And wee Lopez was whining around 3am--- so there I was out on the front lawn with big Beau and the little Lopez-- They both did what they were supposed to do, then I came back in and went back to sleep--
Yesterday, as you know, was not the best --Himself was certainly NOT Himself--I must order a blackboard, and write down when I have to go to town and where I go--That might've upset him--Anyway, I have a call in for his Dr., from the Geriatric clinic, who , hopefully will pay him a visit-- sooner than later--I need more help here for him--He seems OK this morning, so far--
I have a good book on whatever is happening to Himself-- I am trying to understand what on earth sets all this off. I wonder if it was too much for his brain, his last morning at the Lodge?--- Who knows eh?--I just have to "dance " with how ever he is doing--but-- it would be nice to understand all this more--Maybe all the tests that were ordered earlier , that he refused to get done, should be done now--We might learn more of what is going on in his brain--
The 2 dogs--the big and the little need to get out--You know, the computer guy was here yesterday-- put all my pictures on a hard drive for me-- (Hope I can find them now)---- AND---- I HOPE that I can get some help for himself--AND MYSELF___
**SIGH** Sounds like you had a tough day for sure! HOPE that the power is sorted out by now. Hard to deal with And then, on top of that, Himself not having a good day. *SIGH* HUGS and hope today is better.
ReplyDeleteI HOPE that Himself’s geriatric Dr. can facilitate getting more help for you. YOU DEFINTELY NEED IT! Not sure what tests Himself refused but . . . . sounds like it is time to move on and get them done, especially if it will give more answers that might net him (AND YOU) more assistance!
HUGS to you
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Thanks Barb for writing--Makes me see that people are keeping us in your mind-- we will get thru this--LOL--I Hope!-Lynda
DeleteI applaud your continuing quest to understand this disease and seek help for BOTH of you! My heart, as always, goes out to you as you navigate daily life with a Himself that is clearly NOT himself. Take care of you, Lynda! ❤️ Eissa7
ReplyDeleteYu are so good to write--- We will get thru this--I hope sooner than later-- Hugs, Lynda
Delete((( hugs ))) I sure hope the doctor does come to see the doctor, as you said, sooner rather than later. And I totally understand the striving to understand what's happening with the disease and how it's changing your partner. Hope you get some relief / help and find a path of comfort for both of you.
ReplyDeleteThanks Barb--It's a challenge--Lynda-
DeleteI bet you are tired today after that rough night with little sleep because of all the ups and downs you had! Did Himself sleep through all of it? I certainly hope that you can get some relief from the Dr. It is good that you have a book that explains some of this dementia disease! Hopefully today will be uneventful and maybe you can get a nap in!
ReplyDeletevery tired to-day but I did get a short nap-- All the wind last night kept knocking out the power--off then on--most of the night-- and yes, Himself slept thru it all--I was running downstairs to reset the freezer--so many times--Crazy-Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda: You definitely need to get some help. Hope the book gives lots of info. I think you need to be more persistent with the geriactric doctor to get help, get drugs for himself and tests that he has previously refused. It is not you nor the Lodge that sets him off (I don't think), It's just how the disease works. So stop blaming yourself and trying to see what you did wrong.If the doctor prescribes some drugs - which he should - ask how you give them to him without him knowig he's taking them. i.e. crushed over food or in a drink, etc. Good luck. Hugs Brenda
ReplyDeleteBrenda --I need help--big time--I know that--and I now l know that he should not have refused those tests on his head-- they wudve helped diagnose what is going on in his brain--Yu know in the beginning I didn't believe all the crazy things were signs of his dementia--- I now know he needs some form of drugs--Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda. What a night at your house and after a not good day. Yes, get the geriatric Dr. involved...soon.. At this point, refusing testing doesn't seem like an option. With testing, medication may be available. Stop wondering what YOU did wrong. We don't know what sets him off. We DO know you need help. Best wishes. Know you are in our thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteHoping today is much better and power issues are over.
