It is a new day--a day to get everything right--We have sun--and I believe it will warm up--I have walked Lopez the Chihuahua --twice--and so far, he has not done his business------snd--so far, "the business" is NOT in here---
Yes, the hair got done yesterday--coloured , cut, and set--and I even was able to pick up a few frozen meals while in town--and--- SON#3 was out and brought some frozen home made soups , as a gift , for looking after his dogs-- He didn't need to do that, but, I certainly appreciated it---
I hear that the Grandson is coming out to cut grass soon---That will be a huge help-
--You know, when ever I leave Himself here alone, when I return, himself is "fit to be tied" as Mom used to say--He cannot manage on his own ---worries --calls me--- and --when I do return home, he is so hard to deal with-
-I only get out , without him one time a week---and I certainly pay for it when I return-- I know , it seems to be part of the aging process--It feels like I am dealing with a toddler, at times--Poor guy!--- -I remember Dad, always saying, "Keep your chin up girl!"---
If you, or anyone you know, is living with a family member , suffering as Himself is, perhaps ask if you could help out, by bringing them a coffee-- maybe sit with their family member , so that person could get out-- It sure could relieve a lot of worry when the caregiver has to go out--
I have a workman here repairing a vent on the roof over the kitchen--- It seems like the snow has pushed the rubber sleeve wrapped around that vent, down--allowing snow to get into the vent-- hopefully he can fix it--I hear lotza dogs barking---Good thing we only have 2 this morning, altho it sounds like a pack of vicious dogs------Lord love a Duck--
Enjoy this day--- maybe say a wee prayer--- for peace--LOLOL--- Maybe do not turn on the news--
Oh, Son#2 is off to Brazil again to-night----- Good thing it's not Hawaii---- or Nova Scotia-- It seems there is chaos everywhere right now--
Amen to the help needed by caregivers, such as yourself with your Himself! I am so grateful for the "helpers" I will have on Monday and Tuesday for my little trip to the surgical hospital and the 24 hours after. I pray that I'll not burden them too much!
ReplyDeleteSister's kitties are amusing me in the mornings this week when I head over to medicate and feed them. My own kitties are encouraging in their improving health since their separate little side-trips requiring recovery!
Have a good Friday and weekend ahead, and I'm sure it's a relief that your son #2 is not flying into the chaos!
All the best in those surgeries Barb--Lynda
DeleteLynda...you do need some help for Himself. Hope you can get to that senior center for coffee soon. Must almost ruin your alone time to do hair and nails cuz I know you are wondering what it will be like when you return home.
ReplyDeleteThe death toll has risen in Hawai'i.
I hear Brazil is a great country. There and Peru is where lots of folks retire.
Do you hear neighbor dogs bark to to add to the noise?
I sent you a message on FB, too. You asked on your comment to my comment who Lucky is. He's my flat mate, my current soulmate, my boss...my beloved kitty. The mess he made on the rug wasn't too bad to clean up. I believe he just ate too much too fast.
Strange that one of my errands today is to go buy him more food. I am careful about how much I give him.
Whenever Himself gets 'on your case,' think of the good part...at least you still have him with you. Do you ever ask him to remember things that happened your younger days? Does he remember them? Would that help change his mood?
Sigh. It's sometimes hard to live in the moment like the gurus say we should.
{{{HUGS}}}
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Sad isn't it--the deaths in Hawaii--Aww---Lucky is yer soul mate--how nice that yu describe him like that!--Sometimes I just want to (bash him in the head)-- but--of course I have learned that that is not a good idea--that they wud lock me up--but--- there are days----Yu know, if he could ever hear himself, like he is to-day, he would not like himself--so different than he ever ever was--Poor man--Lets hope we never get like that_--Lynda
DeleteIt's Kathy. Great advice to people who have loved ones needing care. My dad passed away 20 years ago on Sunday. I spent the next 3 years at my mom's home at least once a week. She could drive and had lots of friends who would help but she needed help getting things done around the house. I found 2 pennies this morning and thought of you, and remembering my dad! I hope you get some help with himself so you can have some time for yourself!
ReplyDeleteGlad you were able to get your hair cut, colored and set! You deserve that pampering. AND how wonderful that your DS brought you soup That is love in my book!
DeleteYes, that separation anxiety is part of the dementia. We went through it w/Mom, for sure. There were a few times in the beginning of their stay here where Dad would drive back to IL (boy was I biting my nails w/that one, but he was still capable @ that time). He was gone the whole day and Mom was just besides herself the whole time. NOTHING done would calm her. She’d end up wearing herself out, but that was pretty close to Dad’s arrival back here. **SIGH** I feel for you going through this weekly. YES! The only time I could get out was when the care giver was here for 3 hrs. one day/week. That’s what Mom qualified for. **SIGH** But that was far better than nothing.
Definitely curtailed the TV news. Sending prayers for those in Maui (and other places where they are suffering). My preference these days is to listen to music – doesn’t matter – jazz, 70’s or 80’s, classical, operas. . . it all works to soothe.
And BTW Just a tip I remember now from caregiving w/Mom. She generally would calm down if I put a Western movie or musical (think Singing in the Rain) on. I don’t think she could follow the plot, but it did relax her and probably took her back to what she could remember most, her childhood.
Wishing DS #2 safe travels!
HUGS
barb
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OMG--so yu went thru that separation anxiety also--?-- This has just started--My only day out is my hair day-- so hard eh??The piano seems to sooth himself somewhat--- at least I'm not crying as type-Lynda
DeleteOh Kathy--nice yourDad dropped those pennies for yu! --Ethan came out to do the grass to-day-- nice kid-Lynda
DeleteI am so happy your Dad sent those pennies!--Lynda
DeleteGlad that problem in the kitchen is being fixed today, can’t have that kind of thing going on, thankful you found someone! I need a new gate put in, out of wood, everyone wants a thousand dollars to do it, I can’t afford that! Why is that senior place only open one day a week? Not very helpful. You might have to be the mother, and just take him there! Squeaking or not. And. VIdeo him when he is like that!! Don’t let your kids say you are lying!! Show them! You don’t want your kids forever saying that you instigated him!…..please.
ReplyDeleteHimself is a huge problem --at times--other times yu might--- think there is nothing wrong--seems like he is more like a child as time goes on-Lynda
DeleteLynda, just wondering if you could take himself with you to the beauty shop, since he seems to like getting out???? Otherwise, could one of the grandkids come out and visit with him while you are gone????
ReplyDeleteSo many folks wander off from home when they are like this...I know you are concerned leaving him alone...he might enjoy getting out and even talking to the ladies in the shop...just a thought.
Yes that is a good thought-- taking him to the Hair Lady--only problem is, it is in her home-but that might not be a problem--- Lynda-
DeleteGlad you got out but sorry it wasn't great once you got back home. I sure hope you can find time for coffee with himself at the center. I really want the center option to work for you.
ReplyDeleteNice of son to bring soup. Any time I dont have to cook makes me happy.
Glad grandson coming to mow.
Play your piano.
Hugs
It was a good day Margene-- I've been buying smaller orders of groceries lately-- go more often--It seems not as much work all at once-Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda: That was nice to get some home made soup. Maybe you can bribe himself somehow to go for a coffee at the seniors place by saying you're going to McDonalds or something. Or maybe one of the grandkids could sit with him for a couple of hours. Glad the pilot's not going to Hawaii - it sounds pretty bad. Glad son #3 got out ok. Relax tonight. Hugs Brenda
DeleteHi Brenda--It was a good day here today--How about there?-- Lynda
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