It does look like a good day---and that -will be just fine---or --maybe it won't be---but--one of those two things for sure--
I have been cleaning, and was so into it--changing the bed---washing the sheets--because, Son #2--the Pilot, and wife, (plus Gerrard , their dog) will be arriving on Thursday--EXCITING!! --AND----They are staying with us here--in this house--even more exciting!--I washed Gerrard's bed and put it beside their bed--(Well, the bed belonged to big Beau)
It is very hot to-day--and we do not have AC--- Remember?--- The fan from the furnace is ordered and hasn't arrived yet-- (because we live near the north Pole--which is in the middle of no where)--
It was important that I clean---and clean --and clean--- Lord love a Duck! --- Son #2 probably will not be as picky as some kids are--- but, it does seem that most grown kids , when they visit their parents, kinda check stuff out--They don't realize there are ways to save energy--and as one ages, sometimes "older than old " people kinda cut corners--like--do nothing---take a day off, and--maybe enjoy just doing nothing--
With all the fancy "DUDS" on, you might be asked for tea---with the new King----- Well, you never know------I best get back to work here--- Enough daydreaming ------
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Lynda, honey, there is never enough daydreaming! Saved the 'protect your energy' meme, though.
ReplyDeleteI know about cleaning and cleaning. Did it for our inspection today. They came in, tested the smoke alarm and left! Didn't do anything else. I cleaned things I normally clean once in months...things I've never cleaned...hid stuff in drawers to look less cluttered, etc.
It's only mid 70s here, partly sunny. No rain yet, but maybe later.
You're' excited about your son and his coming! Is Himself aware and happy, too? Hope Lopez gets along with his new 'friend.' (or have they met before?)
I have nowhere to go today. Gonna eat some lunch soon...probably just bran flakes and fruit.
I hope your furnace fan comes quickly. It is so hard when we have to wait! I'm just happy you didn't need a whole new furnace!
Tomorrow I go back to the Minneapolis Veterans' Hospital to audiology to see why my hearing aids won't charge.
Enjoy your time with your family, sis. Maybe the pilot son will bring some food that he always shows! {{{HUGS}}} Love, Maggie
I love Bran Flakes with fruit--Lopez and Gerrard have met--I am very excited that Matt and Erin, the wife, will be here--AND Gerrard-- Their room is ready and it looks cozy--Poor you with that sill inspection--=happy that is over for now--Matt likes to cook also--Lynda
DeleteIt's Kathy and yes, I admit that although I'm not quite older than old, I'm still old and I cut corners. Like, I really should have cleaned my house yesterday but I rationalized that since no one had been in this house for 7 days I may as well wait until the weekend when my husband can help! Plus, although we've been home 1 1/2 days, I'm still not entirely unpacked! I'm glad your son and dil are coming for a visit. I love it when my son and dil come even if it's just an overnight! Stay cool as possible!
ReplyDeleteKathy you must feel so good after a rest away--just enjoy that feeling-Lynda
DeleteYou made me laugh out loud with your comment about the kids checking things out. I remember a time as I am sure you do as well when my son was convinced that there was something living under my daughters bed from the mess she had under there. Take your day off Mama you earned it.
ReplyDeleteKaren--the kids do check things out--LOL---- Lynda
DeleteLove the ways "to save energy". I fully agree with them. One of my children just left and I know she was thinking that things could be in better shape but luckily she kept her mouth shut - at least to me. I'm 85 and really don't care anymore! This house is too big but I don't plan on moving. So there. My book is more important today than cleaning. Dot
ReplyDeleteDot--- my book is more important than cleaning also--and we are in this house also which is way too large--A lot of us are in the same boat--Lynda
DeleteI'm pushing seventy this year. Several years ago, I simply told my dear daughter and son-in-love that I'm not as young as I used to me. My arthritis is more painful than it used to be. That as the years pass I will need help. (We share a house, which is nice for all of us financially and in terms of helping each other.)
ReplyDeletePrior to that a dear friend and I had been talking, and she said something I'd not considered. 'Our children grew up seeing us and larger than life. Fixer of all things. Capable of everything. Heroes to them as most parents are to their children. We took care of them, did what was needed, loved them, and despite what is plain to be seen ... that we are older, not as physically strong, with less energy and needing their help for some things. Their hearts do not allow their eyes and intellect to properly understand this. It breaks their hearts.
