It was so sad to see son #2, the pilot, and his family go home--I love them to the moon and back--and, to-morrow, our daughter leaves, with her family-- It will be even sadder---but-----you know, each grown child has ideas on how "Mom and Dad"---- should do whatever--- and, I listen to all their advice , and they mean well---- but--it kinda floats into my head , and rolls around, and I say not too much, because I suppose they all think they know best------but, at the end of the day, it is up to Himself and I---where we move--or if we stay in our home--or whatever-- LOLOLOL----
They all were in the kitchen this morning, trying to decide what and where we , should be--and do---So, it takes courage----on my part----because they really mean well, and we are trying to find a suitable small place, but, if we are unable to find a place at the moment, we really are OK here , in our home, our own home, for now----we know our home---
"But Mom, what if you can't drive?--- How will you go to town--- ?"---- and the "what if-s" continue---I know all that---
Sad to see your children leave tho isn't it?---They are all really good people----have wonderful families--are successful in their work----and we usually only see some of them once a year--
Lunch time, and here come some of them out here--I best get offa here --- and I must have the courage to keep my mouth shut--LOL
It's hard but, they do have your best interests in mind.
ReplyDeleteThey really do and we love them for it all----Funny isn't life?--Lynda
DeleteThe good thing is that you can just listen and take the ideas that you want to consider or give thought to. Happy for your family time but it is sad to see them go. I hope the fur babies are doing well. I know they enjoyed the other fur babies visit. You know I lost our first yorkie in January at almost 11 years old. Our young one is 7 now. We go back and forth of getting a puppy. Not sure we want to start over on all of that. I wish we had some fur babies to just come visit! lol Have a great evening and don't forget to rest. Hugs from Ohio!:)
ReplyDeleteSo nice to hear from yu--- yes lotza advice here--- LOL---Great family time --lotza dogs-- I loved all of them so much! --was so so good to hear from them-Lynda
DeleteI understand exactly what you are saying. All of my children live away from here (200 miles is closest) and they have great ideas on what I should or should not do. I listen and say "yes, that's a thought" and then do whatever I want! I'm older than you and figure I can decide my future by myself. I know you hate to see them leave but I'm sure you are happy that they have successful lives of their own. No easy answer to any of it. D
ReplyDeleteWow!----- So yu understand-- I know they mean well--LOLOL--- Thank yu for sharing that--I feel better as I was thinking it was my not so good Attitude--LOL--Thank yu-LyndA
DeleteThere is a saying that you should have an attitude of gratitude. And I know you are grateful for what you have going for you, your health, family, and all you do. So I say just be thankful for what you have and the rest will fall into line. Have a great day. D.
DeleteYes, that is true-"Be grateful for what we have"--and everything will turn out right--Lordy Be, I hope so---Lynda
DeleteIt's Kathy - Lynda, I know exactly what you are saying. My daughter and her family were only here for 2 1/2 days but the idea that they had to go back home to Roanoke, VA - which is 1250 miles from me - also made me sad. I know I won't see them at least until next Spring when Faith graduates and we make the drive down there. And yes, having all the children here brings out a lot of Mom, you should..... Seems they forget that we are the ones who taught them the important lessons of life - also that we are still capable of thinking for ourselves! Looks like a lot of us understand! I love when they are here - but I also love getting back to my normal routine! And I have little Daisy to keep me company - she never tells me what to do!!!
ReplyDeleteKathy--You understand completely--Thank you---They have our interests at heart ---but---I agree --we are still able to think for ourselves--LOLOL--You are so funny! ---- what you said is so true--- Lynda
DeleteI understand what you are saying . . . some of the things we do our children don't think we should . . . like when we went to Nort Carolina to get our Newfie dog 6 years ago.
ReplyDeleteI also think you should go back and reread the posts you wrote over the winter when there was so much snow and ice and how you thought this should be your last winter there. Summer good times and nice weather makes us forget what is coming in a few months. Do you really want to go through that again?
Glad you had a marvelous time with the kids all being there.
no---- I don't want to have to go thru that winter stuff ---but I have found a guy with a snowblower who does driveways-for a price---If I could only find a place to move to it would just be the best!--Lynda
DeleteI'm glad you have it figured out as to your issues you have to deal with. But you respect what they say & keep your thoughts to yourself. I used to give my thoughts when my mom was alive & I think we all do that as we age. And I'm by myself now - just me and no one to tell me what I should do so it's up to me. Your kids have your best interests at heart & want to pass on their opinions.You have thought thru most things yourself already. Good luck. Brenda
ReplyDeleteawwwww Brenda--Yes, everything yu say is right--- I know they mean well and I love them for caring so much-Lynda
DeleteThey do mean well. Just as our parents meant well when they would come and take over our homes for a couple of weeks and then leave. Be patient... once they leave, you'll be back to working things out a day at a time!
ReplyDeleteYu are so right Barb--- in one ear--out the other--Lynda
DeleteIn one ear and out the other is how my mama said it. I do that with my kids, too. We raised them up so we know they're smart and care for us. Their lives are different than ours were at their age. You can grab bits of their advise that make sense for you and not them slip out the other ear!
ReplyDeleteI had to go to the Minneapolis Veterans' Hospital today for a blood draw.
The car worked fine all the way there and back. No acceration difficulty. It must have just been the car mat jambed uner the gas petal. You can bet I'm checking it every time I get in the car now.
You have courage enough for you and Himself, Lynda. I have courage for what I need to do. We buck each other up...along with the rest of your followers.
Took friend to the chiropractor and Walmart. Next is my meditation. Peace and relaxation. Love it!
Promise your kids that you will keep in touch and ask the same from them.
{{{HUGS}}}
I like that yu said to have the kids promise to keep in touch--and visa versa--- Yu are a good person--Lynda
DeleteAh, yes, they were throwing out all those suggestions and "what-ifs" -- but think back to even a year ago, when you were desperately telling them you needed help and they were all in denial. At least they now recognize your limitations. You're considering options, kind of, but I'm guessing the "doing okay" in the middle of summer makes you gloss over the miserable months during winter when just getting out with the dogs is a challenge. Sometimes it takes an adverse event to effect a change. Just saying.
ReplyDeleteYes, it is all fun and games, till the snow comes--- I know!--Lynda
DeleteYes, I understand. Its called take what you like and leave the rest when it comes to kids opinions. We can all get bogged down in the what ifs but the bottom line os we'll deal with it if or when it happens.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure its sad for you when the long distance kids leave. You've raised great kids.
Enjoy today.
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Hard to see them go isn't it?--=- And yet, they have their lives--- but--they sure love to get together-Lynda
DeleteAwwwwww, it’s hard to say bye to our kids when they have to return home. You’re right about the kids’ suggestions. Ultimately, it is up to you (and Himself) to decide what will be best for you. Hard to stay quiet, but that’s best. The plus side is at least they CARE!
DeleteEnjoy the day!
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barb
You can only live one day at a time! —-Dorothy
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