Try to relax a bit and get in a nap.
Keep smiling, if you can.
Hugs
Yes-the power issues are over--Himself better today--and yes, I need help--but how--and where?-I did get a short nap in tho--That works wonders-Lynda-
DeleteIt's Kathy. Yes, you do need some help but I know that himself won't be happy about that - so you're kind of walking a tightrope, aren't you! I pray for strength for you every day, although I'm pretty sure you're the strongest woman I've ever met! I'm sure deep down himself loves you so much and appreciates all that you do, even if he can't tell you that! Take care - I hope today is a better day!
ReplyDeleteIt was a much better day today-Kathy--kinda always hard tho--as it's not -him anymore-Thanks for being here--Lynda
DeleteMy sister-in-law was diagnosed with early stage Alzheimers and she is on a drug that helps with her cognitive abilities and also on a depression/anxiety drug that has done wonders. Hopefully the doctor will prescribe something. Unfortunately you cannot predict what a person will do with dementia issues. So, be kind to yourself, and learn the gentle art of distracting himself when he gets fixated on something and turns it into a rant.
ReplyDeleteIt is really a "rant"--a terrible rant--- I am hoping the DR will prescribe something to calm him down--Lynda
DeleteI wish I could help somehow Lynda...stay strong ...
ReplyDeleteI don't think it is the lodge nor his brain being over stimulated, I just
think Himself has good days and worse days.
Yes you are so right--according to my book on Dementia--He gets frustrated at life I think--and then has these terrible outbursts--Lynda
DeleteLynda, thank God Himself is better today! I get concerned that it is getting almost too much for you to handle. Is he ready yet to go into a memory care facility like your brother did? I doubt that, but that doctor visit and testing sounds right. Praying for you both.
ReplyDeleteLucky has his vet visit today...if I can maneuver him into the carrier! Tired of cancelling his appointment.
Have already taken 1 friend for her errands. Came home to a request to go to Walmart for another friend (the one I call my 'big sister.') Now Lucky. I'm tired of running around!
We do what we feel we must do, don't we. Many people in my building don't have transportation so they rely on the couple of us that do drive.
My recycles, my vacuuming and my laundry are suffering.
No storms here. It's 73F here, mix of sun and clouds, just a slight breeze.
Maybe call the doctor's office to remind them about Himself?
{{{HUGS}}}
Beau goes in 2 days to the vet--to-morrow to the groomer--and--yes, its hard on one when yu have too many outings --Yu need time in between for "you" to be "you"-Yes I made an appointment for Himself to go to his Dr----LOL--That will be exciting--LOL--Remember the last time I took him to the clinic and he shouted at me in the parking lot--?--Lynda
DeleteLynda, I am so sorry to hear this. It has to be so hard on you to watch his decline. I take a very good friend out weekly because of her dementia. I give her and her husband a bit of a “timeout “. Last week she was placed in respite care because of the husband’s upcoming surgery. I just don’t see her going back home. It just pulls on your heart. Yet, I know that this is the best option for her. She went on the decline so fast.
ReplyDeleteI wish you tons of strength and courage. Also send you hugs and love. It is not easy. I hope that you both will get the help that you need soon.
Jacquie.
Oh Jackie-How good you are to give your friend some "time out" time--There are days I just want out of here-- to be "me"--It is just so terrible to see the person yu fell in love with tell you that he is "going to punch me in my face"-It not only scared me but made me cry-- Lynda
DeleteNew situations and changes in existing ones would trigger my Dad. Perhaps the room rearrangement and the beautiful rug were more than he could process. You never know what to expect which puts the primary caregiver on edge, walking on eggshells. What triggers behavior changes is constantly on the move. Hugs.
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I need all the info I can get on his condition--I thank yu for what yu told me about behavioral changes--being always on the move ---yes it seems that me--the caregiver is treated really awful--Lynda
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