I clearly remember walking out to empty the trash at my parents house when my dad was in in his early eighties. I was there pretty much every day helping him care for my mom, who suffered demtentia. Deaf without his hearing aides, his head bald, instantly making think of a little defenseless bird. He was working on something on the driveway. He did not hear me walk up behind him even as I said hello, emptied the trash, and walked away. I simply cried. I already knew my parents needed my help; I was helping.
But in that moment I understood in a way I never had before that they were vulnerable. That I needed to be their protector. My heart just ached. Our relationship was not perfect, never had been. But they had been my protectors, the ones who helped me, were there in my times of failure and need. Awful as it was, I needed to understand it at it's deepest level in my soul.
I hope you will speak with your son when he is there, that you will ask for help when you need it. And not worry about making the house look like it was when you had boundless energy. Your children may not come through in every situation, may not react well. But I hope you will still help them see that help would be appreciated ... not taking over and pushing you around, but helping out because they recognize the need and their responsibility. If they aren't brave enough to step up... do what you can and let a little dust collect. Give yourself joyous relaxation as needed. Do life your way with or without their help.
Happy Tuesday!
70 is young-- well young-er than me--- I think I am 81 ----hard to believe! My grown kids do not just drop in and ask what they can do-- so--I try not to ask for too much from them--different from my dad --seems I was there all the time--but--I realize that they have jobs and a busy life--and I try to only ask if Im desperate--Yu are o right tho--- The house does not need to look like it used to--or the outside---and yes I try to do as much as I can--but---some things are impossible for me--- Lory Be!!! I enjoyed your comments--Lynda
DeleteLynda, Yes; I only ask for help when there is no other way, so it is rare and they know I've tried several solutions. Sometimes they offer and I take them up on it or say I'm good to go. Sometimes they're horrified at what I've done...like moving the huge solid wood/glass doored book cabinet across the house one day. My knees, shoulders and back told me about that for several days ...
DeleteHi Lynda.
ReplyDeleteHow exciting that pilot/dil and Gerrard will be coming. Although you talk to him frequently, you don't get to see him. Is Fred excited? I'm not sure son will "inspect" lol the house. If he does, perhaps he'll realize that his parents are getting older and it's hard to keep up with everything. My son comments about me being in great shape, and I am blessed. I can do what needs to be done and more. Surely, son will notice Fred's decline. Perhaps, he can come more often. Our kids see us as invincible until we aren't. With all your yard work plus that huge house, you deserve conserving your energy lol. Book. Nap, skipping nonessential tasks.
Great inserts. Love the how to conserve energy...plus things will work out or they won't. We'll handle it, either way. I dress so casual between housework, gym classes and volunteering, I don't remember the last time I was fancy schmantzy....wait, a Christmas party last year. It feels like too much work now. LOL
Hoping your part arrives soon. We expect 102F in St.Louis today which would be brutal without AC.
Do the important tasks and give yourself a nap, book or piano for a bit.
Is your daughter coming at the same time?
Give yourself breaks, drink plenty of water, rest as needed.
Hugs and blessings
Marge in HOT St.Louis
Yes Marge--The Daughter and her 2 grown kids will be here also--She comes out in the day --stays in town at night--Matt the Pilot will sty here with his wife and Gerrard the most beautiful dog in the world==Yes stuff either works out or doesn't -- Who cares I guess--LOL--- AND THE FAN WILL BE INSTALLED IN THE FURNACE TO_MORROW-- Lynda
DeletePS daydreaming is GOOD!!
ReplyDeleteHugs
So sorry that fan has not come in yet, what a blessing it would be if it was in when your son and family come visit. Not sure if your temps will lower by then or not! It will be fun to see your son, does his wife have a British accent, since her parents live in England? Enjoy talking with him about food, maybe he will cook you something!
ReplyDeleteTHE FAN IS IN--Rusty will be here at 9am to install this million dollar fan-- Fast eh??--Lynda
DeleteHi Lynda: Glad son #2 and his family are coming to visit. You don't see them often. Maybe he can help with the fan too! Hope you have nice weather while they're there and not too many mosquitoes. Hope some of the others come to visit as well! Have a good night. Brenda
ReplyDeleteHowdy Brenda--Our Daughter will be here also with her family-- YEAHHH--Lynda
DeleteHow nice that son #2 and his entourage are going to be coming to stay with you for a while. That will be good for you and Himself.
ReplyDeleteOh no! No a/c. That would be hard to take. We have been in the 90’s or close, so a/c is definitely needed.
OHhhhh yes, the kids definitely check things out when they visit. For sure, they don’t realize the corners we sometimes take to conserve energy . . . and we survive it.
PT today for DH. Seems never ending.
Hugs
Barb
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