We sold the house---- It is sold!!! That is why no blog this AM---- Of course we didn't get what we wanted, but enough--- so, that is pretty good--We have to be out of here by Dec 9th---lots to do before then----
Am I happy about the sale?-- Yes, If we held onto it , we might've gotten more offers--but---but it is good to know it is sold--- We sold it in a week---
It hs ben a difficult day-- Of course not all my children agree that moving--selling the house--is a good thing--but- that is why I didn't get to blog this AM---It was kinda a shock that we actually sold the place--- our family home--- but----life does go on---- in a different way--and I have to accept --and believe--that this will be a good thing--Himself will be 96 yrs this weekend--I will be ---81 --no--82--or is it 83?--LOLOL---(Holy cow! We ARE old!)----
So, I decided to Send some of my favourite pictures-----
Just look at that dock---
Always a good life--with our family---
So--life just goes on and on----- We are so fortunate----everyone of us!
Hi Lynda! I figured you had doings going on today after accepting the offer. Sorry to hear not all the kids agree on the sale. BUT, it’s you doing everything so make things easy for you and Himself. You have Matt above you and all will be fine. Will you miss some things? Of course! Will you miss all that work and worry? NO!!! So, yay! Happy for you! Lovely day in Ohio. Leaves blowing everywhere but sunny so all is well. Hugs to you! Breathe. Relax.
ReplyDeleteHi-----Yes we accepted the offer and we move on ---kinda a strange feeling but--I do wish we had one it sooner--Lynda
DeleteCongratulations! So happy for you! You did the right thing by selling now! Moving isn't easy, but it will help you get rid of things you won't need at your new home! Having less to take care of and be in charge of will lighten your load! So proud of you for making such a big decision! Wishing I lived closer to you so I could help you pack up and move! Remember, sort into Keep, Donate or sell, and trash containers/boxes to get a headstart on moving! I have found my kids don't want a lot of my stuff as I am downsizing, so those things are getting donated or trashed because I am tired of taking care of all this stuff! Good luck! You got this!
ReplyDeleteSo true--The kids don't want our stuff---Lynda
DeleteCongratulations on the sale of the house! You have spent a couple of years contemplating this, and now decisions have been made and action taken. I am sorry that all the children are not on board, but the house cannot be split up between them, you cannot keep the house and move to someplace easier to manage, so you have done the right thing. And, they will appreciate not having to clean out that house when both of you have passed on. :) Keep up the good attitude and look to the future, not the past. That house served you and your family well, but it is not what is needed now. Hugs! The really difficult stuff starts now with moving and more decisions! So glad you have been decluttering and downsizing.
ReplyDeleteYers I hope it works out--Lynda
DeleteCongratulations! That takes some doing, getting a house sold when you need it to be sold! Here's hoping for a smooth transition to the next phase of life for you and Himself.
ReplyDeleteHopefully it all works out Barb--I think it will----Lynda
DeleteCongrats, the new Good Life is ahead for you & Himself. I am surprised you don't have all the support of your kids, but then you are fully capable of making the right decision. And with Son #2 & wife to watch over you, less work to wear you down and perhaps even a new social scene for Himself. God Bless You!
ReplyDeleteDeb----- Funny eh that we are going into very small apartment--but--I feel it will be OK--- not as much work--Lynda--
DeleteLynda, that is such wonderful news, and yes, YOU are stronger than you think. You really are an amazing woman, and you made the best decision for yourself and Fred. Sorry some of the kids are unhappy, but you could not keep doing all that you were doing. Everything fell on you, and on occasion, someone you could hire. You'll be busy in the weeks ahead, but you'll be celebrating your birthday in your new home. Bless you.
ReplyDeleteYes a home very much smaller!---But that is OK!! --Jut hope it all works out--Lynda
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ReplyDeleteI'm so happy for you! You will have such a wonderful new beginning to the year. And things will be so much easier for you, but in the meantime it will probably be hard work but that work is going to pay off so much. Sending you lots of love and hugs!! -- Gaelyne.
Gaelyne -It"s you!!! And I need to write yu--- How are yu doing?Yes se are moving--"Downsizing"---scarey!----but----a good thing I thonk-==SO Happy to hear from yu! Lynda
DeleteIt's Kathy. Congratulations!!! And in only a week when your home was on the market for such a long time earlier! This is God's plan for sure! I'm sorry your children can't all be happy for you but their parents are what's most important. You all will always have your memories but not it's about taking care of yourselves and each other! Court didn't go so well today, Lauriellen's lawyer had a family emergency so he couldn't be there. They filled in via zoom with another lawyer who knew nothing and never even talked with her. Now they have another mediation of sorts but this one has to be held in the courthouse face to face - Laurie doesn't do well that way. The next date is Jan 17. At least she has 3 months to get ready for it! I wish I could come and help you!!!
