Well, it has been quite the morning--We had about 6 inches of snow over night, fall-- just enough to mess everything up-- I wanted to cry---because--- there was Himself , sitting in his chair stretching--not a care in the world about "ME"---- "THE SNOW OUTSIDE"---"THE HOUSE"--
--I did not allow the tears to fall---- I put that "old witch-y hat " on---- with the voice that goes with it---and told Himself that he must get on one side of our bed and we must make it--together---NO MORE STRETCHING IN HIS CHAIR--- WE MUST GET THIS BABY--(-meaning him!) INTO ACTION---and-- it worked-----that hat works every time--
Plus, I drove up and down the drive, to pack the snow down--so--I can get out this afternoon, for the "hair"-- Lord love a Duck! That is very important!-------
So, it has been that kind of a morning--- on the verge of tears----but--- I overcame those feelings of "being sorry for myself--"---- JUST DO WHATEVER----and forgive those who don't see what needs to be done--They really don't mean any harm---Crying does not help--- because----- WE HAVE TO BE STRONG!
It is "hair day" also and you know how important that is! -----
I can so relate! My patient is my M in L, who used to be so sweet and agreeable. Now when I have to do things for her, like help with her shower, she is so stubborn! She was sick for 2 weeks, so couldn't get it done. Now she just refuses to let me and gets tears if I force the issue. So I guess I will just do as you did and get a hat that says "listen and help me". Keep on smiling and know you aren't the only one :)
ReplyDeleteThank yu-- I guess we all go thru all of this--at times--But--the day turned out well-- Happy that it did-Lynda
DeleteSnow does mean tough times...especially for some of us...worse for you, not too bad for me...yet.
ReplyDeleteYou will enjoy getting out for your hair, that's for sure. A bit of relaxation and, maybe...an errand or two.
I'm getting kinda overwhelmed by this holiday season already. We are supposedly having 3 parties in 2 weeks...to make a dish for. It's not like I don't enjoy them...but how about 1 a month? One is on New Year's Eve...and I gotta go to karaoke then. When do I take a nap? It'll have to be cut the party short.
Today, Joanne (the friend with the bariatric walker for me to load) and I are going to a neighboring town to visit a friend who used to live in our building. Now she is in assisted living. We knew she had what Himself has, now doctor says another kind, too. Maybe vascular as she's been having lots of TIAs. Thing is...she's way younger than me.
One never knows what life will bring. Am taking her a gift and card anyway. That means no nap today, either. I am looking forward to visiting with her and her precious bitty dog. I believe Sophie is a shorkie.
Need to finish packing what I am taking to her.
Have a relaxing afternoon...and we must stay strong! {{{HUGS}}}
So nice to get out-- The town was busy--- Xmas I guess----- You are so good to visit and care for people-- It must help those people--Good for yu-Lynda
DeleteHere ya go, Lynda, a nice padded shoulder with a hug attached, so that you can have that "good cry" to make yourself feel better! Happy to offer it. Getting the hair done helps you feel better, too, so here's hoping for that to work out well, packed down snow and all.
ReplyDelete(( more hugs )) (( just because )) (( strong women deserve love, too ))
Aww Barb-- Thank yu--- It felt good to get out of here-- Lynda
DeleteOh goodness, Lynda! We all have days like that and it is not fun! I hope your hair outing will help you have a better day. Stay safe in all that snow. Sending you hugs and sunshine from Ohio!:)
ReplyDeleteOur snow turned to rain--- I like that--Lynda
DeleteSo sorry it has been such a frustrating morning. Glad that DH helped w/the bed. I HOPE you are able to get the hair done. YOU NEED THAT!
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, a good cry does release some of the pent up tension and emotions. So . . . do it if you need to!
Agree w/OKM – strong women deserve love and hugs!
HUGS and lotsa love coming your way;
Barb
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Thanks Barb-- Hugs to yu too- Lynda
DeleteLoved ALL the inserts. The Scottish proverb cracked me up.
ReplyDeleteI SO RELATE to the obliviousness of the men in our households. Im not a crier...I get mad and put my witch hat on. Very very short lived changes occur but I just can't do it all....although like you I DO.
Enjoy hair day. Getting out helps. I volunteer at a food pantry and go most days to restock shelves to get away and recharge my mind. Its my distraction.
Be careful out there. 6 inches is plenty....hate snow.
Its 65F in St.Louis today. Wish we could keep that.
Hugs
Hugs Lynda....I know how it is....I had to do it all, but David couldn't help it.
DeleteHi Darlene- I figure if we get a good day --- ponce in awhile, it helps--LOLOL_-Lynda
DeleteSo nice that you volunteer-- Getting out really saves us doesn't it?--- I see Himself in a much better light--Lynda
DeleteHi Margene-- In spite of everything--it ended up being a good day--Our snow turned to rain--nice!c Lynda
DeleteLove the post about 8 things to remember. so true. You did a good job at staying strong this morning.Hope you had a pleasant time at the hairdresser.Have a good night. Hugs Brenda
ReplyDeleteBrenda on a scale of 1 to 10--today was maybe an 8-----not bad I guess-Lynda
DeleteThere are just plain "hard days"--but--- then---a few good days--well--OK days---The hairdresser days are great--LOL-Lynda-
DeleteIt's Kathy - Oh, Lynda, I surely understand. Some days I just feel so sorry for myself because I'm upstairs taking care of everything and my husband, who is 4 years younger than me, is downstairs watching things on YouTube or doing whatever he feels like. But then a day like today comes when I don't feel very well, my back has been hurting so much all day and I said "I don't know what to do about dinner because I doing feel like making anything" and he comes back with "Don't worry about it - have some soup and I'll eat oatmeal!" I love that you told himself to get on his side of the bed to help make it! I sometimes think that we women learned that we were responsible for the happiness of everyone which makes it hard to ask for help! We have a new bed and after Tom washed the sheets (he's in charge of laundry) I started to make it. That mattress must have weight 1000 pounds - at least it felt like that to a girl who had back surgery. I told him next time he was going to have to help because it was just too hard to lift the end of the mattress! I'm learning. We can still learn! Oh, and I just love the idea of putting on the witchy hat!
ReplyDeleteWell Kathy--Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't--but--he did help me this morning--- it's hard eh--sometimes I feel all alone and doing everything--(because I am!)-- - Anyway, we got thru another day and I guess that counts for something--LOL-Lynda
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