When I visit my Grand Daughters, and I see them hanging onto a young man, I want to scream at them, that there are so many opportunities in life, AFTER high school, to learn about the world--and don't tie yourself down yet--I know they won't understand ---I know now that the more education a young woman has, the more opportunities there will be in her life in the future.-- I never realized that I had the capabilities to go on to University at that time--When I was in nursing, and my final marks came back, after graduation, the high scores shocked me-- When my children were almost old enough to look after themselves, I signed up for night classes --University courses with a group of teachers who were finishing up their degrees- Women's Studies--English--a science class in Enviromental studies--
I used to be like my Grand Daughters ---I wanted a boyfriend--just like the kids do to-day-- Dad would say, "There are lotza fish in the Sea"--He also had names for various boyfriends-There was "Skip the Drip"--who would come up the beach throwing stones into the lake, hoping I would notice him--then, "Horsey Bill" -who worked in the horse stables--- and eventually, "Fred the Med"--(Himself--)-----
My nursing Degree helped me raise 5 wonderful children-- who all did go on to further education-- Sometimes what they thought they wanted to be, turned out to go in a different-direction--- but, they completed their education and obtained work ----Himself and I were very thankful!---Do you ever wonder about your life , when you look back?--And, what if you really were a Pirate?-- LOLOL
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There're not too many pirates around, are there?-- Now, how did I ever get onto all that?---
We have a coolish day- sun-- --no leaves, and it is beginning to look like winter. - Lopez and I hoofed it up the road--almost in the dark----
Poor Son #2 landed in Toronto last night--and could not get to a gate to unload passengers for an hour-and the plane was full-- People are travelling for sure! ---The Airport must've been busy!
Enough thoughts about life here-- --- I hear Sadie, that cleaning Lady- (who is --well, yu know--ME! )_ at the door-
LOL! A pirate, maybe... amazing what we do and don't accept as reality when we are young, and how much wiser we got as we messed up and cleaned up after ourselves. I am grateful for all the lessons. I have no grandchildren, but if I did, I would likely have those same feelings about wanting them to make better choices than I did (sometimes), learn some lessons other than by experience. But... life is what is... humans learn as we learn, and I do believe the children who are lucky enough to have parents and grandparents who share of theirs own experiences, both successful and not, do better in making choices all their own.
ReplyDeleteHave a wonderful Monday, Lynda. Go help Sadie... oh, my Sadie (who is me) is at the door, too.
My future husband and I started dating and "going steady" when we were freshmen in high school! He was the love of my life! We got married after our junior year in college and were together for 50 years of marriage before he suddenly passed away. We had four awesome kids who all finished college and have good careers....and were blessed with 7 beautiful grandkids. No regrets as I don't feel I messed up by not dating others. I had a beautiful life with a wonderful man.
DeleteAnd it is so good how it worked out for yu Sandra--Yu had all those yrs before he passed-- The good Lord was looking out for yu--truly-Lynda
DeleteOh Barb!-Whatta wonderful comment!-Humans learn as we grow-- --I think winter is around the corner here!-Lynda
DeleteYou had a great career choice, always trying to make people feel better! How wonderful!
ReplyDeletebut--I wasn't a Pirate--LOL-Lynda
DeleteThanks for a great blog! I have no regrets, either. Dorothy
ReplyDeleteFunny how our lives turn out eh?--Lynda
DeleteMy mother always told my sister and me to be sure we could take care of ourselves. She said you can marry the best man in the world, but
ReplyDeleteif he dies, you need to be able to take care of yourself. The result of her counseling? I completed my MBA before marrying and my sister became a lawyer and never married. Unfortunately I divorced after 12 years of marriage and raised 3 children, twin 3 yr olds and an 8 yr old, by myself (he moved out of state and was not involved emotionally or financially in the childrens life), I am forever grateful for her advice. All 3 of my children have competed college and are now in successful careers. Two married and one still looking. Funny how one persons advice can impact generations to follow.
That isa amazing story-- and you are truly an example! Dad used to tell me also that I had to have something to use to find work in case my husband passed --- but I was #3 child, of 5----Nrsing was free --so I jumped onto it-- Lynda
DeleteYES YES YES! There are lotza fish in the sea at your granddaughters’ ages! May they grow to understand that and live life and learn about life THEN make decisions about marriage and families.
ReplyDeleteAll I can say is . . . before I married I got my nursing degree, earned my Masters Degree, traveled (London and Germany and Holland), and met MANY wonderful people along the way. Wouldn’t change a thing. When I look back on my nursing career, I had SOOooooo many experiences – all different – in nursing. Med/surg, ER/ICU/CCU, home health, Quality assurance, precertification (that is one experience I did not enjoy so much) and then helping my DH track legislation that affected health care. If I hadn’t had all those experiences, I would have missed so much. If I’d settled down a moment sooner than I did, I would have missed a lot. AND for sure, always had a job as a nurse.
I often think how awesome it would be for the older us to write to the younger us to be forewarned and forearmed about life as it proceeds on it's path!
Well, hope Sadie doesn’t work too hard!
Hugs
barb
I think we all loved Cinderella. How about Snow White and Sleeping Beauty?
ReplyDeleteOf my four kids, 2 completed college, 2 almost did...but went on to other things. They have both said they would finish "some day."
Weather here is cold, too. Got out a winter jacket for the first time. Snow is coming for sure. We had temps under freezing overnight.
I'm off to get gas and put Heet in the tank. It's hard when you have to park outside...and sometimes have to shovel your car out...with almost no place to put the snow cuz there's cars on either side.
We deal, though.
Hope Sadie doesn't work herself too hard today. {{{HUGS}}}
Don't think I'd want to be a pirate. Prince Charming...well that couldn't hurt.
ReplyDeleteYou have to be able to take care of yourself. No guarantees in life.
I know you were a fantastic nurse as you are so very kind and loving. You raised great kids.
Nice,sunny weather in St.Louis continues.
I have a Sadie too, its me just like your Sadie.
Enjoy your day. Be safe and well.
Hugs
With age comes wisdom, right?? Too bad we don’t have the benefit of life’s experiences when we’re young, like your granddaughters! A story as old as time…. Wouldn’t it be awesome to have 2 lives…the second one where ya could make different decisions than you made 1st time around, if you wanted. Now that’s a daydream, isn’t it? ❤️ Eissa7
ReplyDeleteI was told by pretty much everyone in my family that I wasn't smart enough to go to college. So of course I went - but it was challenging. However, I am the only one of the 5 of us (me, my sister, & my 3 cousins) who graduated with a Bachelor's degree. I went back to the University when my 5 children were rather young. I worked hard at home and also at school - but I did it! Like you, I didn't really think I had the opportunities then!
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