ReplyDeleteAwwww Kathy--Yu need to mend--- but if you want to come here--yu know yu are welcome--LOL--Sorry about yer daughter but--she will get thru this--Hugs Lynda
DeleteAwww Marge--It will be different for sure!---It seems quiet --Quiet is good I hope!-=-LOL Lynda
ReplyDeleteSuch good news Lynda. Moving is up there with one of the most stressful things in life. Hopefully you get through it with flying colors as you've done over the last many years. And once you're in your new place you'll get settled and Himself will get settled. Wishing you all the happiness you deserve. Your kids will come around. Hugs
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ReplyDeleteAs Tony the Tiger woud say "GR-R-R-E-A-T"!!!
A cousin, 89, and his wife, 85, live in a retirement community I've had my eyes on for 20 years. As we have checked out a move there over the past few years, they have been full of wise and practical information. They moved there in their 70's from a 5K sq ft custom-built retirement home. They were avid antique and art collectors and did not want to part with any of it (children uninterested) so they put most of their things in a temperature controlled storage facility and rented a 1,250 sq ft condo to get a feel for downsizing and the community itself. Then they built a 3,500 sq ft house and placed their most-prized possessions in it and sold the rest in an estate auction.
Our plans to move there for lower taxes, lower traffic, no nearby trains or airports, slower pace of living, etc., etc., hit a snag with our cancer diagnoses in April 2023 and desire to keep insurance and docs we have.
You will have beautiful fall colors in Lakefield, less snowfall, places to explore and so much less hard physical work for yourself.
Crazy days ahead to get things done but keep your eye on the positives.
Susan, Central Texas
Susan--nice to hear from yu-- Poor yu 2 with the diagnosis of CA--How are yu doing?=--- Yes I believe this move will make our lives easier-Lynda
DeleteCongratulations! Life will be easier for you in a smaller home. 💖
ReplyDeleteJeanne --(My middle name is Jean)--Yes it will be a good move-Lynda
DeleteSo thankful the house is sold and the question of "to move or not to move" is over. Does Himself understand what the changes are going to be? He (and you) will be happy to be so near your son #2 and to see family on a frequent basis. If the others aren't happy, maybe they will realize that if they had been of more help to you, you might have stayed put. That's all water over the dam now and the work will begin for you with sorting and packing. Will you see the new apartment before you move? You have a little over 6 weeks to plan this. I know it is hard to leave but just how much did you go down to the docks these last 2 years? The yard was great with the family growing up but it's time to move on now. A quiet town will be fun to explore. Dot
ReplyDeleteYou are so right--I never even swam--only went to the dock a couple times to make sure the waterfront looked OK----It will be a good move-Lynda
DeleteCongratulations on selling so fast, get out before blizzards appear. Your kids being disappointed is not unusual, they loved to be there, served hand and foot by you, my dear, and that is not fair. You deserve to live the life you have left, without hours every day working on taking care of that huge place and yard, and taking care of your mate that has failing health! It’s, 2024, for heavens sakes! I thought Canada had such a great healthcare system? So they would have paid for Himself to be at a comfortable place by now? Thank heavens Son#2 will be around to help you, such a difficult job. Take care, my dear,
ReplyDeleteThank yu and I believe it will be a good move--once its done--LOL--- Nice to hear from yu--Lynda
DeleteWow Your home sold quickly. Hope y'all get moved before the snow flies....keep us posted as you can.
ReplyDeleteHappy for you, taking care of Fred and the big house was too much for one person.
Darlene--Yes we are out of here--- excited!!! a good move I hope!--- Lynda
DeleteI echo what everyone else is saying -- we are so proud of you for making this decision and acting on it! I do hope the local "kids" will help with the clearing out of the house; or if not, maybe The Lodge knows of services that can help clear/sell stuff/etc. during this transition. It makes me kind of sad that Son #2 seems to be the only one of your children who recognizes the reality of what you have been dealing with as far as managing the house on your own and trying to handle Himself's dementia. Your daughter is the most surprising, I think, with her own medical background; but I have seen in my own life that sometimes those in the medical field are in the most denial when it comes to their own parents. The next month will be a whirlwind for you, and then you will get through the days in a fog right after the move as you acclimate to your new home and area. But just think: NO MORE SNOWBLOWING OR GENERATORS! You are an inspiration, and you can do this! / Leslie
ReplyDeleteLeslie---- Yes--a good move for sure! --a positive adventure! --- Less snow too! ---And Son#2 found the apartment---so--it just feels right!--- Good to hear from yu--Lynda
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ReplyDeleteThe grapevine let me know you had big changes in store. Congratulations on getting the place sold. What treasured memories you have to enjoy. Warm wishes for as smooth a move as possible, and happiness to you and Himself living this next phase of your very good life. Hugs, Ace
Alicia---Its you----always happy to hear from yu--How yu be??? -Lynda
DeleteSo happy for you that you are happy the house is sold. Moving on from a home full of memories can be difficult, but that you are fine with it says you made the right decision, and that the time was right. Congratulations 💫 Carol in FL
ReplyDeleteThanks Carol!!! WE are happy with the decision--excited--Lynda
DeleteOh Lynda, I am sooooo glad that the house is sold. Such a bittersweet event, but now at least you and Himself can move on. I HOPE you have someone hired to help you packing for the move. Wishing you and Himself all the very best. And it’s a blessing that Son #2 and wife will be there for you in your new location.
