Himself is not doing well-- It began last night-- imagining crazy stuff --about me-- so afraid that I am going to leave him--that I am having some crazy affair (at my age of almost 80 yrs?)------It is very sad--- I have a call in for his DR. to call me-- I want to know the results of the brain scan--and the Lab tests--and I want to know how to help him--
This poor man has raised 5 children, successful children---His personality has always been very caring-- very family orientated----I feel so sorry for him-- nothing I say helps him---
Anyway, I shall change the subject here-- We have sunshine--and the temperature is not too bad.-- I really believe that spring is in the air---even tho we still have 6 ft of snow everywhere.--
Yesterday I did get out for a hairdo-- It was wonderful to chat with the Lady before me, and the Lady after me , at the hairdressers--And when I returned home , everything seemed okay--
So sorry to be so "Down" here--- I know things will improve--I know his Dr will eventually call--or come out--- and the day will be better---Lord love a Duck! ----Maybe I need to visit the Wizard of Oz--- I heard he gives out "brains"---in the land of Oz---Oh dear--- I shouldn't even make light about this eh?
I am so sorry…. I wish I had answers and help. Thoughts and prayers sent to you. It is a tough road. You have many friends who are here.
ReplyDeleteSpring is close! The sun will shine! And then you will have those pesky black flies!😂🤣😂
Oh dear Lynda. So sorry. MANY prayers and hugs. This is absolutely difficult. Hope you get an answer from the Dr. soon. So challenging to wait when Himself needs help NOW.
ReplyDeleteGlad you got some pampering in. You deserve it.
And it’s OK to have a sense of humor. Helps us through dark times!
Hugs
Barb
1crazydog
So sorry to hear this news! My thoughts and prayers are with you and Himself. Hopefully the Dr will get back to you soon with some answers and suggestions.
ReplyDeleteSo so sorry to read this Lynda. My Mom had the same symptoms for years with dementia. She accused my Dad of cheating, that he was trying to poison her, that someone shot her. We had to deal with this for a long time. After my Dad passed it only got worse. She used to call the police and tell them that she was shot. You don't know how many times I was called by the police to come and take care of her. Eventually we had moved her to my sisters. Contact with people was the key here because she lived alone for a long time before being forced to move into my sisters. Long story short after that move she calmed down and really did start to get better. She would have her moments but for the most part until the end it was okay. Hang in there Lynda. I know that is easier said than done. Hopefully you can have more contact with people and that might help him. A change in scenery also helps or at least it did with my Mom.
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ReplyDeleteI am sorry to hear of your husband's health problem. I hope things get better soon for you both!
ReplyDeleteHugs dear Lynda. Try not to engage...redirect conversation or walk away. Hoping you get direction from the Dr. soon.
ReplyDeleteGlad you got out and got to socialize a bit yesterday.
Hugs dear lady
Sometimes "making light" is what keeps us sane in the dark times. Hoping your DH's doctor contacts you soon, and that you continue to get support.
ReplyDeleteOh Lynda, how terribly sad for you and for Fred too. I pray the doctor comes up with good suggestions. This is a bit too much for you to handle alone.
ReplyDeleteLove and many hugs to you and Fred. xoxoxoxoxo
Oh no. . .I feel so sad for you having to go through this. Are you keeping track of when this happens and how long it lasts? It may be of help to the doctor and you if you can find a pattern or a trigger. You said you were out yesterday. . .did it happen last time he was left alone for a period of time? Just know we are all here for you to talk to anytime.
ReplyDeleteI am hoping this is helpful for you: https://www.colemanadultday.org/what-is-sundowners-syndrome/?gclid=CjwKCAiAjoeRBhAJEiwAYY3nDPSBEeXxzYUi0OAjXHdfxhMX9_377lZzywM4eO-v_-STIrnddI8T_xoC8LEQAvD_BwE
ReplyDeleteI hope you have a better day tomorrow. --- remember, when Himself is like that he doesn't know what he is doing ---- he is in "another place". May you have a good weekend. Hang in there! We care!
ReplyDeletePraying the doctor has called by now and he can help Himself. Keep reminding yourself it is NOTHING you have done and he does NOT KNOW what he is saying. It is the disease that is talking. I know that will be really hard to remember by to save your sanity try to remember it. And unfortunately, there is nothing you can do for him but lets hope the doctor can help him. I know if himself knew what he was saying and doing he would feel horrible.
ReplyDeleteYou need to vent and we are here for you.
Be extra good to yourself as you walk this difficult path
((Hugs)) Very glad about the nice time at your hairdresser!
ReplyDeleteLynda, I am so sorry to hear this. Himself has been your "rock" for so many years. A doctor that so many people have gone to for help. I can't imagine how difficult this is for you. My husband was very ill a few years ago - he just seemed to give up. I tried tough love, I tried comfort - nothing I did helped. I felt so helpless and I can only imagine that you feel the same times 10! Please know that we are here with you in spirit, if not in person. I hope the doctor has reached out to you by now! You and Himself will be in my prayers!
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry this is going on again. Hope the doctor comes by or does Something to help. So hard on both of you, though. Hugs to you!
ReplyDeleteLynd so sorry to hear this. Unfortunately this is the way it goes I believe. Hopefully the dr. has got back to you or will soon. Maybe there is medication he can prescribe to help him. You do have to be able to get out for various reasons and to see others. Can a family member come and visit when you have to go out when he having a session? Just remember to never inflame a situation and look after yourself. You know you always have all of your friends here to vent to! Take care.
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed a visit to my hairdresser this week too. I am sending you lots of virtual hugs.
ReplyDeleteSometimes laughing helps relieve the stress, even if it seems "wrong," do what you need to do to be okay.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for you Lynda. Like the others sending lots of love and prayers to the both of you. It's hard not to take what "Himself" says to you personally and to heart. It's hard to remember that it's not them thinking this it's the disease. I hope you both have a better tomorrow.
ReplyDeletePrayers and hugs for you my friend. Here is a thought, find out if there is a support group or a class you could take (some may even be on line.) A support group would help you not feel alone and you may learn how they handle situations. A class could help you understand what is happening with Himself and this also could help in learning coping strategies. Either one or both could be a good resource for you.
ReplyDeleteKeeping you in my prayers and in my heart
Beth M.
Hugs to you Lynda. Wishing Himself more good days than bad with this awful stuff.
ReplyDeleteGood you got out to get your hair done - good for your soul too! My hairdresser left her career recently after so many years - it was hard on her body. I miss her! We chatted and commiserated (our moms both suffer/ed the same illness as Himself). Now to find another.
Lynda, you and Fred are in my thoughts and prayers daily.❤️ You have so much on your shoulders....I hope that the test results will be helpful! Eissa7
ReplyDeleteLynda, you and Fred are in my prayers...praying he stabilizes once
ReplyDeletehe can get outside more and perhaps the kids/grands visiting will make
a difference. Sending love.
Yes, Lynda, you should make light of your situation. We need to do that...to focus on whatever positives we can find. Himself does have better days...and so do you.
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