Good morning----busy day here--always seems to be---Himself at the Lodge--- (seems very frail)--
Lopez went with me yesterday to the hair dresser ---even tho I needed colour--which makes my appointment longer--but Lopez was good--sat on my lap most of the time--but----- There is always that "BUT"-----
--when I returned home, Himself was trying to cook dinner---The kitchen looked like a disaster area---- Apparently Himself was trying to make chicken soup--somehow dropped a bag of tiny round noodles all over the kitchen floor--chicken pieces were on the counter--pots and used pans were everywhere--I wanted to cry---as I walked thru the noodles--It took a few hours to clean it all up--- 
So, I recognize that life is beginning to change here-- Himself seems so frail---- more so everyday--I really do need someone to spend time with him, when I have to go out---to the hair Lady--
Time to get my head out of the sand and deal with what is going on here--Himself is almost 96 and trying so hard to cope with life, as he becomes more frail---Old age certainly is not easy---I don't believe even my children recognize how difficult his days have become--
Himself cannot cook anymore--- especially when I am not at home--Poor man eh?--He said he tried to clean it up--the noodles on the floor---I even had wet noodles on my bare feet--
--so, his clean up job "was not cutting it"----- From now on--NO MORE Cooking------by Himself--- 'specially when I am not home--
Time to get my head out of the sand and deal with what is going on here--Himself is almost 96 and trying so hard to cope with life, as he becomes more frail---Old age certainly is not easy---I don't believe even my children recognize how difficult his days have become--
-I remember when my Mom moved to town, --after residing in Florida for many many years. I assumed that she was my same Mom--- fit--doing everything--her cooking her cleaning--It was difficult for me to accept that her sight had gone--her ability to read recipes was not there--and Dad and her would arrive at out house, usually at dinner time--- I never clued in that she was older--AND SHE WAS STILL DRIVING-----kinda like me now---
So--- "AGING" --- is difficult for us to accept-------and yet it is a normal part of life isn't it?--
My poor Himself---He is trying so hard to be just as normal as he always was----It's up to me to help him isn't it?--Lord love a Duck!! --- I love him to the moon and back--
OMG! Well, so sorry that Himself made such a disaster in the kitchen for you to come home to. *SIGH* But glad you got your hair appointment and Lopez was able to come w/you. Definitely sounds like it’s time to put that rule in place . . . Himself cannot cook unless you are present!
ReplyDeleteSurprised your kids didn’t see Himself’s frailty when they were there. But then, kids tend to wear rose colored glasses. *SIGH*
Absolutely, aging is difficult to accept. But . . . after taking care of my parents, I can see . . . the consequences of NOT accepting it are far worse. Really.
We all know you love Himself to the moon and back. For sure. And I know HE knows that, too . . . and feels the safe way right back at you! That’s the beauty of love.
HUGS and blessings and more hugs
Barb
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aww Barb-Kids do not notice things--only when they want to see stuff--Lynda
DeleteSis, aging can be hard. That's why I follow the Law of Attraction and focus on what's good in my life, in my situation. I am sure Himself doesn't understand that. You do a bit, though. You focus on the fact that you still have him with you even though he needs more help.
ReplyDeleteIf someone could stay with him when you do hair or errands, it would help.
I saved 2 memes today and will share them.
I've already been out getting gas, taking my wheeless friend on her errands and picking up fish sandwiches for $1.99 for the two of us and JoAnne.
Hope to get a brief snooze in before I will get in the car for an hour drive to see my grandson play baseball! Haven't done that yet this year.
A couple more errands then, when I get home I plan to watch the Olympics Opening Ceremony. Exciting times.
The Obamas finally came out to support Kamala.
Tomorrow is karaoke.
Please, Lynda, find reasons to enjoy your day...remember never miss a chance to dance, to laugh, to love! {{{HUGS}}} Love, Maggie
I want to keep him with me--Yes I do! Yes I wish I had someone to stay with him when I have to go out-Lynda-
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Tough be watch him age-- Lynda
DeleteKeep that good attitude! Aging is difficult, but we all must look for the little joys and keep on moving. I know it is hard to see your husband failing as he ages and know that time marches on and none of us know how much time we or our loved ones have left, but try to focus on things like the fact that he WANTED to cook dinner. :) Unfortunately it created a lot of extra work for you and I bet you did not end up with any chicken soup as a reward. :) You do an amazing job trying to keep it all together.
ReplyDeleteNo--I did not eat the soup-- LOOL-- How dod yu know?--Lynda
Deletehi Lynda: Glad you were able to get your hair done. And Lopez probably got extra attention. Re himself, probably needs to get extra attention by someone who can come around and spend time with him. And if he's getting more frail hopefully you can get him to stop cooking. Can he go to the Lodge more often or no. I'm surprised your daughter didn't notice anything - being a nurse. Hugs Brenda
ReplyDeleteYes he needs to stop cooking-- - Lynda
ReplyDeleteVery good tho--93 is a very good age--Lynda
ReplyDeleteAww Kathy--Thank yu- Yu pray for us?--so good of yu--Lynda
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ReplyDeleteSorry about mess you were greeted with at home.
Hope your day went well
Marge/ST.LOUIS
This post triggered memories for me of my own dad's decline... I did not want to accept that he had "forgotten" how to operate his computer/write e-mails, etc. Even though he flat out said so. But looking at some of the last few emails he did send... it was obvious that this man who had once been a reporter, photographer, and editor of in-house publications... was, in fact, losing his edge. Sigh. He was gone within six months of my accepting this fact. Sometimes it takes us a long time to accept that the "immortals" in our life, aren't.
ReplyDeleteHugs & hope that despite the grief of acceptance, some peace comes with it. May you find the help that is needed, both for you and for Himself.