ReplyDeleteAs far as what the childrens’ thoughts are about selling, well . . . as everyone, they’re entitled to their opinions and that does NOT mean you have to agree, nor SHOULD you. You are doing what is best for Himself and you. Yes, with Himself turning 96 and you ‘in your early 80’s’, you are doing what is the best for you both.
God’s blessings! HUGS
Oh, and you may remember WATERMELLEN (Ellen) from Spark People. She asked to send you her best wishes!
Hugs and blessings
Barb
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Yes Barb--a good move for sure--Yes I remember "Watermelon"--How nice of her to write! -Say hello to her for me--Lynda
DeleteI am so happy that your home sold so quickly this will be the best move for you and Himself now you will have some much needed rest and help moving is never easy but it is necessary
ReplyDeleteIt will be a very good move!-Lynda
DeleteOh, Lynda, you made a wise choice to sell the house. You aren't getting any younger and how much longer can you go on doing all that work? Keep your happy family memories that were had while you lived there and make new happy memories in your new home.
ReplyDeleteI think it would be wonderful to live so very close to family, then you know they are always there if you need them. And with so little work for you to do, you'll have to catch up on reading, learn some new ways to fill in your time. Lovely that it won't have to be filled in by working!
I'm excited and happy for you!
Hugs & love coming to you & Fred, Lopez & Sushi xoxo
Gloria-I appreciate your kind words SO SO much! --Thank yu for telling me that I made the right decision--We took a $$$ loss --to sell this house, but I am happy that the good Lord helped us out!-- It will be a good move--Son#2 (Matt) is happy we will be in his neigbourhood--How close are yu o Lakefield?--- Peterbough ?? Lynda
DeleteYay!! One hundred percent sure that you made the right decision….lots of good memories so it will be difficult to say good-bye…but…you’re off to a new adventure filled with opportunities for more fun and much less work. Thank God you will not be shoveling snow and ice this winter!!!
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There IS A GOD up in Heaven isn't there?--Lynda
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ReplyDeleteWatermellen here -- and congrats to you, Linda. Change is tough, selling the "family home" is tough, kids may not "agree" but you are the one dealing with the day-to-day situation and YOU know what's best (what's even "doable") for you. Hell in the hallway as you make the transition, but you will get there. All of us are rooting for you!
Congrats on the sale of your house. It was the right move as there was just to much work and upkeep for you. It will be a big change, but once you get settled so much less stress!!
ReplyDeleteDidn't see this one last night, but I saw on comments that you had sold your home! What a shock...so fast! Now the hard work and fun starts.
ReplyDeleteWhen is the closing? When do you have to be out?
Wish I could come and help pack, deal with stuff, etc. Wish your son could just fly you all and your paraphenalia to the new residence!
Cheryl, one of my adopted daughters, is picking me up in a few minutes to take me to get a new car battery. She will install it.
What would we do without our friends and families?
Good luck, my sweet friend. Hope you have time to keep us posted on how the move is proceeding. {{{HUGS}}} Love, your sis , Maggie
Pretty day here. Sunny, but not too cold. Rain is expected later, however.
Hope your weather co-operates with you on your new path.
Maggie --I can't nd your comments-- Are yu OK??-- I sure miss yu--- I have tried to call yu but its not going thru--Can yu email me-- fldunloplake@vianet.ca
DeleteCongratulations to you and himself! I know it's a huge, life changing event - but also what a load off your mind! Me and the hubs are so happy for you. On to the next chapter!! Many hugs!
ReplyDeleteOh, what a blessing that the house sold so quickly! Yes, it's less than you wanted...but living in a smaller place will cut down on heating and cooling expenses, cleaning and yard work for you! And hired work that you're unable to do.
ReplyDeleteYour children probably find it hard for the home they grew up in to be sold, that's pretty common -- an emotional thing I think. (We moved all the time, so I never had an attachment to a family home.)
I always enjoy the picture of you and Himself in the snow when you were young ...
I agree with what someone else said ... hopefully you can have someone professional help you with the sorting/selling/packing ... such a huge undertaking when you have a large home you've lived in for many years. In the states, where I live, one can hire auction companies who do all the sorting/selling/hauling away for a percentage of the total sale. It's steep, running between 30-40% of total sale proceeds, but they do all the work and you just make sure they understand what you wish to keep.
I know this is a stressful/joyous/exciting/sad all mixed together time ... but you will get through it. I'm so excited for you, and will be praying for all issues/snags to be sorted with minimal stress. I'm so looking forward to what is going on with you a year from now!!!
Lynda, I am overjoyed for you! Marti
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