to reach it, somehow I pushed the chair forward and got my wrist, elbow and shoulder crushed between me, the desk and in the case of my shoulder and elbow, my chair and the chair's armrest. I was a zombie yesterday because of it, and today it's just sore. My hand is also weird because of the elbow nerve getting pinched making it make my hand tingle more than it was already. I see a GP about it tomorrow. I feel like I've been in a car wreck and it was only a desk incident. Geez! YOU keep being strong, and I will too. I got the watchband yesterday - it's beautiful and the words Stay Strong are on the inside against my wrist... on the 'good' arm. Lord, LuvaDuck! ((Hugs))
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